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2023.06.04 05:54 jhy12784 Legendaries dropping nowhere near me

I've noticed at times piles of items nowhere near me (ie looks like a looted a chest somewhere I've never been)
I just went to a new zone, looked at the map, and there was 3 orange stars spread out all over the place., all places I've never been before.
It's not like I was really close to someone fighting, I'm talking like 3 seperate legendaries at completely different locations nowhere near me
Is there some kind of funny bug as far as loot?
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2023.06.04 05:54 Hranz Employer wants me to fill out a W9 after changing states

Hi all. I'm not really sure I understand what's happening. I've tried to read up on as much as I can, but this is over my head. I've seen a post that might be similar to what I'm going through from about 30 days ago, but I want to double check (sorry I'm on my phone and I don't know how to tag other posts and such).
I started with this employer working remotely while in a different state than my employer. The team I'm on also works in different states, and we have some employees that work in different countries. When I started work a few years ago, they registered to do state withholdings for me. I've gotten W2s with this employer, they dictate my schedule (we have daily required meetings), provide training, and mandate regular training (on their dime). I do use my own equipment, but when I was hired I was told they could send me company equipment if I wanted. They require me to follow a leave policy for vacation and sick leave. They tell me how I should go about my work, and have me gather requirements from different departments for major projects for my employer.
From what I've read, I would say I'm an employee and by no means an independent contractor.
All of this was in one state, and since I work remotely I figured I can change states to be closer to family and continue my employment. I spoke with my supervisor and he came back saying they don't file California taxes and I would have to do my own withholdings. This was all I was told over a month ago, so I figured it was fine to initiate my relocation and I could figure out just the state withholdings. Last week I got an email from HR about 2023 health benefits (which felt out of nowhere, but know I'm not sure). After I got to California i got a call from our director of operations (I have no idea what this role means) and he said that they want me to fill out a W9, would no longer get 401k benefits (he specifically said to place that money into an IRA account too), would have no health insurance through the company anymore, and would have to do all tax withholdings for state and federal. He also said that they do this for all California "employees". He did say they're increasing my salary by 20% as compensation, which I think isnt going to be nearly enough.
Other than the state I'm in, nothing has changed as far as what's expected of me.
The other thing that I'm not sure matters is that I think the team I work for is under its own company, and the parent company does the payroll for all US employees. I can check and expand if this is actually important.
I don't think my immediate boss expected this, to happen so I'm going to have a vague conversation with him on Monday.
I'm being asked to fill out a W9, should I comply? Does it mean what I've taken it to mean (them trying to misclassify me as an independent contractor)? What are my options if this is as bad as I think this is?
Sorry about any formatting issues.
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2023.06.04 05:53 catofthecanalsx Pairing bupropion with an anti anxiety med?

I’ve been on 300 mg of bupropion and 25 mg of adderall xr for nearly two years and while these meds have greatly improved my mental health they haven’t done a thing to help my anxiety lol. Honestly I feel that my anxiety has gotten 10x worse now that my depression and adhd isn’t taking over my life and it’s getting to a point I just can’t handle it anymore. I’ve tried managing it with therapy/journaling/lifestyle changes etc, but it’s just not helping. I really want to avoid SSRIs if possible because of the common side effects like feeling numb/no sex drive. I have persistent depressive disorder so my depression was honestly just constant low grade depression and I always felt numb and disinterested in life and I don’t want to add meds that could make me feel that way. It’s why I chose bupropion in the first place. I’m considering asking my doctor about Buspar because I’ve seen it recommended quite a bit with bupropion and I’m wondering what’s everyone’s experience with it? (Or other anti anxiety meds)
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2023.06.04 05:53 RadicalDishsoap Changes to how 94.5 should work.

Changes to how 94.5 should work.
Since 1.0 both sides have agreed that cheap 94.5 mm have pretty much killed tanking in Foxhole. With the up coming nerf to the STD it got me thinking about writing this post. Now since 2019 I have played Foxhole on and off, it has been my main game until I get burnt out and forget about it. In my time in foxhole I have played both Colonial and Warden and have seen what its like on both sides of the war, so I know what its like to get your tank killed by one of these pieces.
Now on to my suggestions.
My first suggestion would be a rework on armor on battle tanks and super heavy tanks. The role of the 94.5 is to kill heavies, but in practice they end up killing every tank and these armor suggestions would give a role for these ammo types to fill. So lets talk about tank armor as it is currently. Tanks have Hit points, and Armor hit points as well as a flat armor value. The more armor you have, the less damage you take. With fresh armor you have a high bounce chance for AP weapons, and with no armor you have almost no chance of bouncing those rounds. Tank armor is why machine guns do so little to you, bit shred armored cars. Now my change would be to add a new armor to the game. Heavy tank armor. This change would cause a massive reduction to normal AT weapons. They will still do damage to it, but not nearly as much as it is now. This change would cause frustration at first. With infantry at weapons and normal tank rounds not doing damage. But these tanks are suppose to be scary, they are suppose to be oppressive. They are suppose to win pushes. Now I’m not saying that this new armor type would render normal AT usless. There would just have to be more coordination to kill one. Which leads me to my 2nd change.
The 94.5mm and 75mm rounds
With the new armor being added, we would need a 2nd value or a bonus for 75mm and 94.5mm platforms against heavy armor, they do the full damage that they do now, but in cases of the STD and the Stygian it would turn it to its more designed role, sure they would be still scary, but. If a Super heavy is pushing or a battle line of battle tanks invade, these will be the guns that you reach for to kill them.
The change I would make to the Stygian would be the same low velocity nerf to the STD. It would still be a powerful round, but would be better used to kill the Battle Tanks that tanks now do less damage to.
This low velocity change would not be applied to the Predator, the BTD or the starbreaker.
This change would also buff the stockade and the BTD as well as all BTs, but, I think that they need buffs anyways.
TLDR Add new armor, add new bonus for 94.5, we are back into the BT meta but can kill them now.
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2023.06.04 05:52 Objective-Story138 The moon just glitched.

So I was out in the country at my family's farm today and into the night. As I was picking up a few things around the pond house I noticed the moon was reddish and super bright. It was only about 1/3 of the moon though definitely not a full moon! I only remember this because I was going to ask the kids who could find the moon the fastest and show them how bright it was. However the kids were not near me at the moment and I carried on doing what I was doing not thinking anything of it. When we got into the car on the drive home my husband mentioned how it was a full moon and it was so bright. The Moon was the same reddish color and super bright but it was definitely a full moon and not what I saw about 1.5 hours before that. The Moon was in the same direction in the sky. I was also sober as I was the DD tonight. I don't take any medication. What the hell happened? I'm so confused.
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2023.06.04 05:52 Dapper_Speed_8988 Crazy SWAT standoff near me in the valley

Got a warning about SWAT standoff out here in the valley and it’s super close to where I live. Crazy.
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2023.06.04 05:52 NotSoWellAdjusted I feel like I'm living in a horror movie...

...and it all seems like some sick joke, waiting to see the next big "climax". Each is more drastic than the last, as if life itself is trying to push me towards a mental break of my own.
I was never the most social type. I chose my friends early, kept them, and have maintained a few over the last decade or so. I can count my close friends and family on two hands, and that's the way I like it. But almost 9 years ago, one of my closest friends passed away after a long struggle with illness and addiction. He experienced a psychotic break due to amphetamine abuse, during which he experienced delusions and auditory hallucinations of his closest friends dying in torturous ways. His experience opened my eyes to another perspective to both drug abuse and the brain itself.
Fast-forward about five years, and I’m on the phone with my brother N. It’s late night, and he’s at his new apartment all alone. He hears my other brother B and his partner C (who live in a different state), saying terrible things about him in the hallway and he can’t believe they would fly such a distance just to torment him. I’m talking him through the experience, but he’s trying to snap photos of them from over the balcony, and I need to get off the phone and get in contact with somebody who can reach him faster than me.
Thank God my parents listened to me, and left their concert early to intervene. They drove him to a hospital, and after a few days, he came home. He got the hallucinations under control, but I still couldn’t wrap my head around the fact that I knew two relatively healthy young men who experienced these severe mental episodes. I just thought, “why does this keep happening to people around me?"
Of course, this is all before B.
I remember when C first reached out to us to explain the problems that B started experiencing. Prior to this, when he’d come to stay for a month, he exhibited manic and dissociated behaviors, but things were worse than we had seen. He was seeing visions in the skies, and feeling drawn to his higher purpose in the universe to a degree that surpassed earthly expectations. He would disappear in the middle of the night, converse deeply with strangers when compelled to do so, and lived in pure extravagance - despite his limited actual working hours.
After frustrating arguments with my husband about logistics and caring for my two baby girls (another stress entirely!) I ended up with two nights to go with my mother and try to take care of my eldest brother. We flew in on a Friday night, and once we checked into the hotel, we drove straight to his apartment.
The situation had already escalated prior to our arrival. My brother had already turned against his partner and his family. Since my mother made the mistake of defending them in her first minutes on the premises, he immediately turned against her. And so I went alone into his apartment, with the sole priority to gauge his mental state and determine just how “crazy” my brother had gone. My mom texted me from the outside, asking me continuously: “Should we call for help? How is he?”
Initially, I thought we could talk him into a hospital stay voluntarily - but anybody in a situation such as this might understand how difficult this can be. It’s no joke when Belle’s father is thrown into the back of a carriage and taken away: these situations are dangerous, and is there really any other way that they can go? My brother was unpredictable, and lashing out against those who wanted to help. He put a cigarette out on his arm, and carried a pair of scissors around in his pocket. He joked about the “devils” trying to keep him from being who he wanted to be, and to an extent, that may have been true. But in this moment, his stress and unhappiness had cultivated into a violent psychotic break that demanded professional intervention.
I don’t regret calling for help in this instance. I regret the fact that, at his age past 30, we had not drafted a written plan in case he needed this sort of medical intervention. In fact, there wasn’t any paperwork at all! As such, the police took my brother away, and he ended up in a shithole downtown for the homeless and forgotten - all because they could not share any information with us and we could not make any choices for him due to HIPAA, but he was not in the right mind to share information about his insurance or make any decisions for himself. And so the state took over, and he fell off of our radar. We drove from one police station to the next, from one hospital to another, but no luck,
B finally called my phone just before noon the next day. Thank goodness I had the same number since I turned 13 - it was the only one he remembered. The place they took him was a shithole - nothing like they promised, but what can you expect with an overloaded system like theirs? That just set the tone for the rest of our time, trying to get him in an outpatient program - trying to get him through an inpatient program - trying to get insurance to accept a program closer to us, or trying to find a program they’ll accept near home…
Life played out the way it did. There’s no right or wrong way anymore. This is just the way it happened, and nothing else will change it. In November of 2021, we realized my brother was sick. On May 31, 2022, he woke up and decided that he would leave us by any means necessary. That ended up being at a gas station pump in the middle of nowhere, in front of my father, who had the unfortunate job of trying to drive him to the hospital he liked in California.
And so my family began the “healing”(?) process. It took us four months to have a basic funeral, though it was just the close family and his ashes. C and his family flew out and spoke, and our closest friends supported us through the nightmare. C had already had some mental breakdowns of his own, but he was on medication now and his family seemed to be helping him through. We spent some time together, and he doted on my children, and delivered gifts from B that were intended for them. We took a rare photo together. I hugged him and told him to please, please stay strong for my family. My daughters loved their Uncle B, and he could keep his memory alive for them.
It was a hard and emotional time. I knew that B would want me to take care of his partner, no matter the drama between them at the time. I tried, with everything I had, to be there if he wanted me to be - but I was scared, and we are anxious people who value personal space. I didn’t want to come off too strong, but when he called me asking for permission to marry my brother in heaven, what could I do? I told him how much I loved him, and how much he already meant to me. I assured him that he was already my brother-in-law, that he had already been with my brother long past a common law marriage. Maybe that’s just the problem. Love is the strongest drug of all, isn’t it?
And so, less than a week and a half after that phone call, C went to find his soulmate through the same awful method of self-immolation. To his mercy, I heard that his soul passed much faster than that of my poor, beautiful brother. With an imagination like mine, it is not just the guilt… it’s just the whole fucking thing.
Well, if my circle is small, my living brother kept his even smaller. B and C were his best friends, and with them gone, I’m just impressed he has maintained any sanity at all. But now, as stress at work ramps up and his psychosis returns, all I can do is wait and see. This time is different: since I’m involved, he’s pulled away from me, and he won’t be as honest as he used to. His boss is listening in, there are cameras in the lightbulbs, and he’s been living on the “Truman Show” for a while now. He’s deactivated all social media to keep his boss from following him, and he’s currently been missing for 12 hours.
Everything feels hopeless. How much is one person supposed to take? I have three babies now, all aged 4 and under, and they need me to be strong. But I just feel so sad and broken all of the time. I had panic attacks before, but now? Am I doomed to follow the same path? I sleep okay, and I don’t abuse any medications, but god knows I’m a mess these days. I miss my family. I have no friends. My husband is working as hard as he can to help us.
I used to be able to count my circle with two hands. Now I’m down to one, and all the others have lost their mind and/or died. Why is this a thing now? How can I stay strong for my kids? I didn't know about this family curse until I was pregnant with my third... I don't know if I can keep watching this happen over and over again.
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2023.06.04 05:51 ortegasb 5 yo son hurts me every chance he gets - need advice

Whenever my son is near me - in my lap while I read a book, sitting beside me watching tv, or just walking by me, he's either twisting the hair out of my arms, trying to bite me, or hit me with whatever is available. Worst of all, every "I love you" is met with "I don't love you." This violence is solely directed at me.
He has been diagnosed with ADHD (I realize it's early but we went through the entire process at the insistence of his preschool teacher). So while I realize there's a huge impulse control element to this it's hard to not take it personally.
We do not hit in our house. I feel confident in saying we're modeling calm behavior. Even while he's biting me hard enough to leave deep marks I speak calmly insisting he stop after which I walk him to his room for a timeout and discussion on bad behavior - unless it was a surprise that made me yell out in pain.
I do my best to not let it impact our relationship. Even today after attacking me at every turn and a littany of his hatred towards me, I still took him on a hike and we had a great time laughing the whole time. As soon as I carried him inside though I got a big bite on the shoulder.
It's been fairly continuous for about 2.5 months now and it's really starting to break my spirit. Last week he let out an "I love you, dad." out of the blue and I broke into tears. Shortly after though, it was right back to it.
Any advice on curbing aggressive impulse control is very much welcome.
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2023.06.04 05:50 MrFrisbeeee I CANT FIND ONE

I’m trying to buy the 2023 Ninja 400 but none of the retailers near me have one. How am I supposed to get one? It’s almost got me moving to Honda.
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2023.06.04 05:50 skeeterskeetparty Going to my First Pride Event, My straight Wife is Coming too

tl;dr: wife asked about pride parades and I’m taking her; it’s my first pride event.
Hey everybody, sorry for the long post. Anyways, I’ve (28m) accepted my bisexuality for 10 years now, so 2023 is sort of a big bi-aversary for me (granted, it was begrudgingly at first, but I’ve done some growing since the dark days). Since starting this journey, I’ve met and married my (straight) wife (40f); we’re coming up on five years married this year. She’s never been phobic or close-minded of the community, but because we’re monogamous she has fallen into this habit of bi-erasure, which is frustrating (“are you really bi/does it matter if you’re bi if we’re married and monogamous?)
SO, about a month ago, she asked me about any pride festivals near us. Keep in mind, this is the first time she’s initiated a conversation anywhere close to my sexuality in YEARS, so it was a notable step. It’s not usually my scene as visibility isn’t exactly high on my list (my blue collar coworkers don’t really need to know about the bi guy working in a pipe mill. It’s just easier that way, the jokes write themselves and I don’t have the patience for it), but I think it would be really good to get my wife out and about to see and support it as an ally. I don’t want to necessarily be visible to the public, but I need to be visible to her.
This will be my first pride event I’ve ever attended, and granted, it is Houston, Texas, just to temper expectations. Any tips, tricks, or advice? Thanks again guys, gals, and everyone else!
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2023.06.04 05:48 GrandObvious3849 MIL making negative comments to me.

Hi all, I’ll try to make this brief- but please bear with me. I’m looking for some reasonable suggestions how to handle a situation with my mother-in-law or wondering has anyone else been through something similar? At 42 I recently discovered I have ADHD moderate inattentive/hyperactive. I have always tried to live a healthy life through good diet and exercise but I do enjoy treats too. I don’t typically keep the ‘good stuff’ in the house because once I actually open it, I finish it. As I now understand that’s part of my ‘all or nothing’ mindset and dopamine seeking satisfaction. I used to be a healthy looking weight, but developed bowel disease which actually caused me to gain weight (a less common side effect some people suffer. Yay for me!😒). I have also had periods of needing to be on steroids for my bowel which caused me to gain weight and it’s really hard to lose! But after all my health issues, and learning about ADHD instead of striving for ‘slim’, I’m more focused now on balance and overall health. Whatever size that may leave me, so be it.
My husband is a beautiful, kind, supportive man. He is my cheerleader, and always makes me feel beautiful. His mother is a bit ‘nutty’ but used to also be very kind and gracious towards me- making me always believe she was happy for me to be her sons wife.
Recently however, she has started making comments about my ‘size’. I am an Australian size 16-18. My husband has gained a couple of kilos, but also a significant amount of muscle as he is weight lifting some huge weights! At 46, I think it’s quite normal that he might become a little ‘rounder’ in the middle, but he doesn’t drink much alcohol, and we eat pretty healthy 85% of the time and exercise approx 5 times a week with weights and cardio.
It started at Christmas last year, she commented my husband has put on weight and looks pregnant (which is an exaggeration), with the veiled implication I’m feeding him, so I’m making him fat.
Then there was a comment that I shouldn’t worry, my husband has ‘always been attracted to big girls’.
Then another comment was that she was ‘my size’ when she was about 14yo and cut down her meal sizes and has been small ever since.
Then last week, we were at a family BBQ. I was talking with a nephew when a few other family members did a squat challenge to a song. It looked like it was pretty tough going for them, and I have never done this challenge before but I have been weight lifting for 13 years (I have pretty strong legs) and so I was curious if this would be something I could have done too. So I asked my husband (my MIL was near us) if he thinks I could have done it since we train together and he knows what I do in the gym. She butted in with a scoffing “Noooooooooo, hahahah”. He defended me and corrected her, telling her I would have been better than all of them as I’m strong and have really good endurance and recover quickly. She just said “oh” very disinterestedly.
I know I tend to be a little sensitive (probably partially because of the ADHD, and partially because of what I’ve been through with my body and the lack of control I’ve had over it through the years) but is this something? Am I overreacting? I don’t think she’s maliciously TRYING to hurt me, but why has she suddenly started down this path? We never had issues before, I used to even like her! Now I’m fighting back from giving her a tongue lashing she won’t forget. I even find myself having pretend conversations in my head so I can rehearse things I could say to her.
I don’t want to cause problems, she’s my husbands mother and he loves her. But I’m also not ok with how she’s starting to treat me. She has sometimes stayed at our place in the past for short visits (his parents are divorced and she’s on her own) and she’s has started saying she’s going to come over again soon but I don’t want here here in my safe space!
Help! How should I handle this???
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2023.06.04 05:47 Looniatiic Feeling Scared as a Muslim in Gujarat

Hello fellow Redditors,
I hope you're all doing well. I wanted to share my current situation and seek some advice and support from this wonderful community. Recently, I secured a job in Gujarat, a state that I was excited to explore. Coming from Kolkata, it was a big move for me, but the job opportunity seemed too good to pass up.
Before I made the decision, my dad was already concerned about the potential challenges I might face as a alone Muslim girl in Gujarat, due to the prevailing anti-Muslim sentiments that have been portrayed in the media. However, I reassured him that it might not be as bad as it seems, believing that these were just media exaggerations.
Now, my parents are away on Hajj, and I have arrived in Gujarat with a few of my friends to join the company. Unfortunately, I have faced significant difficulties in finding accommodation. It's disheartening to share that I have been denied housing opportunities solely because of my Muslim identity. This has been a recurring issue across various societies I have approached. The only alternative option of shared accommodation in girls' PGs, with a room filled with seven people, isn't something I feel comfortable with.
After an exhaustive search, I finally found a small room near my office. However, the space is cramped and suffocating without having no windows, and the owner refuses to install an AC. It feels like I have to compromise on basic comforts just to have a place to stay with privacy. Although my name sounds Bengali, which may not immediately reveal my Muslim identity, and I don't wear a hijab, I can't help but feel fearful about living alone in a city where hatred towards my community exists.
I must clarify that the landlords I have encountered so far have been polite and haven't expressed any issues with me being a Muslim. However, the general atmosphere of hostility and the tragic incident I recently learned about, involving a Muslim girl who took her own life due to relentless harassment and familial pressures, have left me deeply scared and concerned.
I wanted to reach out to this community to gain some insight and advice. Are Muslims generally targeted in Gujarat, particularly in the workplace? I understand the dynamics of corporate politics but fear facing additional challenges simply because of my religious background. My intention was to work here for at least 2 years for the experience, but now my priority has shifted to ensuring my personal safety and well-being.
Considering the difficulties in securing accommodation, I am now considering the possibility of finding a place where I can live with my parents. Having them by my side would provide a sense of comfort and security.
Are there any areas or communities in Gujarat known to solely provide accommodation for Muslims? Are there specific housing societies or agencies that prioritize offering housing to Muslims?
Additionally, if anyone can recommend reliable resources or websites that specialize in connecting individuals with Muslim-friendly accommodations, that would be immensely helpful.
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2023.06.04 05:47 alegraness My (25F) boyfriend (28M) hit himself when he was frustrated with himself and I don’t know what to do

My boyfriend and I were headed to see some friends. We were on a bus and needed to catch a second bus to the locations We were stuck in awful traffic so I suggested we get off at the next stop and walk to catch the second bus. He said we had enough time and we could wait. I didn’t mind either way. We ended up missing the second bus because of the traffic and it wasn’t a big deal. I told him we’d just hang out at one of the bars near us until another bus came around and our friends wouldn’t care.
Despite me being very relaxed about it, he got really mad at himself for not taking my suggestion and blamed himself for us being late. He was super upset and frustrated and slapped himself in the face. I immediately grabbed his hand and told him not to do that. he used his other hand to hit himself in the head then used his water bottle to hit himself. I’ve never ever seen him hurt himself like that even when he’s been upset.
The thing is, he’s almost always the calm and relaxed one. He handles stress very well in front of me. Now I wonder: has he been doing this without me knowing?
My heart is breaking for him and I don’t know how to bring it up without making him feel embarrassed. We talked about it briefly but he assured me it would never happen again.
Should I bring it up with him?
My boyfriend slapped and hit himself in the head when he was upset at himself and I don’t know how to approach it
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2023.06.04 05:46 TaliLoak I would like to complain about Reforger

Now, this post is mostly a complaint about Reforger, but I'd also like to get some feel back from the community on my complaints.
Now, firstly, I abhor the complete lack in added content from BI into Reforger. I understand things were underestimated, and that their original one year timeline was a little bit much, but this far a little more than 1 whole year since launch I cannot believe that all that is notable that has been added is: One scope (which was added by modders within week one.) 'Two' guns (which was added by modders within week one.) Mines (Which I think was added by modders within week one) A map (Which is 30% an airfield without any aircraft.)
Now compared to what modders have managed to add in the same time is unacceptable, one of my main points towards this is that modders have added in dozens of guns, multiple maps, dozens of vehicles including tracked ones and god damn helicopters!!
I understood that this was going to be a long term development thing and that things were gonna be slow-ish due to the new game and engine, but I wasn't ready for such little content spanning a year while they are supposed to be testing a lot of things and getting feedback on it from the community. --------- Secondly, I have huge complaints of the UI. Primarily three parts. One: The Arsenal. What the h e double FUCK is that? It is perhaps one of the worst inventory systems I have ever seen in my life and to me it has zero redeeming factors outside of MAYBE the bigger pictures to see what it looks like without picking it out. Two: The Zeus interface. Arma three's was near perfect, and I get that it couldn't be easily adapted to console but perhaps make an alternate UI PC and one for console would be better? From the complete change of UI style and placement to the control changes it seems that little thought was put through the whole part of 'but what about our existing community?'. Three: The workshop. This, is awful. Design aside there are two massive issues. The lack of shareable modpacks, downloading while tabbed out is not possible (I am trying to download some mods as I type even and they aren't). Now, both of these have ZERO excuses, especially while the vast majority of preexisting fans rely on such things. For modpack lacking, I know you can save em, you can export em, but I can't find how to import em.And I know mods download when you try to load into a modded server but in A3 and likely A4 these servers can run in excess of 60GB's of mods and I don't know about you but I would much rather not have the game loaded AND tabbed in for hours while it downloads the mods. I'm aware for very obvious reasons why we can't use the Steam Workshop for a lot of things, but we never used it for mod packs, so this just feels like it's pandering and despretly trying to focus on the Console market while the existing fanbase (PC) suffers and lacks basic features it has had for the last 10 years or so. --------- Now I'd like to end on a positive note, I do like the game, It is VERY pretty and runs really damn well, and the actual infantry UI and avoidance from the old scroll wheel is super nice along side the additional control while in vehicles (which has seen its best use in the Stryker mod with having to look at the button inside the back to open the ramp). I like the game, I just do not like what BI has done (or lack thereof done) to it. It feels as though they are throwing little care towards the existing fanbase in favour of as of yet unsolidified and unsubstantial fanbase on console.
TLDR: Lack in added content bad, modders have done more, UI bad, no care for existing Arma fans.
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2023.06.04 05:46 ProposalEcstatic3944 Sweet Dog Needs new Home Grand Bay, Alabama

Sweet Dog Needs new Home Grand Bay, Alabama
Original post below from rescuer Regina.
Hi, this is a very hard post for me to write because I have been fostering this sweet girl for some time now. I can't even remember for certain because my children and I have been through so much the past ten years. The exact date, even year, is hard to recall. But it was around 2018 or 19 that I discovered this beautiful lady being abused and neglected by her owner in my neighborhood. She was chained to a small deck with no shelter, and I never saw any food or water as I walked by daily. Her owner even tried to run over her with a car, stating she just didn't like her as the reason. She was so skinny and malnourished, and she still has a scar on her throat where she broke free of the cable tied around it. After my very nasty separation from my kids' father, and the death of my own, I moved in with my mother. She knew I was rescuing dogs, and she forbid me to bring any to her home. Rescuing was something I couldn't just turn off though. My heart went out to the masses of neglected, abandoned and abused dogs out there. I never registered formally with a rescue organization because, as previously stated, my mother had forbidden it. But they seemed to find me. Wandering into my yard, one even flew out of a truck that flipped three times on the interstate while I was shopping for campers, which I hoped to make a temporary home of for my kids and me. My home was uninhabitable for us. But when there was no other choice, rescue intakes closed, and a dog either had to continue being abused and neglected or face euthanasia, it worked as a safe place for them. My neighbor allowed me to run an extension cord for heat or air-conditioning, and I went over three times a day to feed and walk them. One day, as I was over tending to another foster, this girl came over for probably the fourth time, bleeding, again, from her neck, and overjoyed to see me as I always gave her pets and treats. Something she never got from her owners. I kept hearing my mother's voice saying "do not bring anymore dogs here!" In the back of my mind. But I couldn't continue to ignore that she needed me. The county wouldn't even come out to do a well check bc she had no history of aggression. I managed to talk the owners into surrendering her to me, as I had spoken with a lady that said she would happily take her if I was able to get her. However, once I met her, I found that she also planned to keep her chained, and was unable to handle her anyway. She was disabled and could barely walk. This girl, having so much boundless energy, would surely be too much for her to handle. She also could barely afford to feed herself, let alone provide vetting and food for this bottomless "pit".😅 So sadly I had to decline this adoption. She stayed at my old home for about a year, until I insisted she had to come home with me to my mom's. She wasn't happy, but she knew county was out of the question as they are still a kill shelter. I have attempted to adopt her out a few times since then. One inquiry turned out to be from a dog fighter. They thought I didn't know. Anyway, Big NO! I drove about four hours away to meet a lady who, unfortunately was hoarding pitties in a small hotel room, and was incidentally giving birth to a new baby when I arrived. My instincts told me this was a very risky situation. Another interested party had a trial for one night. I told this person this dog must have a fence or be leash walked, as she is reactive to small animals. He agreed, but waited til I left to try his luck with letting her free roam in a highly populated area in the city. So I went to get her back, knowing this couldn't possibly end well. It seemed she might end up staying, as I was absolutely mentally exhausted from all the failed attempts, and from being cursed at by several others who failed to pass adoption criteria, which included vet checks, character references, evidence of ability to provide adequate care and safe environment. I have taken some time off from trying to adopt her out. Keeping her just seemed easier and safer than continuing to try to adopt her out. It seemed so unlikely that I would find a suitable adopter anyway, with so many desperately needing help. But recently, my health has gone downhill. I have been managing, but having been diagnosed with spinal stenosis and pancreatitis, along with being a full time mom, and caring for my mother, whose health has also declined drastically, it's becoming increasingly more difficult for me to keep up with the demands of caring for her. I've been tired before, and experienced burn out. But this is something entirely different. For the first time, I'm seriously afraid that the day is coming soon that I might not be able to tend to her. I am having more and more trouble walking. And she has so much energy, she desperately needs to be walked and played daily with to keep anxiety at bay. She is such a sweet girl, and has responded well to training. She is in good health, and the thought of her ever going to the county kill shelter terrifies me. But I fear that one day in the near future, I may have no other choice. As I said, I am managing. It is painful many days, and some days I am literally going on autopilot with no regard to my condition. I will continue to do my best to care for her as long as she needs me. But have decided that, in order to avoid the possibility of having to send her to a shelter where she will most likely be euthanized, I need to put forth my best effort to find her a loving home. She is spayed, and as mentioned previously, has had some training. She responds well to cues when I am able to consistently work with her. She loves to snuggle and give hugs. She even likes to dance with her paws around my waist. She loves kids too, but should be supervised as she does get excited and jump up for a hug. She loves to do zoomies too, and at times will forget herself and crash into her person. Very manageable, tho, by a strong healthy person. Regular walks and engagement help with this anxiety induced burst of energy tremendously. She has been sleeping in an air conditioned kennel, with lots of room in a large fenced yard to roam. But what she truly wants is daily walks and playing, and to be inside snuggling with her person. If you have experience with pit babies such as this, have no small animals, and can and will give this sweet girl the life she deserves, please message me. Please be prepared to offer vet references so that I can ensure that she is going to a responsible person. I am ok with self care such as holistic care and self administered parvo vaccines. But I would need to contact your vet to know that she will be vaccinated for rabies and that you are a responsible and loving pet owner. Also, you and your family must be able to keep her environment calm and without chaos as it is a trigger for her anxiety. I know it sounds silly, but I would also need to know that she chooses to go/stay with you to ensure that she will be happy with this transition. Preferably someone nearby, or I am willing to travel and spend a couple days letting you get to know her if you are willing to allow me to see where she will live. I don't care if you're not a great housekeeper. Or if you live in an apartment so long as you have time to walk her. I will not let her go somewhere she is not happy tho, or at risk of encountering and harming another pet. My ultimate goal is to get better. To possibly have surgery for my back, followed by physical therapy to regain strength, to control pancreatic flare ups through diet modification. And assuming I am able to make a significant recovery, I hope to get even more serious about rescue and go on to save many more lives through training and education. I am actually hoping to be able to attend school for training, become certified at a behavioral specialist, and, at some point, provide training to shelter dogs to increase adoptability, as well as to aide in their success post adoption. For those if you who don't know, one of the number one reasons dogs are returned to shelters after adoption is lack of training. And for those of you who do know, you are well aware of how essential training truly is, primarily for large, strong dogs such as pitties, and what a game changer it can be for them. Thank you for reading. Again, I am located in Mobile, Alabama. I promise, if you are qualified and looking, this could be your next best friend! I have never know a dog to more loyal or loving!
Point of contact
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2023.06.04 05:45 fantastic-mrfawkes Spectrum Outfitters vs GC2B Review

Spectrum Outfitters vs GC2B Review
Hey there guys!
I've been wearing one of GC2B's racerback binders since late 2021, and two months ago I bought a Spectrum Outfitters short binder. I've seen a lot of people asking about these two binders in comparison, so I decided there was no better time than the present to do a review of them.
First, a bit about my body type, though.
I have a pretty large chest relatively speaking, with a 32" rib circumference underneath my soft tissue, and a 39.5" circumference around the chest/nipple, which puts me at around a G to H-cup in terms of bra size. I bought a size medium for both the GC2B and the Spectrum Outfitters binders. I believe my sizing is actually pretty significant in terms of the fit of these two binders, but I plan on getting into more detail about that later.
So without further adieu, the review!
For reference, S = Spectrum Outfitters, and G = GC2B

Spectrum Oufitters side view
With the side view, there tends to be a visible "dent" or "swoop" from the shirt falling through the neckline of the binder, which gives the effect of it looking less flat than the GC2B binder.

GC2B side view
As you can see, the GC2B binder isn't completely flat either, but the shape seems a bit smoother, and looks a bit less like I'm wearing something under my shirt.

Spectrum Outfitters front view
GC2B front
Not a huge difference here.

Spectrum Outfitters front view (no graphics)
Here, you can yet again see the shirt sort of fall through the largelower neckline of the SO binder. It's more obvious on this shirt than it was on the black shirt with the graphic design.

GC2B front view (no graphics)
With the GC2B binder, the neckline is visible, but it's higher up, and there's not enough weight to make the shirt fall through much. However, as you can see, the binder kind of squishes my chest together, giving me a "uni-boob" that's slightly more visible/less flat looking.

Spectrum Outfitters fit.
This is where the Spectrum Outfitters binder shines. As you can see, the whole binder comes much lower down on my torso, which provides support for my chest. The armpit area is also much lower, and so I don't have fabric cutting into my armpit. However, as you can see, the lower neckline allows my chest tissue to squish upwards, which is technically a better binding practice as it avoids skin stretching, but it makes that tissue more visible and prominent with a shirt on.

GC2B fit.
The GC2B binder binds higher, and doesn't leave a wide gap for the short to fall through when I wear one... BUT, my chest is constantly slipping down in the binder, and I'm almost always having to stick my hands under my shirt to readjust my chest every few minutes. Very, VERY often. This binder is also very tight around my armpit and it kind of hurts like hell. The smaller armpit hole is actually why I think the GC2B binder gives me uni-boob. It forces them to press together in the middle instead of chilling on the side.

Binders overlapped.
Here you can see how much lower the Spectrum Outfitters binder sits than the GC2B one. The Spectrum Outfitters binder also has much wider and more discreet shoulder straps that slide into view way less often than the GC2B ones do. In fact, the GC2B shoulder straps actually cut into my shouldeneck, and cause a lot of discomfort.
In general, the Spectrum Outfitters binder is MUCH more comfortable than the GC2B binder. My nipples never feel like they are getting chaffed, the fabric is much thinner, cooler, and softer than the GC2B's fabric, there are no uncomfortable seams digging into my skin, and I never have to readjust my chest in the binder. The Spectrum Outfitters binder is much better for exercising or doing active things as well.
However, in terms of raw binding power, I think the GC2B may be slightly better.
But that comes with a big caveat, and that's 1) it binds better IF AND ONLY IF my chest is in the right position, i.e., I've just adjusted it in the last few seconds, and 2) IF YOU HAVE A LARGER CHEST.
I think all of the problems I have with the Spectrum Outfitters binder wouldn't be an issue if I had a smaller chest. For example, your shirt probably won't fall into your cleavage if you don't have a big enough chest to have major cleavage in the first place. With a smaller chest, I think that the Spectrum Outfitters binder would be better on all accounts.
So to summarize...
Binding power: The GC2B is slightly better, especially with a larger chest. However, the larger chest can "fall down" or slip in the binder, which means you need to readjust the binder constantly to get the full binding effect. I'd say...
Spectrum Outfitters - 4
GC2B - 5

Versatility; The Spectrum Outfitters binder is more discreet, has less visible straps/seams, and is much better for exercise. Since I don't have to readjust my chest wearing it, it's also far better for multi-layers outfits.
Spectrum Outfitters - 5
GC2B - 3

Comfort; Spectrum Outfitters wins this one hand down for many many reasons. Softer, cooler, better fit, less tight in the armpit/shoulder, supports your chest, folds nicely, does not roll up, etc...
Spectrum Outfitters - 5
GC2B - 3

Durability/Quality; While I haven't been wearing my Spectrum Outfitters binder for nearly as long as my GC2B binder, I can pretty safely assure you that the stitching and pigment quality of the Spectrum Outfitters binder is far superior. It feels much better quality.
Spectrum Outfitters - 5
GC2B - 3


The Spectrum Outfitters binder is more comfortable and more supportive, has less visible straps, and is of higher quality (seemingly). However, the GC2B has slightly better raw binding power for larger chests.
I would recommend the Spectrum Outfitters binder over the GC2B binder.

If you have any additional questions, please let me know.
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2023.06.04 05:45 CanonMC I made a Spider-Man oc! I love him- [OC]

I made a Spider-Man oc! I love him- [OC]
This is his character submission I used for a spider-verse server:-

General information
Name: Arthur J. Davila Alias: Spider-Man Relatives: Ligia Owens(Mother), Quentin Davila(Father), Jonathan Owens(Uncle/Deceased)
Age: 15 Gender: Male Height: 5’7’’ Weight: 131 lbs Sexuality/Sexual Attraction: Bi-Questioning Alignment: Hero Secret Identity: Arthur J. Davila Birthdate: January 17th Birthplace: Union City, New Jersey (Moved to Queens, New York) Current homeworld: Earth #624145 Universe: Earth #624145 Interests: He’s really good at art and has started a small little career where he just sells some of his artwork online for a few bucks. He’s also a struggling inventor having made his web-shooters himself and trying to get an internship anywhere so far only really finding opportunities with Professor Connors and Dr.Octavius since he doesn't wanna work at Oscorp at all. He's really interested in music, he's a really big fan of the Mary Janes though he hasn't really met anyone that's in the band he has sat down and watched some of their performances and from afar has developed a bit of a crush on the drummer of the band(Gwen Stacy) though he’ll probably never tell her. Likes: Arthur likes drawing, he likes painting, and doing art is one of his passions. He likes listening to music and has a specific playlist made for whenever he's web-slinging which mainly consists of songs by JVKE. He likes reading comic books a lot some of his favorite characters being The Flash and Nightwing(since Spider-Man comics don’t exist in his universe) and he can get lost in whatever he's reading or doing sometimes not really paying attention to much else. He likes standing up for the little guy, which sounds cliche as all hell but he was once the little guy and knows how it feels, he knows he has to get back up so he does… not for him but for the people he needs to protect. Dislikes: He dislikes constantly being late for school, which feels weird to him considering the fact that he can get across the city in a few minutes, he is just always late when getting specifically there. He really dislikes math class which isn't cause he's bad at it, in fact, he's the one with the best grades in the class he just dislikes it because of how his math teacher tries treating him like he doesn't know anything. He dislikes supervillains (obviously) constantly attacking him and berating him on pretty much a daily basis and he dislikes Oscorp even though he's pretty good friends with Harry Osborn and consequently also friends with Peter Parker of his universe. Iq: 237 Era(Time Period): 21st Century(Present date)
Abilities: Arthur has strength and agility that stand far above those of the average human, allowing him to lift nearly 200 times his body weight and to leap and move at incredible speeds with high accuracy. He also heals faster than normal when injured, though he is not completely immune to viruses and other human ailments. Weapons: His only weapons are his web shooters which he uses to swing around from place to place and web enemies and objects when necessary. So far he has developed a few different types of webbing in his shooters, one that dissolves over time, an electric web, and a concussive web that's incredibly dense. Other than that his only other weapon is his fists and his brain. Rankings: N/A
Backstory: Alright, let's do this one last time… I was born in Union City, New Jersey, and had a fairly normal life when there. When I was around 6 years old my family relocated to Queens, New York where we live now. Growing up I was a pretty average kid, just smarter than the rest. Me and my uncle had a great relationship and hung out most of the time, even though my mother and he drifted apart slowly, my uncle was really the biggest person in my life. I was out on a trip with my class for school when I got bit by a radioactive spider, I was just in the wrong place at the wrong time and was standing where Peter in most universes usually is, so instead of him getting bit, I did. I became the one and only Spider-Man, and I lost some people… namely my uncle who turned out to be one of the two prowlers of my universe and sacrificed his own life to save me… telling me to always get back up and to remember that “with great power comes a need to do good…” not for myself but for other people too. I'm pretty good friends with Peter Parker who I consequentially ended up saving when he turned himself into a giant raging lizard which was… something for sure. And I guess I just patrol the city now, fighting villains and saving people, and on the off chance that I'm not really doing hero stuff, I'm out there working with Pete at our internship with Dr.Octavious or attending some extra classes with Mr.Conners…(Or I'm watching some performances by The Mary Janes) So for now I am the one and only Spider-Man… or so i thought-
Eye color: Brown Color schemes: Deep Red, Light Blue, Carbon Gray Hair color: Brown
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2023.06.04 05:45 LArry-Dont-Take-My- Aftermath of 1924 Japanese Offensive against Nationalist China

Aftermath of 1924 Japanese Offensive against Nationalist China

The Nationalists are barely on the verge of defeat, but the Manchurians are planning on invading me, the Great Empire of Japan.
So, in case that happens, I will have my army at the ready, Lvl. III Tactical Bombers will patrol the skies, and the Imperial Japanese Navy will send all of it's Battleships against the Imperial Manchukuo Navy, which consists of 4 Lvl. I Battleships and 2 Lvl. I Aircraft Carriers. My Navy has 10 Lvl. III Cruisers, 2 Lvl. III Battleships and 10 Lvl. III Destroyers in the area near Vladivostok, with reinforcements consisting of 6 Lvl. III Battleships and 10 Lvl. III Destroyers on the way.
The Imperial Manchukuo Air Force consists of 4 Lvl. I Tactical Bombers as far as my intel says. The Imperial Japanese Air Service has 17 Lvl. IV Interceptors, 49 Lvl. III Tactical Bombers, and 4 Lvl. I Attack Bombers at it's disposal, so the Imperial Manchukuo Air Force can be easily defeated.
It is with confidence that if a war between Manchukuo and Japan breaks out, the Manchurians will be defeated easily, and thus one less nation in the way of Japan's Great Asian Conquest.
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2023.06.04 05:44 Halasham Faulty Reporting[Homelands]

Be me: Ishmael, Damphir Barbarian
Be not me: DM; Chus, Lizardfolk Necromancer; Aanshe, Koldemar Vitalist; Zero, Ratfolk Psion;
Having started a skull collection from the last band of Gnolls to harass the Nightmare Wagon we arrive in town...
We sell off the loot horde and split the value of it.
Chus uses his share to kit out his skeleton better.
We take a look at the available jobs once out shopping is done.
There's four hunting jobs, hunting various critters that have found their way into the forest...
We take the jobs and ready ourselves to deal with them once we return to the temporary Kobold Den
While we're there we're introduced to a new mercenary who the tribe has hired to help deal with the issue, Zero the Ratfolk
After some time passes from Aanshe being indisposed... we set off the hunt down the critters
Not too long on the road we come up on a sinkhole...
Aanshe gets out and peers over the edge... the hole leads into a large cavern.
We decide to investigate and lock the wagons wheels, tie off some rope and make our way down...
We find ourselves in a cavern and slowly making our way forward we find... Basilisks!
INITIATIVE: Chus, Basilisks, Ishmael, Zero, Aanshe
Chus orders Buffy to charge and averts his gaze.
One of the Basilisks manages to bite Buffy and the other scores a crit while she's struggling.
The squad of Basilisks moves up approaching us...
Ishmael moves into position to head off a pair of approaching Basilisks and strikes one.
Ishmael & Zero are petrified!
Aanshe covers her eyes to protect herself and fires a ray zapping one!
Chus closes his eyes and blasts the Basilisks with his swarm magic.
The Basilisks continue their advance noming on Buffy and waddling into the fray.
One goes to nom each: Aanshe & Chus. Chus is bit!
Aanshe catches one with her health steal, healing Chus with the stolen HP
Chus surges his swarm! ... it kills Buffy and seriously wounds most of the Basilisks.
The Basilisks begin to withdraw...
Feeling about blinded and not finding enemies Chus opens his eyes... and is immediately petrified.
Aanshe's alone now... she blindly throws a Steal Health at the sound of their retreat and nails one!
After a second shot misses and the noise of the retreat dies down she risks a peek and sees her petrified party.
Aanshe manages to un-petrify the whole party and takes a minute to meditate.
Ishmael asks where Buffy is when he doesn't notice her among the group... Chus explains that she was destroyed in the fight.
We look around for the Basilisks and Aanshe removes her blindfold. Onward!
We make our way forward!
As we explore we find a small hole in one of the walls just larger than one of the Basilisks we've slain...
Aanshe goes a bit far ahead... and finds a Dracolisk!
Initiative! Zero, Aanshe, Ishmael, Chus, Dracolisk
Zero moves up into position.
Aanshe buffs!
Ishmael charges up almost into melee.
Chus! He tries to blind it?
It reposition and breaths acid!
Zero continues to try and better position...
Aanshe baps it with Steal Health
Ishmael follows the direction of the Acid back to the monster and scores a blind crit!
Chus activates his ghost hand.
The Dracolisk takes advantage of the no AoOs while blinded and flies from Ishmael's position.
It flies to Aanshe and attacks her!
Zero's turn! She stabs it in the thinking-parts.
Aanshe rips the last bits of HP from it with Stealth Health...
It falls, hits the edge of the bridge, slips and falls further.
...victory? Victory!
Aanshe carefully peeks... "I GOT IT!" she exclaims
She casts Metamorphosis and scales down to where it fell.
Ishmael comes to the top of the bridge to look down... "Is it dead?"
It's not and Aanshe stabilizes it.
We blindfold it and get to work hauling it out of the pit.
Zero begins to panic when she sees it being tied up and we explain that it's going to be tied up and brought in.
Meanwhile Chus collects one of the other dead Basilisks to serve as the replacement for Buffy
Looking at the situation we consider how to get the KO'd dragon up...
Ishmael suggests we go up and then just reel in the rope since we tied it to the rope we used to descend.
Sounds like a plan and we do it. We load the Dracolisk onto the Nightmare Wagon and roll back into town.
Nothing is crazy enough to mess with the Nightmare Wagon as we ride!
The town guards are a little concerned...
We explain we're bringing it to the council
They insist on having a guard come along.
Ishmael comments "Sure, climb aboard. Mind the blindfold, this thing petrifies."
The are concerned for a moment and force the rookie to be the guard for the trip to the council.
Aanshe tries to make conversation as we roll down the city streets... he's not very talkative.
The Council comes out to see what we've caught with all the weird...
They offer us a small bonus and Aanshe says it's insulting.
We suggest we'd sell the creature... and Chus immediately places an offer
We have a concern about it becoming a Dracolich and Ishmael suggests we involve the local Vampire.
Session called as it's nearing midnight.

Previous Session
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2023.06.04 05:41 Alfaromero97 My Ex broke up with me twice, i feel she truly didn't value me, i just don't understand why i keep seeing things in rose colored glasses when she manipulated me despite my confusion. i feel so vulnerable for than i have ever been in my life

I’m not going back anymore even if I wanted to because I had called her yesterday and asked if the break up was really definite because I was tired of the mind games she was playing with me and I bet she didn’t notice. I felt like the false hope that she kept putting out was driving me crazy. My emotions felt so bottled in all this time not being able to express myself around her snd the painful moments she did to me. She making making it more difficult and I was trying to talk to her calmly on the phone trying to tell her how much I had deeply loved and cared for her and did so much for her. She would basically accuse me of blaming it on her even though she never took the blame for anything and never accepted the truth for what it was and not even an apology. She was so cold and still was then hung up the phone on me. She blocked me right away but before she could block me I sent her this and she read it. “ If you have tried I would have truly seen it. If you would have been there for me at my lowest and when I needed you I would have seen it. If you would have truly loved me you wouldn’t hold back your love for me saying it and in actions the many times you did. You would have not thrown me out of your house every single time I wanted to fix something with you. You would truly engaged in the things I shown you and were important to me. Lastly you would have given me the security needed. No one who cares about someone should be walking on egg shells all the time if all they wanted was love and security. I know I want farther than you and loved you deeply because I cared deeply and had always been there for you. You manipulated my heart and you tore it. You got what you wanted for now. One day you’ll realize how much I did for you and sacrificed. You hurt me, my family, and my friends and I don’t ever want to see you again in my life especially how you took advantage of me for your own gain.” I felt so bad and remorseful for sending that but I feel all the emotional damage she had caused me and continued to do was so much I felt like I was going insane. She truly played with my heart and I feel it’s her loss completely for doing that. I remember when I saw the GoId moments before in her but I feel that was covered up by her true colors :( I guess that’s why I also feel so remorseful because I’m only seeing those good moments when in reality she did more bad to me than good. I just got so frustrated with her how terrible she treated me and mostly just swept it under the carpet blindly and pretended things were still normal 😭😭 I do hope I find some one better in the future who would treat me way better than she treated me. I feel I saved my future self further pain from her I couldn’t imagine accepting being friends with her, seeing her with another guy when I had treated her so well and did everything for her. As well as living with her and marrying her if we were still in the relationship together. Days later I felt so bad sending that message, because of my heart never wanting to hurt the girl i loved so much and always caring and loving her so deeply. The insanity of my emotions couldn't handle the emotional damage she had caused me in the relationship and where i wasn't able to stand up for my self. I waited a few days later giving her some space and i also was trying to see how i could reach her because I was blocked on everything. So my brother allowed me to send this message using his phone:
I want to say I'm deeply sorry, and I feel terrible to you the person I love and called my special person for these two good years. I reacted very immaturely the other day when we talked. I think I was so emotionally clouded that I couldn't think straight. I know you probably don't want to forgive me or talk to me again. I understand that. In truth I never want to burn the bridge I had with you. Even though I know we can't be lovers anymore. You know me where sometimes I over think things and do dumb things based in my emotions, something I know I need to work on. My deepest regret though is losing you who I loved so deeply. I want to love you as a friend and person that I cherished with all those amazing memories despite our challenges that made us split. I hope when you see this message you can unblock me and text or call me back. I just would like to have our numbers open so we can check on each other from time to time. I love you and care for so deeply, appreciate you, you were my first girlfriend who supported me in tough times and were there, I know we had challenging times and I accept we have to move away from each other romantically. I just would like to stay connected with you in some way.

A few days later she responds with this :

"Im really upset with what you said to me. I understand you have big emotions, but it doesn’t mean I will let myself be talked that way. Only for you to reflect and say sorry days later (Even though i genuinely went out of my way to say sorry) it’s just not fair. I’m going to keep you blocked for awhile because that’s the only way I can keep my boundary. I don’t know what the future holds, but I wish you nothing but the best."

i'm sorry for the long passage. I am guessing in the near future she's going to try and comeback eventually? and if she doesn't I hope you can see how much I deeply loved her and fought for her to show her how much i cared for her and our relationship despite the trauma she caused on me and how one sided she made it. Maybe its the best she let me go, could have it been a favor for me?
If anyone could help me sort this out? I feel so sad especially how much I cared for her, she was my first girlfriend.
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2023.06.04 05:41 Thunderbird_12_ Data point: AMEX WILL eventually claw it back!

I don't normally shop at Saks Fifth Avenue.
But, like many Plat users in the USA, I enjoy looking at their website twice a year to try and find something to buy that's close to $50 -- so I can take advantage of the twice-per-year $50 credit.
In December I found a thigh roller and some tongue scrapers. (Let's be honest, most of their stuff under $50 is crap, but it's fun to search for hidden gems.) With shipping it totaled $50.10 (Yay!)
The Saks $50 credit posted a few days later.
But, when they came, the thigh-roller was already opened (as if someone had returned it previously and Saks re-shipped it to me,) and the tongue-scrapper package looked like it had been on the floor at a TJ-Maxx warehouse. I returned them both.
Once Saks received the returned items, they returned my $50.10. I fully expected AMEX to claw back the $50 credit.
I checked my Jan statement. Nothing clawed back.
Same for Feb. Nothing. I shrugged it off, thinking I got lucky having received the $50 Saks credit and the $50.10 refund.
Fast forward to today, when I noticed a $50 charge from Saks (having totally forgotten about my December purchase/return.) After scratching my brain and searching my emails for proof of a recent Saks purchase, I call AMEX. They put me on hold for a few minutes, then came back to explain that they saw that I received two Saks credits after the return and clawed it back.
Nearly six. Months. Later.
AMEX gon' GIT their money! Don't sleep on AMEX!
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2023.06.04 05:41 slowngnawing Should this be taken lightly?

Lesbian relationship. May be all over the place because I’m frantic.
Got a DM from a old friend, connected, friend said she liked me. She knows this girl is blocked. Partner went to get a gun 1-2 days later. She has had her gun license but timing didn’t sit well with me. She swears up and down it has nothing to do with the message. Told my entire family about the girl that DM me & her getting a gun and how funny it was that I was scared. Threatened if I ever went out with that girl or entertained it she would vandalize the apartment, my phone, & I better not touch her on the way out. Any mention of the girl that DMs me enrages her to her core. She went online and did a whole background check on this girl, she knows her first and last name and what she looks like.
Today she wakes up from a dream telling me she had a dream she beat the girl that DMd me lifeless, had the girl crying and screaming my name in agony until she was dead. Said in real life she may possibly do the same with all that’s going on in our relationship since I’ve started to withdraw. Says in the dream she caught me cheating and the girl that DMd me fucked with the wrong crazy bitch. That the girl knows she’s crazy but still tried to test her crazy. She keeps saying but I never would hurt you about all these situations, only her. The passion in her eyes, the rage, was insane. She gave me a full demonstration.
I have no contact with this girl that DM me but it’s terrifying me. I’m scared to even be around her. She is very strong and I know I couldn’t fight her. When she fights she fights to kill according to her past stories.
Keeps telling me God wants us to stay together and make this work. I feel sick even holding her hand and being near her. My anxiety is on 1000. This is a side of her I’ve never seeen.
Should I take this seriously?
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