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2023.03.25 02:55 CKain08 Glass children and faking autism
TW : suicidal thoughts/self-harm
" Glass children are those who are growing up in a home where a sibling takes up a disproportionate amount of parental energy "
Well. Disclaimer : I am not a child, alright, I am 20. But I've been thinking a lot about the last 10 years of my life, and I am, as much as it pains me, a glass child and I've been since my sister's born.
I want to be heard, you do wathever you want with this post. Treat it like a AITA thingy if you want.
Now back to my sis, Of course, at first, it was (I thought) only because I was the first born, the big sis, you know.
But 3 years ago, my sister discovered Tik Tok. Everyone knows Tik Tok, right? Well, we all know what kind of stuff we can find on that app! I, myself, found the description of a "glass child" there. I use Tik Tok frequently.
My sister always had problems with her friends. When she was younger, she was always in the middle of some arguing between two or three girls, never really had a day where she wasn't coming home with what I call "girl's gangs" problems (you know when two best friends suddenly split and get mad and get other friends to form like alliances and stuff to b*tch on the others? Ya know, old stuff, we've all been there).
She was never wrong in those situations. She was coming home laughing about how she was the peacemaker and never creating problems of some sort. Thing is, I know my sister. Like the back of my hand. Alright? I just... know when she's lying. Still, to this day, she always brags about how good she is to manipulate people and make them do what she wants. Alrighty girl, weird flex.
Well, she got to high school (what we call secondary one in Canada), and then, she started having anxiety. Like panic attacks and all? I've had those, still do these days, so I understood. I became her protector, her therapist, calming her down when my mother critized her for exagerating. I knew what to do, and I gave up all my energy to take care of her, of her mental health, as a good old sister does.
She made it to the second year of high school (secondary 2) with difficulties. Panic attacks again and all. 3 years ago, as I said, she discovered Tik Tok. I know Tik Tok and its algorithm : there are specific fyp where you can find videos about the same topic over and over again. I suspect she was in a dark side of Tik Tok, a depressed one, where you can see all sort of sad/depressing things and stories (I know, I've been there too, now trying to avoid it as much as I can because it affects me mentally and I start spiralling).
Cutting her hair short ( I guess the "funny mentally hill" trend where you cut your hair on a headbutt and dye it, I know, been there too).
Sexuality explored too. Like she was trans for a while and wanted us to call her another name (she isn't anymore, she told me so about 3 months in). I always respected her choices and calling her what she wanted to be called at that time. She was a kid, she was 13, so she was discovering herself and her preferences and all. No problem with that.
She started hanging out with some people like that too. She had a non-binary friend, a trans one, a furry one, etc. She was having fun with them. Great people. She finally had a group.
Some of them, however, had the same experiences we all hear about on Tik Tok. You know, some of them not in a great home, or in a bad relationship with parents, depression, anxiety. Hate to say it, but you know those people on Tik Tok who (unfortunatly) are bullied on the internet for being... like... huuuuh (wondering how to say that without insulting anyone) like stereotypical? Like... you know those who wants a cat litter in a classroom in a unironical way? Some of her friend were a little extremist on that plan. Again, never really bothered me.
We have two parents, a mom and a dad. They divorced when I was 7. My sister was 3. They never fought in front of us, never heard them, it was really a suprise. They went their separate ways. Me and my sis got used to go to each of them for a week, and then go back to the other for a week. It was fine, working good. My parents are both accountants, my mom teaching it too. I had a strong disagreement with my mom in 2019 about one of her (numerous) boyfriends. The only one i really hated with all my heart. This resulted in me leaving her house for about a year. My sis was still doing 1 week/1 week. Apart of that, my parents are pretty basic ones, never abused us and we always had everything we needed.
I started college. I loved it, still do, and was finally starting my life as an adult, I started a great job, was doing good in school and... was still helping my sister and my parents with her anxiety/ panic attacks. Even learn in my degree how to deal with people who disorganize.
Then, the cutting started. A lot of her friend were doing it, she told me. And then she started having those episodes where she was cutting herself. Never with something sharp, like a knife or else. But with like compass and crayons? Then, she started having suicidal thoughts. Then, and that is where it all went down, she called 911 for suicidal thoughts. She was home alone and the police called my mom.
What had she done? Scratch herself... with a pencil.
I've had panic attacks before. And suicidal thoughts that crossed my mind but I never acted on them. Never. And I can't imagine myself doing it. I talked about it, of course, with my best friend, someone I trusted and it was making me feel better. How did I know my sister was doing that and having those thoughts? She just said it, casually, at dinner with the whole family. Like... girl? It really got the mood down, everyone worried and she was like... glowing? I don't know how to say it.
She was always a bit dramatic and had a way of making everything about herself, but it was never about negative things. More like flexing a good grade or whatever. She was always talking about how depressed she was, how she was suicidal, and the things she was saying were... like straight up a depressing tik tok. Like one day I found something she said ( I think it was like "you don't understand how this feels it is like blablabla i don't remember) WORD FOR WORD in a Tik Tok. It is like she wasn't expressing her feelings, but made up phrases you find on the Internet when you type "panic attacks" or "depression".
After a second call to 911 for taking 10 advils, she got admitted to psychiatry. At that time, I was watching my parents fall appart, running around to appointments for her, my dad having stress acnea (at 45) and both of them exhausted. It was a real drama. Everyone in the family talked about it. It was the only subject of discussion, the only thing that was on everyone's mind.
I was hanging out my seat in class with my phone on my belly to be sure to feel it vibrate if something happened. We were all in a bad place.
And then, we got a diagnosis of autism.
I'm sorry, what? Where does that come from? I mean, alright, we'll deal with that one.
But then. That's where all went down for me. Sis started therapy, changed school, went to an adapted classroom for people like her and with disabilities. My parents were still all over the place.
Except where I needed them.
I was 18, at that time, starting adulthood. I have ADHD. It is really hard for me to respect a schedule, think about every appointments I have, every homework, every luggage I can't forget to bring to mom's or to dad's. I was also giving my all in school, never missed anything, straight A's and working my ass off.
I started realising that everytime my parents texted me was to ask/talk about my sis.
Every. Single. Time.
They'd ask me to bring my sister her lunch that she forgot, to go get her when she was down, or get her to her appointments like I didn't have a whole fu**ing life I was trying so hard to keep on line.
I gave all my free time to her needs and my parents's. I educated myself on autism, defended her when my mom was thinking she was faking because I wanted to prove I was there for her. That I was the life saving good sister. I never, ever, heard her say thank you.
Never.
The only compliments my parents were giving me is "thank you for getting your sis for us. Thank you for being there for her. Thank you for doing things with her."
I went trough some stuff, at that time. I hurt my knee and was failing my physical tests. It got to the point I wasn't even sure I liked my degree anymore. I was having a really hard time. But my parents never saw my pain. I have a tendency to hide things, sure, but I was really trying to talk to them about how I was feeling. They were listening, and letting go. Why didn't they start worrying for me like they did for my sister? I don't know, don't really care now. I was having suicidal thoughts too, I wanted to yeet myself in a tree and even stopped driving so it wouldn't give me options. They left me alone, because everytime I tried bringing up the fact that I was not in a good place, my sister was disorganizing at school and they needed to go to the hospital to be both there for her while she fainted from hyperventilating. Every fcking time I was talking to my sister, she was acting like she lived trough everything and was telling me she knew more about suicidal thoughts than me cause she went to psychiatry. Excuse me miss gurl, but who was fcking there to help you trough your panic attacks hun? How do you think I know so much?
Seeing I had practically no support from my already exhausted parents, I took matters into my own hands and started going to therapy. My doctor also prescribed me with anti-depressants. I was going to be ok... on my own. I've had really bad days, real hard ones. But I got back on my two feet. At least, I think so.
School was over and it was time for summer break. I had a job I loved on a boat. I've had a blast on that boat, I wasn't jumping from a house to another, I wasn't always in luggages, I had my own room like a little appartment of my own on the ship. I slowly started to discover a backpacking/adventurous side of myself. I needed air, was travelling far from home as soon as I had a week or two off of the boat.
At the same time, my sister had stopped self-harming and having suicidal thoughts. She's was now in a school for adults to finish her 4th and 5th year of college. She wasn't in a special classroom anymore. Changed friend group.
But here's the thing. Cause there is always a "but".
I started realising how much my sister was toying with us, with my parents. As soon as the diagnosis fell, she became unsufferable. For example, when I say I hate loud noises and strong light, she says she has it tougher because, ya know, "i'm autistic". I can't say something without her saying she has autism and that's why she has it worse.
When I have a good grade or I've hit a PR at the gym, I tell my parents because I am happy. I try to see life the good way, now. I'm quite proud of all the personal work i've done.
But she can't have a normal day.
It is always "ho I hated school because the light was making a sound" or something to point out she has autism.
I talked to one of my friend who is a social worker, and he told me autism is usually apparent in children. My sis was diagnosed at 15. But, and hear me out, all the things that make her autistic according to her psychiatrist... she's never really had them before.
You remember at the beginning of this rant how I told you I know when my sister is lying?
Well. I don't think an autistic person possess the flex of "being able to manipulate people so easily to get what you want".
She's always bragging about how smart she is compared to us because, you know, "ShE cAn FeElS eNeRgiEs AnD pEoPlE AnD iT AfFeCts hEr". Well, honey, I don't think that is autism. It is always little comment about how special she is because she can't do this, or that. Like I have ADHD, alright? I'm stimming all the time. I don't point it out to people for fun, actually, i'm quite ashamed of it sometimes. She bought all those fidget toys and brings them ALL to school to show how much she needs them.
One reason of why I am mad, as you can (unfortunatly) see, is my father's attitude.
The fact that my sis had episodes of suicidal thoughts and acts traumatized him. With reasons, don't get me wrong.
But now, she's clearly living well of drama and stereotypical behavior she never had before.
My father is fucking afraid of telling her no.
Like man, I don't think that if you ask her to unload the dishwasher ONE FUCKI*NG time that she's going to kill herself. Like come on.
One time, she called him cause she fainted cause she was hyperventilating cause the cleaner at her school wore a different hat than usual. Or another time where she learn that two teachers were eating togueter at lunch and not in the cafeteria?
I know my sister. She is clearly using him. She's got him hooked with a silent threat of hurting herself or making it impossible for him to receive a phone call without thinking she committed.
And. She. Fucking. Knows. It.
She left my mother's house because my mom wasn't buying her shit.
She left with all her drama about how she could appologize but she needs her space to think about what she (mom) did.
BRUH did what?!?!?!? It was so sudden, what are you on about?
All her life, she was good at one thing : breaking people's relationship.
I know, because I'm not blind.
She's the type of person that looks at you after saying your deepest secret in front of everyone and be like : "oups teeheeš¤Ŗ you know i can't keep a secret" or she plays dumb "i didn't know it was a secret oupsis" with this little dumb face that I know by heart means "I win you fuck*ng idiot".
She broke the good relationship my parents had by pretending mom told her something when it wasn't right or vice versa. When she's at dad's, she always talks about all the things mom does that sucks. When she was at mom, she was always talking about how bad it was at dad.
I was in the middle like , bruh, it isn't even that bad. And of course, my parents both being proud individuals started feeling supperior than the other and downgrading the other in front of us (wich you know my sis was repeating over and over to everyone).
But because my parents are fucking blind they let her riled them up against each others. So now they don't talk. And when they do, it is always to argue about how to take care of my sis.
To make a clear example of how she gets everything she wants :
She always tells me that she wants a Mira dog. Like a service dog. She's going to keep creating dramatic scenarios like that until my father cries and decides it is the last option we have.
But no. After the dog, it is going to be another need for neurodivergent people that she's probably going to see on Tik Tok.
Because yes, she faints and yes, she is hyperventilating. But I can create scenario in my head and make them real too (maladaptive daydreaming oups). Anxiety works like that : if I start hyperventilating for 45 seconds, my body jumps to survival mode and the mammoth thing ang boom, there you have your panic attack.
Yes. She is mentally hill.
But she's not autistic. She does not need a service dog. And she can't continue leading people on like that.
She's in need of negative attention. She hates when we compliment her, she hates when we wish her happy brithday and all. But she's always talking about how she did bad at this exam and ho people please comfort me. There's always something going on with her.
She stopped self-harming and having suicidal toughts. People started living normally.
So she restarts panic attacks but she already has a psychiatrist so she needs more.
Lets go to the hospital, something's wrong with my heart. Then she's got the pleasure of walking around school with a machine to record her heart thingy.
Nope. Nothing wrong.
People start forgetting.
Whoops now she's fainting and we don't know why.
Hospital trip yeah.
Nothing's wrong.
Then she buys a machine to keep track of her blood pressure.
Does a doctor prescribed it?
Nope. You can just buy it so she did. And she could do it like in the morning, at lunch or at night, but no, she absolutly needs to do it in front of everyone, making noise in class while the teacher is talking.
And i'm starting to get fed up.
About a year into this nightmare, 3 years ago, I stopped feeling.
I wasn't able to feel anything. And that is why, today, I can write this and unfortunatly for some, it will be controversial.
After my downfall, when my sister was in need...
I did not care.
At all.
She could do whatever she wanted to do. She could have as much trip to the hospital as she wanted.
I . Did . Not . Care .
I was going to class.
And my phone was on silent.
I don't want to know. I don't care. Don't you get it? Mom, dad, leave me alone. You did it well, right? Continue.
I am an horrible human being. My best friend tries to comfort me saying that my heart of stone is a form of self-protection, a defense mechanism that I developped 3 years to protect myself and not live trough what my sister put us trough without knowing (or caring?).
Still.
I am an egoist.
But I do not care.
You want to make me feel like a glass child?
Alright alright.
I'll deal with it.
But now the glass is fed up.
And it is about to break.
Good bye and thank you.
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" Glass children are those who are growing up in a home where a sibling takes up a disproportionate amount of parental energy "
Well. Disclaimer : I am not a child, alright, I am 20. But I've been thinking a lot about the last 10 years of my life, and I am, as much as it pains me, a glass child and I've been since my sister's born.
I want to be heard, you do wathever you want with this post. Treat it like a AITA thingy if you want.
Now back to my sis, Of course, at first, it was (I thought) only because I was the first born, the big sis, you know.
But 3 years ago, my sister discovered Tik Tok. Everyone knows Tik Tok, right? Well, we all know what kind of stuff we can find on that app! I, myself, found the description of a "glass child" there. I use Tik Tok frequently.
My sister always had problems with her friends. When she was younger, she was always in the middle of some arguing between two or three girls, never really had a day where she wasn't coming home with what I call "girl's gangs" problems (you know when two best friends suddenly split and get mad and get other friends to form like alliances and stuff to b*tch on the others? Ya know, old stuff, we've all been there).
She was never wrong in those situations. She was coming home laughing about how she was the peacemaker and never creating problems of some sort. Thing is, I know my sister. Like the back of my hand. Alright? I just... know when she's lying. Still, to this day, she always brags about how good she is to manipulate people and make them do what she wants. Alrighty girl, weird flex.
Well, she got to high school (what we call secondary one in Canada), and then, she started having anxiety. Like panic attacks and all? I've had those, still do these days, so I understood. I became her protector, her therapist, calming her down when my mother critized her for exagerating. I knew what to do, and I gave up all my energy to take care of her, of her mental health, as a good old sister does.
She made it to the second year of high school (secondary 2) with difficulties. Panic attacks again and all. 3 years ago, as I said, she discovered Tik Tok. I know Tik Tok and its algorithm : there are specific fyp where you can find videos about the same topic over and over again. I suspect she was in a dark side of Tik Tok, a depressed one, where you can see all sort of sad/depressing things and stories (I know, I've been there too, now trying to avoid it as much as I can because it affects me mentally and I start spiralling).
Cutting her hair short ( I guess the "funny mentally hill" trend where you cut your hair on a headbutt and dye it, I know, been there too).
Sexuality explored too. Like she was trans for a while and wanted us to call her another name (she isn't anymore, she told me so about 3 months in). I always respected her choices and calling her what she wanted to be called at that time. She was a kid, she was 13, so she was discovering herself and her preferences and all. No problem with that.
She started hanging out with some people like that too. She had a non-binary friend, a trans one, a furry one, etc. She was having fun with them. Great people. She finally had a group.
Some of them, however, had the same experiences we all hear about on Tik Tok. You know, some of them not in a great home, or in a bad relationship with parents, depression, anxiety. Hate to say it, but you know those people on Tik Tok who (unfortunatly) are bullied on the internet for being... like... huuuuh (wondering how to say that without insulting anyone) like stereotypical? Like... you know those who wants a cat litter in a classroom in a unironical way? Some of her friend were a little extremist on that plan. Again, never really bothered me.
We have two parents, a mom and a dad. They divorced when I was 7. My sister was 3. They never fought in front of us, never heard them, it was really a suprise. They went their separate ways. Me and my sis got used to go to each of them for a week, and then go back to the other for a week. It was fine, working good. My parents are both accountants, my mom teaching it too. I had a strong disagreement with my mom in 2019 about one of her (numerous) boyfriends. The only one i really hated with all my heart. This resulted in me leaving her house for about a year. My sis was still doing 1 week/1 week. Apart of that, my parents are pretty basic ones, never abused us and we always had everything we needed.
I started college. I loved it, still do, and was finally starting my life as an adult, I started a great job, was doing good in school and... was still helping my sister and my parents with her anxiety/ panic attacks. Even learn in my degree how to deal with people who disorganize.
Then, the cutting started. A lot of her friend were doing it, she told me. And then she started having those episodes where she was cutting herself. Never with something sharp, like a knife or else. But with like compass and crayons? Then, she started having suicidal thoughts. Then, and that is where it all went down, she called 911 for suicidal thoughts. She was home alone and the police called my mom.
What had she done? Scratch herself... with a pencil.
I've had panic attacks before. And suicidal thoughts that crossed my mind but I never acted on them. Never. And I can't imagine myself doing it. I talked about it, of course, with my best friend, someone I trusted and it was making me feel better. How did I know my sister was doing that and having those thoughts? She just said it, casually, at dinner with the whole family. Like... girl? It really got the mood down, everyone worried and she was like... glowing? I don't know how to say it.
She was always a bit dramatic and had a way of making everything about herself, but it was never about negative things. More like flexing a good grade or whatever. She was always talking about how depressed she was, how she was suicidal, and the things she was saying were... like straight up a depressing tik tok. Like one day I found something she said ( I think it was like "you don't understand how this feels it is like blablabla i don't remember) WORD FOR WORD in a Tik Tok. It is like she wasn't expressing her feelings, but made up phrases you find on the Internet when you type "panic attacks" or "depression".
After a second call to 911 for taking 10 advils, she got admitted to psychiatry. At that time, I was watching my parents fall appart, running around to appointments for her, my dad having stress acnea (at 45) and both of them exhausted. It was a real drama. Everyone in the family talked about it. It was the only subject of discussion, the only thing that was on everyone's mind.
I was hanging out my seat in class with my phone on my belly to be sure to feel it vibrate if something happened. We were all in a bad place.
And then, we got a diagnosis of autism.
I'm sorry, what? Where does that come from? I mean, alright, we'll deal with that one.
But then. That's where all went down for me. Sis started therapy, changed school, went to an adapted classroom for people like her and with disabilities. My parents were still all over the place.
Except where I needed them.
I was 18, at that time, starting adulthood. I have ADHD. It is really hard for me to respect a schedule, think about every appointments I have, every homework, every luggage I can't forget to bring to mom's or to dad's. I was also giving my all in school, never missed anything, straight A's and working my ass off.
I started realising that everytime my parents texted me was to ask/talk about my sis.
Every. Single. Time.
They'd ask me to bring my sister her lunch that she forgot, to go get her when she was down, or get her to her appointments like I didn't have a whole fu**ing life I was trying so hard to keep on line.
I gave all my free time to her needs and my parents's. I educated myself on autism, defended her when my mom was thinking she was faking because I wanted to prove I was there for her. That I was the life saving good sister. I never, ever, heard her say thank you.
Never.
The only compliments my parents were giving me is "thank you for getting your sis for us. Thank you for being there for her. Thank you for doing things with her."
I went trough some stuff, at that time. I hurt my knee and was failing my physical tests. It got to the point I wasn't even sure I liked my degree anymore. I was having a really hard time. But my parents never saw my pain. I have a tendency to hide things, sure, but I was really trying to talk to them about how I was feeling. They were listening, and letting go. Why didn't they start worrying for me like they did for my sister? I don't know, don't really care now. I was having suicidal thoughts too, I wanted to yeet myself in a tree and even stopped driving so it wouldn't give me options. They left me alone, because everytime I tried bringing up the fact that I was not in a good place, my sister was disorganizing at school and they needed to go to the hospital to be both there for her while she fainted from hyperventilating. Every fcking time I was talking to my sister, she was acting like she lived trough everything and was telling me she knew more about suicidal thoughts than me cause she went to psychiatry. Excuse me miss gurl, but who was fcking there to help you trough your panic attacks hun? How do you think I know so much?
Seeing I had practically no support from my already exhausted parents, I took matters into my own hands and started going to therapy. My doctor also prescribed me with anti-depressants. I was going to be ok... on my own. I've had really bad days, real hard ones. But I got back on my two feet. At least, I think so.
School was over and it was time for summer break. I had a job I loved on a boat. I've had a blast on that boat, I wasn't jumping from a house to another, I wasn't always in luggages, I had my own room like a little appartment of my own on the ship. I slowly started to discover a backpacking/adventurous side of myself. I needed air, was travelling far from home as soon as I had a week or two off of the boat.
At the same time, my sister had stopped self-harming and having suicidal thoughts. She's was now in a school for adults to finish her 4th and 5th year of college. She wasn't in a special classroom anymore. Changed friend group.
But here's the thing. Cause there is always a "but".
I started realising how much my sister was toying with us, with my parents. As soon as the diagnosis fell, she became unsufferable. For example, when I say I hate loud noises and strong light, she says she has it tougher because, ya know, "i'm autistic". I can't say something without her saying she has autism and that's why she has it worse.
When I have a good grade or I've hit a PR at the gym, I tell my parents because I am happy. I try to see life the good way, now. I'm quite proud of all the personal work i've done.
But she can't have a normal day.
It is always "ho I hated school because the light was making a sound" or something to point out she has autism.
I talked to one of my friend who is a social worker, and he told me autism is usually apparent in children. My sis was diagnosed at 15. But, and hear me out, all the things that make her autistic according to her psychiatrist... she's never really had them before.
You remember at the beginning of this rant how I told you I know when my sister is lying?
Well. I don't think an autistic person possess the flex of "being able to manipulate people so easily to get what you want".
She's always bragging about how smart she is compared to us because, you know, "ShE cAn FeElS eNeRgiEs AnD pEoPlE AnD iT AfFeCts hEr". Well, honey, I don't think that is autism. It is always little comment about how special she is because she can't do this, or that. Like I have ADHD, alright? I'm stimming all the time. I don't point it out to people for fun, actually, i'm quite ashamed of it sometimes. She bought all those fidget toys and brings them ALL to school to show how much she needs them.
One reason of why I am mad, as you can (unfortunatly) see, is my father's attitude.
The fact that my sis had episodes of suicidal thoughts and acts traumatized him. With reasons, don't get me wrong.
But now, she's clearly living well of drama and stereotypical behavior she never had before.
My father is fucking afraid of telling her no.
Like man, I don't think that if you ask her to unload the dishwasher ONE FUCKI*NG time that she's going to kill herself. Like come on.
One time, she called him cause she fainted cause she was hyperventilating cause the cleaner at her school wore a different hat than usual. Or another time where she learn that two teachers were eating togueter at lunch and not in the cafeteria?
I know my sister. She is clearly using him. She's got him hooked with a silent threat of hurting herself or making it impossible for him to receive a phone call without thinking she committed.
And. She. Fucking. Knows. It.
She left my mother's house because my mom wasn't buying her shit.
She left with all her drama about how she could appologize but she needs her space to think about what she (mom) did.
BRUH did what?!?!?!? It was so sudden, what are you on about?
All her life, she was good at one thing : breaking people's relationship.
I know, because I'm not blind.
She's the type of person that looks at you after saying your deepest secret in front of everyone and be like : "oups teeheeš¤Ŗ you know i can't keep a secret" or she plays dumb "i didn't know it was a secret oupsis" with this little dumb face that I know by heart means "I win you fuck*ng idiot".
She broke the good relationship my parents had by pretending mom told her something when it wasn't right or vice versa. When she's at dad's, she always talks about all the things mom does that sucks. When she was at mom, she was always talking about how bad it was at dad.
I was in the middle like , bruh, it isn't even that bad. And of course, my parents both being proud individuals started feeling supperior than the other and downgrading the other in front of us (wich you know my sis was repeating over and over to everyone).
But because my parents are fucking blind they let her riled them up against each others. So now they don't talk. And when they do, it is always to argue about how to take care of my sis.
To make a clear example of how she gets everything she wants :
She always tells me that she wants a Mira dog. Like a service dog. She's going to keep creating dramatic scenarios like that until my father cries and decides it is the last option we have.
But no. After the dog, it is going to be another need for neurodivergent people that she's probably going to see on Tik Tok.
Because yes, she faints and yes, she is hyperventilating. But I can create scenario in my head and make them real too (maladaptive daydreaming oups). Anxiety works like that : if I start hyperventilating for 45 seconds, my body jumps to survival mode and the mammoth thing ang boom, there you have your panic attack.
Yes. She is mentally hill.
But she's not autistic. She does not need a service dog. And she can't continue leading people on like that.
She's in need of negative attention. She hates when we compliment her, she hates when we wish her happy brithday and all. But she's always talking about how she did bad at this exam and ho people please comfort me. There's always something going on with her.
She stopped self-harming and having suicidal toughts. People started living normally.
So she restarts panic attacks but she already has a psychiatrist so she needs more.
Lets go to the hospital, something's wrong with my heart. Then she's got the pleasure of walking around school with a machine to record her heart thingy.
Nope. Nothing wrong.
People start forgetting.
Whoops now she's fainting and we don't know why.
Hospital trip yeah.
Nothing's wrong.
Then she buys a machine to keep track of her blood pressure.
Does a doctor prescribed it?
Nope. You can just buy it so she did. And she could do it like in the morning, at lunch or at night, but no, she absolutly needs to do it in front of everyone, making noise in class while the teacher is talking.
And i'm starting to get fed up.
About a year into this nightmare, 3 years ago, I stopped feeling.
I wasn't able to feel anything. And that is why, today, I can write this and unfortunatly for some, it will be controversial.
After my downfall, when my sister was in need...
I did not care.
At all.
She could do whatever she wanted to do. She could have as much trip to the hospital as she wanted.
I . Did . Not . Care .
I was going to class.
And my phone was on silent.
I don't want to know. I don't care. Don't you get it? Mom, dad, leave me alone. You did it well, right? Continue.
I am an horrible human being. My best friend tries to comfort me saying that my heart of stone is a form of self-protection, a defense mechanism that I developped 3 years to protect myself and not live trough what my sister put us trough without knowing (or caring?).
Still.
I am an egoist.
But I do not care.
You want to make me feel like a glass child?
Alright alright.
I'll deal with it.
But now the glass is fed up.
And it is about to break.
Good bye and thank you.
2023.03.25 02:42 Jamie12610 I need an outsiders opinion.
Hey, everyone. I have lurked here for a while, and I just wanted to get confirmation that I am not the crazy one here.
I will try to keep this as neutral as possible, I would like honest opinions. I am also going to be kinda vague on the specifics, try to keep this semi - anonymous.
I am the middle child of two sisters. I have older sister (OS) and younger sister (YS). I am 24, OS is 25, YS is 20.The middle child syndrome was real growing up, even my sisters can admit that. Honestly, the only person who denies it is my dad. OS is married and lives with my BIL with their kid. YS and I live at home with our dad. Our parents are divorced since I was in high school. I could go on and on about how it was growing up, but that is not what this post is for.
Alright, so this begins all the way back at Christmas. My dad's girlfriend has moved in with us. YS and I don't really like her. There was some drama when she moved in, and YS never really got over it. So Christmas comes, and I picked out a generic gift and asked my sisters if they wanted to spilt the cost. I told them before I bought it what the approximate cost each would be. They both agreed. I purchased the gift, and told them the cost each. It was actually like a few dollars less. OS had no issues, but all of a sudden YS refused to pay for it. Saying she never agreed to pay that much and she isn't going to pay that much, citing the drama from when girlfriend first moved in. It came out of nowhere, and both OS and I were shocked. She agreed literally the day before to pay the amount, which was about $40.
It caused this huge fight. OS and I were confused by her change of mind. She was fine with it the day before, but now suddenly she is not? YS and I did not talk for a few days, until YS yelled at me for taking a shower that she deemed too long. It was about 30 min, not that long in my opinion. She came home that day in a mood, so I know she wasn't mad at me, she was just looking for a fight. I fell for it, and told her not to take her anger out on me.
That was the wrong thing to say. It blew up into this huge fight. I admit, I said somethings I shouldn't have said. I told her she needed to be medicated (nothing wrong with being medicated, i have a small pharmacy in my room for my own issues) and she wasn't doing anything with her life. At the time, she had no job, wasn't in school, etc. The medicated comment is because OS, mom, and I believe that she is bipolar. She is at the age where it starts to manifest, we have a lot of mental health issues in our family.
She said equally mean things to me, which I don't remember. I know how that sounds, but it's a coping mechanism of mine. If I don't try and block it out, the mean things get stuck in my head on a loop and it sends me into a depressive episode. The next day she goes to moms house, and get in a huge fight with OS and mom. Things that I said to YS in our fight , YS said to OS in thier fight. Mom and YS have always had a strained relationship, so them fighting is honestly nothing new. YS insulted OS child, and OS has cut YS off completely, no contact since then.
Things proceed like this for a while. Little to no talking between YS and I. YS will start acting normal again, and then I will get whiplash, because all of a sudden she is mad at me again. No one can keep up with her mood swings. She talks to her friend on the phone a lot, and within the same phone call she can be laughing, then screaming, then laughing again. She rearranged the entire kitchen at midnight one night because she didn't like the layout, which I think was a manic episode.
Earlier this week, I thought things were ok again. When she starts being nice again, I go along with it cause I am not trying to stress out Dad due to medical issues he is having. She started a new job in the field I work in (a field she insulted me for working in) and I asked her what her job title was. She told me that I was not entitled to any information about her life cause of how I have been treating her. (Note, she is no longer entitled to information about OS) I said ok, I will remember that next time you need something from me. She then proclaimed that I never do anything for her, and that no one ever does anything for her, except dad. At this point I just stopped engaging with her and ignored her. She kept going and called me a psyco (something I called her) until she stomped off to her room.
I am trying to not engage or make things worse, but her comment about me never doing anything for her really bothered me. She took her car to my work to have them take a look at it. She calls me at all hours of the night to kill spiders for her. I check and see if she needs anything if I run out to Walmart or something. I am not saying I do everything for her, but I do things you do for your sisters.
I decided that if she thinks I don't do anything for her, then fine, I'll stop. I pay for the Disney + account, so I kicked her off of it. Paying for the account and letting her use it would be doing something for her, so no more of that. My dad got mad at me when he found out about that, not really sure why. He called me the other day because YS asked him for the password. Didn't even ask me, the one who pays for the account, for the password. She tried to sneak around me and ask dad for the password. I told him no, she is not allowed to use my account. As far as I know, he is now going to be paying for an account for her to use. (He cannot afford that, he is awful with money.)
I know it is not just me causing all these fights. She seems to be fighting with everyone. I came home from work today and she was yelling at someone on the phone in her car for at least 20 minutes before she came inside. I was watching TV in the living room while typing this, she walks out of her room, heaves a huge sigh, and slams the front door so loud I thought she broke something. I didn't even look at her, but I am now hiding out in my room to avoid her.
She has ruled my life for years. My dad enables her due to guilt from when she lived with my mom. That could be its own post. My dad refuses to do anything to help YS, such as therapy, because he didn't do anything for her when she lived with mom. So now he doesn't want to do anything that will make her unhappy. She doesn't even have to unload the dishwasher, because, and I quote, "they are not her dishes." No, she does not have her own sets of dishes that she uses separate. She uses the same dishes as the rest of us. I don't get it either.
If you have read this far, you are a trooper. We have now come to the main issue. Am I in the wrong here? Im not crazy, and this is not normal behaviour, right? I am so sick and tired of being scared of YS moods. I have decided to go no contact as best as possible. I know that may make things worse (she doesn't like being ignored), but I can't handle her anymore. Does she seem bipolar to you, based on what I have described? I know I am biased in my opinion of her, so I tried to be as neutral as possible. I know I am not blameless. When she decides to be nice, I love being around her. But when she is in a bad mood, just being in the wrong place is enough to set her off.
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I will try to keep this as neutral as possible, I would like honest opinions. I am also going to be kinda vague on the specifics, try to keep this semi - anonymous.
I am the middle child of two sisters. I have older sister (OS) and younger sister (YS). I am 24, OS is 25, YS is 20.The middle child syndrome was real growing up, even my sisters can admit that. Honestly, the only person who denies it is my dad. OS is married and lives with my BIL with their kid. YS and I live at home with our dad. Our parents are divorced since I was in high school. I could go on and on about how it was growing up, but that is not what this post is for.
Alright, so this begins all the way back at Christmas. My dad's girlfriend has moved in with us. YS and I don't really like her. There was some drama when she moved in, and YS never really got over it. So Christmas comes, and I picked out a generic gift and asked my sisters if they wanted to spilt the cost. I told them before I bought it what the approximate cost each would be. They both agreed. I purchased the gift, and told them the cost each. It was actually like a few dollars less. OS had no issues, but all of a sudden YS refused to pay for it. Saying she never agreed to pay that much and she isn't going to pay that much, citing the drama from when girlfriend first moved in. It came out of nowhere, and both OS and I were shocked. She agreed literally the day before to pay the amount, which was about $40.
It caused this huge fight. OS and I were confused by her change of mind. She was fine with it the day before, but now suddenly she is not? YS and I did not talk for a few days, until YS yelled at me for taking a shower that she deemed too long. It was about 30 min, not that long in my opinion. She came home that day in a mood, so I know she wasn't mad at me, she was just looking for a fight. I fell for it, and told her not to take her anger out on me.
That was the wrong thing to say. It blew up into this huge fight. I admit, I said somethings I shouldn't have said. I told her she needed to be medicated (nothing wrong with being medicated, i have a small pharmacy in my room for my own issues) and she wasn't doing anything with her life. At the time, she had no job, wasn't in school, etc. The medicated comment is because OS, mom, and I believe that she is bipolar. She is at the age where it starts to manifest, we have a lot of mental health issues in our family.
She said equally mean things to me, which I don't remember. I know how that sounds, but it's a coping mechanism of mine. If I don't try and block it out, the mean things get stuck in my head on a loop and it sends me into a depressive episode. The next day she goes to moms house, and get in a huge fight with OS and mom. Things that I said to YS in our fight , YS said to OS in thier fight. Mom and YS have always had a strained relationship, so them fighting is honestly nothing new. YS insulted OS child, and OS has cut YS off completely, no contact since then.
Things proceed like this for a while. Little to no talking between YS and I. YS will start acting normal again, and then I will get whiplash, because all of a sudden she is mad at me again. No one can keep up with her mood swings. She talks to her friend on the phone a lot, and within the same phone call she can be laughing, then screaming, then laughing again. She rearranged the entire kitchen at midnight one night because she didn't like the layout, which I think was a manic episode.
Earlier this week, I thought things were ok again. When she starts being nice again, I go along with it cause I am not trying to stress out Dad due to medical issues he is having. She started a new job in the field I work in (a field she insulted me for working in) and I asked her what her job title was. She told me that I was not entitled to any information about her life cause of how I have been treating her. (Note, she is no longer entitled to information about OS) I said ok, I will remember that next time you need something from me. She then proclaimed that I never do anything for her, and that no one ever does anything for her, except dad. At this point I just stopped engaging with her and ignored her. She kept going and called me a psyco (something I called her) until she stomped off to her room.
I am trying to not engage or make things worse, but her comment about me never doing anything for her really bothered me. She took her car to my work to have them take a look at it. She calls me at all hours of the night to kill spiders for her. I check and see if she needs anything if I run out to Walmart or something. I am not saying I do everything for her, but I do things you do for your sisters.
I decided that if she thinks I don't do anything for her, then fine, I'll stop. I pay for the Disney + account, so I kicked her off of it. Paying for the account and letting her use it would be doing something for her, so no more of that. My dad got mad at me when he found out about that, not really sure why. He called me the other day because YS asked him for the password. Didn't even ask me, the one who pays for the account, for the password. She tried to sneak around me and ask dad for the password. I told him no, she is not allowed to use my account. As far as I know, he is now going to be paying for an account for her to use. (He cannot afford that, he is awful with money.)
I know it is not just me causing all these fights. She seems to be fighting with everyone. I came home from work today and she was yelling at someone on the phone in her car for at least 20 minutes before she came inside. I was watching TV in the living room while typing this, she walks out of her room, heaves a huge sigh, and slams the front door so loud I thought she broke something. I didn't even look at her, but I am now hiding out in my room to avoid her.
She has ruled my life for years. My dad enables her due to guilt from when she lived with my mom. That could be its own post. My dad refuses to do anything to help YS, such as therapy, because he didn't do anything for her when she lived with mom. So now he doesn't want to do anything that will make her unhappy. She doesn't even have to unload the dishwasher, because, and I quote, "they are not her dishes." No, she does not have her own sets of dishes that she uses separate. She uses the same dishes as the rest of us. I don't get it either.
If you have read this far, you are a trooper. We have now come to the main issue. Am I in the wrong here? Im not crazy, and this is not normal behaviour, right? I am so sick and tired of being scared of YS moods. I have decided to go no contact as best as possible. I know that may make things worse (she doesn't like being ignored), but I can't handle her anymore. Does she seem bipolar to you, based on what I have described? I know I am biased in my opinion of her, so I tried to be as neutral as possible. I know I am not blameless. When she decides to be nice, I love being around her. But when she is in a bad mood, just being in the wrong place is enough to set her off.
2023.03.25 02:41 SoItWouldBe My friend has been diagnosed with Autoimmune disease (this story gets crazy)
to not make this insanely long, my friend has been recently diagnosed with Auto immune ( HLA-B27 ) and the cycle of this story gets crazy, she just turns 20 and her health hits an all time low, she gets random "flare ups" that cause her his and legs to be in excruciating pain, where it "feels like her hips and legs are being thrown into lava, every single night she cries to sleep only to be knocked out by the exshaustion.
she went to the doctors for help when it started, and living in florida you know things can be fucking terrible with the healthcare system there. her primary doctor diagnosed her with (drum roll please...........) vitamin D Deficiency, and obviously, the pills for that never worked... after a month more of pain, she goes back and they take more blood samples and do tests, and her primary doctor reccomends her to go get a spinal tap and a nurologist to see whats wrong...
the nurologist takes (quite litterally) a CVS recipt of blood samples and tests to see whats wrong, so much blood it taken out she passes out. she skipped the spinal tap because her primary doctor calls and confirms that she has autoimmune (HLA-B27) and that the spinal tap would make things way worse.
now here is the kicker, in this time frame, its december 2022, her medical insurance expired jan 2023, she needs to go to a rheumatology to see what Auto Immune she exactly has and if it can be treated, the closest appointment? April 25th... she tried working a dishwasher job and a retail store job before her conditions got to this point, she loses both jobs due to the severe pain of this disease, collapsing at both jobs because of the pain, and then getting basically fired due to (liability issues) gotta love florida.
so basically, she can't find a job because of her disease, she can't get medicare with out pay stubs, she needs to go to thie rheumatology appointment with no insurance, and best of all? she got medical bills prior to this because of the insane pain and flareups she has. so yea, well. this sucks!
as of rightnow she's trying to find a remote job, i've been helping her with some bills and i built her a better pc for a chance to work a remote job, as of right now she still looking, she started a gofundme to help, i'm willing to cover some costs for this appointment but, with her luck, we don't know whats gonna happen.
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she went to the doctors for help when it started, and living in florida you know things can be fucking terrible with the healthcare system there. her primary doctor diagnosed her with (drum roll please...........) vitamin D Deficiency, and obviously, the pills for that never worked... after a month more of pain, she goes back and they take more blood samples and do tests, and her primary doctor reccomends her to go get a spinal tap and a nurologist to see whats wrong...
the nurologist takes (quite litterally) a CVS recipt of blood samples and tests to see whats wrong, so much blood it taken out she passes out. she skipped the spinal tap because her primary doctor calls and confirms that she has autoimmune (HLA-B27) and that the spinal tap would make things way worse.
now here is the kicker, in this time frame, its december 2022, her medical insurance expired jan 2023, she needs to go to a rheumatology to see what Auto Immune she exactly has and if it can be treated, the closest appointment? April 25th... she tried working a dishwasher job and a retail store job before her conditions got to this point, she loses both jobs due to the severe pain of this disease, collapsing at both jobs because of the pain, and then getting basically fired due to (liability issues) gotta love florida.
so basically, she can't find a job because of her disease, she can't get medicare with out pay stubs, she needs to go to thie rheumatology appointment with no insurance, and best of all? she got medical bills prior to this because of the insane pain and flareups she has. so yea, well. this sucks!
as of rightnow she's trying to find a remote job, i've been helping her with some bills and i built her a better pc for a chance to work a remote job, as of right now she still looking, she started a gofundme to help, i'm willing to cover some costs for this appointment but, with her luck, we don't know whats gonna happen.
2023.03.25 00:15 BiPickleBear 21F/27M, advice on household chores
Background: I met my husband, letās call him Mike to keep it anonymous, in April of 2022. We got engaged in June of 2022 and married in January of 2023. We met in college while participating in the same program.
My husband was raised with parents who are very very rich and his mother took care of all of the cooking/cleaning. Where I grew up with only my father, so I was in charge of cooking and cleaning since I was 10.
The issue: My husband and I current contribute 50/50 financially for bills, but I found I was doing all of the housework including grocery shopping and cooking. I wouldnāt have an issue with this if he was taking more care of me financially, but he isnāt. In addition, weāve been letting one of his friends stay in our spare bedroom (he pays a portion of bills) while heās inbetween places. The friend is very dirty and never cleans anything and the bathroom got disgusting for me to do because it would be covered in boy pubes and toothpaste grime. We had a conversation and although I wanted to split things more evenly, he doesnāt āknowā how to do a lot of things. I settled on that if he kept up the bathroom really nice that it was fine that I did literally everything else.
The issue now becomes that he doesnāt keep up with the bathroom. He says that he doesnāt see the things that I think are ādirtyā. I have taken him into the bathroom at least 4 separate times since this has become his responsibility (September of 2022 so about 6mo) to explain the things that are dirty and why they need to be cleaned. When he does clean it he asks me what products to use and how to do it. The first few times were fine because I can understand that he wasnāt taught these things, but now itās become annoying. The point of him taking the bathroom was so that it wouldnāt be on my plate. But he does the absolute bare minimum every single time he does it so itās never actually fully clean. I thought that it might just be time and practice he needs so Iāve tried to be patient and nice. Heās been receptive to our conversations and accepts that he needs to improve but I donāt feel like he ever actually changes anything.
Iāve left this topic alone for a while because I donāt want our āroommate issuesā to become āmarriage issuesā because at the end of the day itās just a bathroom. But, Iām wearing thin.
I am a vegan and gluten free so I have to cook all my food. I had a surgery in January and we had a conversation about it because I wouldnāt be able to keep up with the house or cook for a few weeks while I healed. I specifically asked him to keep up with the dishes and make me food during this time. I offered to show him how to cook my food ahead of time but he declined it every time. So, to help him get through taking care of me I prepped some meals. When I was hungry he fed me that. After the peeped food ran out he started to act upset when Iād tell him I needed food. Heād roll his eyes, sigh, and say he didnāt want to make anything. So id be hungry for like 4+ hours before Iād actually get fed.
2 days into that and I talked to him about it. I said it was unacceptable behavior. He apologized and made me food. The next day he tried to make me food, but asked me how to do it. I told him to Google it because Iād offered to show him weeks ago and I physically couldnāt with my healing process. I knew his cooking wouldnāt be mine but he wouldnāt even Google how to make the food and it was unbearable.
Now, Iām able to cook for myself BUT he did not keep up with the dishes like I asked. So literally every single dish is dirty. I said something a week ago and he said heād work on it. Nothing for 2 days so I asked again. He did one load. Itās been three more days and he unloaded the dishwasher and has yet to do another. Itās now at a point where I donāt have dishes to make myself food and with my diet I have to cook.
Iām just at a loss. I take care of so much. Weāve had conversations about this and he apologizes but nothing is changing. I donāt know what to do or what to say to him at this point. Is this sexism? What do I do?
More context: I graduated my program last month. He left the program a few months ago because itās not what he wanted. We are both currently unemployed. Iāve been trying to get him to apply to jobs but heās been not going to school and not working since October of 2022. It would have been so nice for him to take care of the house and cooking while I finished my program but I still did everything even though he wasnāt doing anything. He started applying in February and has only applied to like 6 positions and hasnāt head anything from any of them. I know heās been struggling emotionally so motivation has been hard but itās been so long at this point Iām loosing my empathy. He spends most of his day playing video games.
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My husband was raised with parents who are very very rich and his mother took care of all of the cooking/cleaning. Where I grew up with only my father, so I was in charge of cooking and cleaning since I was 10.
The issue: My husband and I current contribute 50/50 financially for bills, but I found I was doing all of the housework including grocery shopping and cooking. I wouldnāt have an issue with this if he was taking more care of me financially, but he isnāt. In addition, weāve been letting one of his friends stay in our spare bedroom (he pays a portion of bills) while heās inbetween places. The friend is very dirty and never cleans anything and the bathroom got disgusting for me to do because it would be covered in boy pubes and toothpaste grime. We had a conversation and although I wanted to split things more evenly, he doesnāt āknowā how to do a lot of things. I settled on that if he kept up the bathroom really nice that it was fine that I did literally everything else.
The issue now becomes that he doesnāt keep up with the bathroom. He says that he doesnāt see the things that I think are ādirtyā. I have taken him into the bathroom at least 4 separate times since this has become his responsibility (September of 2022 so about 6mo) to explain the things that are dirty and why they need to be cleaned. When he does clean it he asks me what products to use and how to do it. The first few times were fine because I can understand that he wasnāt taught these things, but now itās become annoying. The point of him taking the bathroom was so that it wouldnāt be on my plate. But he does the absolute bare minimum every single time he does it so itās never actually fully clean. I thought that it might just be time and practice he needs so Iāve tried to be patient and nice. Heās been receptive to our conversations and accepts that he needs to improve but I donāt feel like he ever actually changes anything.
Iāve left this topic alone for a while because I donāt want our āroommate issuesā to become āmarriage issuesā because at the end of the day itās just a bathroom. But, Iām wearing thin.
I am a vegan and gluten free so I have to cook all my food. I had a surgery in January and we had a conversation about it because I wouldnāt be able to keep up with the house or cook for a few weeks while I healed. I specifically asked him to keep up with the dishes and make me food during this time. I offered to show him how to cook my food ahead of time but he declined it every time. So, to help him get through taking care of me I prepped some meals. When I was hungry he fed me that. After the peeped food ran out he started to act upset when Iād tell him I needed food. Heād roll his eyes, sigh, and say he didnāt want to make anything. So id be hungry for like 4+ hours before Iād actually get fed.
2 days into that and I talked to him about it. I said it was unacceptable behavior. He apologized and made me food. The next day he tried to make me food, but asked me how to do it. I told him to Google it because Iād offered to show him weeks ago and I physically couldnāt with my healing process. I knew his cooking wouldnāt be mine but he wouldnāt even Google how to make the food and it was unbearable.
Now, Iām able to cook for myself BUT he did not keep up with the dishes like I asked. So literally every single dish is dirty. I said something a week ago and he said heād work on it. Nothing for 2 days so I asked again. He did one load. Itās been three more days and he unloaded the dishwasher and has yet to do another. Itās now at a point where I donāt have dishes to make myself food and with my diet I have to cook.
Iām just at a loss. I take care of so much. Weāve had conversations about this and he apologizes but nothing is changing. I donāt know what to do or what to say to him at this point. Is this sexism? What do I do?
More context: I graduated my program last month. He left the program a few months ago because itās not what he wanted. We are both currently unemployed. Iāve been trying to get him to apply to jobs but heās been not going to school and not working since October of 2022. It would have been so nice for him to take care of the house and cooking while I finished my program but I still did everything even though he wasnāt doing anything. He started applying in February and has only applied to like 6 positions and hasnāt head anything from any of them. I know heās been struggling emotionally so motivation has been hard but itās been so long at this point Iām loosing my empathy. He spends most of his day playing video games.
2023.03.24 23:30 tminus31throwaway I Can't Get And Keep A Job
At this point, I'm genuinely convinced I'm not in control of my life. I don't know if I'm cursed or if the universe wants me to be dependent on my toxic parents and be stuck with them until they kick me out and become homeless, but something is pulling the strings.
I (22) have been job hunting since New Year's. I've mostly been working in food service. I was "fired" from Applebee's at the beginning of last month with no given reason and I suspect it was discrimination. Today marks the FIVE-job streak of jobs that I should've gotten or kept, but something had to happen.
First was this very nearby pizzeria. Dishwashing at $16/hr. That should be very easy to get. I emailed the manager and when it came time to schedule an interview, he became weirdly disrespectful and started ignoring me.
Second, a deli. I got the job, but before I could even start, the owner had this stupid paranoia that I wouldn't be committed due to the distance and fired me.
Third, a furniture store. There was a hiring event for a new location and they were hiring immediately. I went there to be a janitor, but I was told I had to come in at 7 in the morning when we began discussing my availability. This was not in the opening. The store was 20 minutes away. I wasn't trying to wake up at 6, but even if I had no problem with early mornings, I still would've left because you don't withhold crucial information until the interview.
Fourth was this cleaning company. Another immediate-hire event. I was going to be a cleaner at a baseball stadium. I was hired, but I was unsure about the unusual schedule that I was unaware of prior. When I came home, I called the recruiter and asked about changing locations, which was an option he had presented. Long story short, he ghosted me later and I spoke to all these different departments to try to work somewhere else, but people kept disappearing on me.
And now today, I had a phone interview to be a pizza maker at another pizzeria. It went well and we scheduled a time for me to come in and talk. I went there and Michael, the man who was on the phone greeted me and had me sit at a booth to speak to Damon, which was weird. I found out it was an in-person interview when I read what was on the packet that Damon came to me with. Michael didn't make it sound like that was what this was at all. Damon began asking me questions I'd already answered with Michael. We got to hours and I said I wanted 4 8's a week. Damon said they didn't do 8's š He explained what they had, talking about doing doubles and working 4 or 5 hour shifts and only being able to give me 20-25 hours. I got up to leave, but changed my mind and reiterated to him what Michael had told me. Again, he said they can't do that. He explained the shifts they had some more and it was confusing and it didn't sound ideal. In the end, he just said he didn't think this would work out. No apology, nothing about what he'd do about Michael who had lied to me and wasted my very valuable time and gas.
I'm so fucking tired of this capitalist hell. I've begun to expect some bullshit to come up every time now. This feels hopeless.
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I (22) have been job hunting since New Year's. I've mostly been working in food service. I was "fired" from Applebee's at the beginning of last month with no given reason and I suspect it was discrimination. Today marks the FIVE-job streak of jobs that I should've gotten or kept, but something had to happen.
First was this very nearby pizzeria. Dishwashing at $16/hr. That should be very easy to get. I emailed the manager and when it came time to schedule an interview, he became weirdly disrespectful and started ignoring me.
Second, a deli. I got the job, but before I could even start, the owner had this stupid paranoia that I wouldn't be committed due to the distance and fired me.
Third, a furniture store. There was a hiring event for a new location and they were hiring immediately. I went there to be a janitor, but I was told I had to come in at 7 in the morning when we began discussing my availability. This was not in the opening. The store was 20 minutes away. I wasn't trying to wake up at 6, but even if I had no problem with early mornings, I still would've left because you don't withhold crucial information until the interview.
Fourth was this cleaning company. Another immediate-hire event. I was going to be a cleaner at a baseball stadium. I was hired, but I was unsure about the unusual schedule that I was unaware of prior. When I came home, I called the recruiter and asked about changing locations, which was an option he had presented. Long story short, he ghosted me later and I spoke to all these different departments to try to work somewhere else, but people kept disappearing on me.
And now today, I had a phone interview to be a pizza maker at another pizzeria. It went well and we scheduled a time for me to come in and talk. I went there and Michael, the man who was on the phone greeted me and had me sit at a booth to speak to Damon, which was weird. I found out it was an in-person interview when I read what was on the packet that Damon came to me with. Michael didn't make it sound like that was what this was at all. Damon began asking me questions I'd already answered with Michael. We got to hours and I said I wanted 4 8's a week. Damon said they didn't do 8's š He explained what they had, talking about doing doubles and working 4 or 5 hour shifts and only being able to give me 20-25 hours. I got up to leave, but changed my mind and reiterated to him what Michael had told me. Again, he said they can't do that. He explained the shifts they had some more and it was confusing and it didn't sound ideal. In the end, he just said he didn't think this would work out. No apology, nothing about what he'd do about Michael who had lied to me and wasted my very valuable time and gas.
I'm so fucking tired of this capitalist hell. I've begun to expect some bullshit to come up every time now. This feels hopeless.
2023.03.24 22:38 scrambleordie Is Handyman/small job specialist a viable LLC?
I hear a lot about contractors not calling back on small jobs, presumably because they are busy working on and quoting larger jobs for more money. My question is, if I started an LLC specifically catering to small jobs such as light sheet rocking/taping, replacing a light switch, installing a dishwasher, repairing a concrete step, etc- could I make money?? Would I be drowning in work? Seems to me like thereās plenty of people without the skills to fix things themselves and a lot of contractors ignoring them for larger jobs. As for the larger jobs that might come my way, I can sub contract to my many contacts in the industry. Iām located in CT, USA. My wife could get health insurance through her job so thatās huge. Thoughts/cautions/advise/encouragement please!
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2023.03.24 20:29 Paul-Belgium SWAN, āUncle Sam says: Donāt Waste Soapā (1944).
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2023.03.24 19:52 Appropriate_Let9621 AITA for asking husband to put his dishes in sink after meals?
I am a stay at home mom, for the last few years, but I'm currently searching for a new job. In general, this is an arrangement we are both okay with. I understand my home responsibilities are greater due to this arrangement.
My husband frequently (probably 90% of the time) leaves his food waste wherever he ate it.
Examples: breakfast he leaves plate, juice cup, yogurt container and jug of orange juice on table. Unwashed frying pan on stove. I am expected to put juice back in fridge
Snack: I will find popcorn bowl or yogurt container or banana peel or apple left on side table or sofa cup holder. (Obviously not all from same snack - this would be over the course of a few days) if he made popcorn, he leaves the popcorn kernels out, butter and salt in place they don't belong, leaves popper for me to clean. Popcorn ends up all over carpet
Lunch: apple core and plate on table. Tuna can and mayo on counter.
I've been really pushing kids to make sure they're cleaning up after themselves. I've been doing it loudly to maybe give him a hint because he's much worse than the kids.
Today he left his stuff on table and started to unload the dishwasher. I went to help, chatting with him. Then he started to leave to go back to work. I nicely said it is a pet peeve of mine to leave trash like that because it makes me feel like people think I'm just here to clean up after them. Please put dishes in sink and trash in trashcan. As a bonus I'd love it if the milk or mayo or whatever could go back in fridge. (Edit: I didnt ask him to put milk back in fridge. I wish he would, but I'd settle for plate in sink. I didn't mean to imply that I said that in conversation. Baby steps. )
He responded that I leave my shoes where they don't belong. That is true. He also said that I sometimes say I'll get the dishwasher because it's my job during the day. Also true.
I wonder if I'm the AH because it is true that I leave stuff out often too. It's just honestly my pet peeve to leave rotten fruit laying around our house/car. Also, this isn't new behavior. He's left stuff out since we were dating. I naively thought I could change him or didn't care or was in love or something.
submitted by Appropriate_Let9621 to AmItheAsshole [link] [comments]
My husband frequently (probably 90% of the time) leaves his food waste wherever he ate it.
Examples: breakfast he leaves plate, juice cup, yogurt container and jug of orange juice on table. Unwashed frying pan on stove. I am expected to put juice back in fridge
Snack: I will find popcorn bowl or yogurt container or banana peel or apple left on side table or sofa cup holder. (Obviously not all from same snack - this would be over the course of a few days) if he made popcorn, he leaves the popcorn kernels out, butter and salt in place they don't belong, leaves popper for me to clean. Popcorn ends up all over carpet
Lunch: apple core and plate on table. Tuna can and mayo on counter.
I've been really pushing kids to make sure they're cleaning up after themselves. I've been doing it loudly to maybe give him a hint because he's much worse than the kids.
Today he left his stuff on table and started to unload the dishwasher. I went to help, chatting with him. Then he started to leave to go back to work. I nicely said it is a pet peeve of mine to leave trash like that because it makes me feel like people think I'm just here to clean up after them. Please put dishes in sink and trash in trashcan. As a bonus I'd love it if the milk or mayo or whatever could go back in fridge. (Edit: I didnt ask him to put milk back in fridge. I wish he would, but I'd settle for plate in sink. I didn't mean to imply that I said that in conversation. Baby steps. )
He responded that I leave my shoes where they don't belong. That is true. He also said that I sometimes say I'll get the dishwasher because it's my job during the day. Also true.
I wonder if I'm the AH because it is true that I leave stuff out often too. It's just honestly my pet peeve to leave rotten fruit laying around our house/car. Also, this isn't new behavior. He's left stuff out since we were dating. I naively thought I could change him or didn't care or was in love or something.
2023.03.24 19:12 Ok_Capital_4897 LinusTechTips / LTT videos - all currently unlisted URLs
Before reading
Visit: https://old.reddit.com/LinusTechTips/comments/120qqd2/linustechtips_ltt_videos_all_currently_unlisted/?Scroll down, click "Source", copy everything in the box, save it to a txt file somewhere, so that if this post is removed the resources can be re-shared.
There is no sensitive footage linked in this post or downloadable anywhere!
Information
These are the videos I managed to archive.Total 205 archived - 48 videos not archived (privated before archival).
Around 300 unprivated/un-unlisted videos existed.
Atleast 270 are known to have been archived as of 24 March 2023.
Format (videos sorted chronologically):
Title URL Privacy status as of 24 March 2023Archive was started around half an hour before things went private/unlisted. Most went unlisted, some went private.
I managed to catch a fair few now private videos, but not all of them.
I also downloaded some private videos not in my PC archive on my phone, just ones that immediately stood out to me as really cool stuff. Nothing sensitive at all.
URLs for those are lost, only the titles are present.
List
$69 Gaming PC Floatplane RC3https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kmw5racWKu0
Unlisted
$69 PC UPGRADE YT2 - BRAND REVIEW
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9rCQ_9woxOA
Unlisted
(Do Not Upload) How Do We Livestream the WAN Show?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6aQmrUVRzq0
Unlisted
1000 dollar gaming laptop thrrough the ages REVIEW COPY 2
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ekeh3skB2C4
Unlisted
12TB STEAM Collection for $XXX Iintel Sponsored FP2 for brand review
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vR6gem1uZgM
Unlisted
16K gaming floatplane rc3 - FOR REVIEW ONLY
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OMsn_DQOfTQ
Unlisted
16K gaming small size for jake review
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yEDPvaBXIgo
Unlisted
16K Gaming FINALE Trailer
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SIH7Xz_Fg8E
Unlisted
170306 INT Synergy Linus
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XxAiDcc0WI4
Unlisted
170323 INT Tesoro Giveaway LINUS V2
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fhAPQtlILsQ
Unlisted
170328 INT Amazon LTT LINUS
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZPnsv1O7HlQ
Unlisted
1703AA Int Adobe Stock Linus
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZwGPNkfDE6g
Unlisted
1703AA INT AIAIAI LINUS
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xG8xK_3GKMw
Unlisted
170408 INT Synergy LINUS 1-
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-EDrm7KsbOE
Unlisted
170408 PRE Linus Tech Tips Merch Store Linus
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RuZmJ44ymqA
Unlisted
170411 INT Fiverr V2 review
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pr3n7UU7ZE8
Unlisted
170411 INT Fiverr
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TzMuqSWtF_Y
Unlisted
170419 INT Synergy Linus for review
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VFUN9I-WHQk
Unlisted
170424 PRE GSKILL KM780R Linus 1
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tST77wIpqms
Unlisted
170424 PRE GSKILL KM780R Linus
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Upk4J1WfRUQ
Unlisted
170425 INT Ifixit Linus
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AOTS4_SfvuQ
Unlisted
170426 INT Blue Apron Linus for review
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2OqlLmYk1V4
Unlisted
170501 INT Skillshare Linus 1
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XbfPhInbOrc
Unlisted
170504 PRE Rosewill Cullinan Cases V2
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x-tUnYrw48g
Unlisted
170507 INT Synergy
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cpD7lncDmkg
Unlisted
170508 PRE GSKILL KM570 RGB 1
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_UoPGSgVmzw
Unlisted
170509 INT Fiverr V2
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jC7vSXd8aME
Unlisted
170509 INT Fiverr
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lT3QDF_M9eg
Unlisted
170521 PRE Synergy
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ld4Vp6_ZVbc
Unlisted
170522 INT EnGenius EWS360
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jmR1hvV41hQ
Unlisted
170525 INT Skillshare
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v8GRWevbRHQ
Unlisted
170528 INT Synergy
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wlo-JvmYmvs
Unlisted
170528 PRE Synergy
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uxrh7QXsfiE
Unlisted
170619 INT Synergy
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q2bjiD0M2x0
Unlisted
170701 INT Synergy
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3nZYrXCwSaQ
Unlisted
170701 PRE Synergy
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3lPvmX_qa8w
Unlisted
170717 INT Privacy
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8E-Wlr8xM6E
Unlisted
170720 INT Synergy
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mW9LBrBcKXI
Unlisted
170720 PRE Synergy
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-sUn6gvCkxA
Unlisted
170813 INT Rosewill Neon
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IsJWOsv9n4Y
Unlisted
170814 PRE Synergy
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b8pycr6jUZs
Unlisted
170902 PRE Rosewill Orbit Z1 1
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=06Wv_Vrr_6M
Unlisted
170914 INT Videoblocks
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yf3M9k3dA1E
Unlisted
170914 PRE Videoblocks
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1GqGB4fCLUI
Unlisted
170917 INT Optoma Projector
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tm-jr1-04RM
Unlisted
170918 INT Anker PowerCore II 20000
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RerE5zbnBPs
Unlisted
170926 INT Rosewill Nebula Giveaway
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1WlXvcGOYvs
Unlisted
2013 06 21 195713781 1
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=24XIKLOvZNY
Private
2013 12 12 111422426 1
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F5ky45MlmEM
Private
2015 06 02 150702213
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q_bYoizieNo
Private
3D Scanner at CES 2015 - Matter and Form
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Avahj_3xMow
Private
900feet Demo Video
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LyV6KeVh2SQ
Private
AiAiAi Int 01 Linus V2
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HfyMZdt4fuY
Unlisted
Amazon Deal Video #1 trailer RC1
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v01nAhEv3Ng
Unlisted
Amazon Deal Video #2 Trailer
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kbHprBCo35Q
Unlisted
Amazon Edition Lenovo Flex 5 RC2 1080p
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mK4jU5xknK4
Unlisted
AMD Threadripper floatplane RC1
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9I7FkrfFaik
Unlisted
AMDRyzen7000HDRSPA3 UPLOADTHIS
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=22F--dCagcY
Unlisted
analouge NT mini - youtube rc1
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SFsWwisnUbk
Unlisted
Asus G701 Review - floatplane RC4
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iYmwEHyzsBY
Unlisted
ASUS GX800 Water Cooled - youtube rc2_Custom
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WkUTH4QBpfw
Unlisted
ASUS Transformer Prime Test with WiFi Analyzer & Tour of my House Linus Tech Tips
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5-K7D9CbKrQ
Private
Austin Collab Video at AMD
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6YHyA2-i6_s
Unlisted
Aya Neo Air YT2 BRAND
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tlNniFGXvOQ
Unlisted
banggood commercial
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r3FdHbE1m6U
Unlisted
Best Twitch Stream Quality floatplane 720p for linus
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3hmkkZ2_whE
Unlisted
Bitdefender Sponsored FP -- for review
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XNOp6tso4JM
Unlisted
bixby audio test1
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jlYEvRr70ZI
Unlisted
Bixby Showcase RC2
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x0uDLe2mwno
Unlisted
Bixby Showcase RC3
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dpmq4UEYFFo
Unlisted
Blood keyboard sponsor project RC3
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sTPBSPgpfy8
Unlisted
Blow em up Dyson
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T5gJZpcuMIQ
Unlisted
Blue Apron
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3Xvo0JMt8Eg
Unlisted
Blueapron
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FxlwhB12NjE
Unlisted
Boat and sports dome LOOP x10
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rGBK2RXMUvo
Unlisted
boat loop 2_3 aspect ratio 24fps, x8
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R9zHaAMkjnY
Unlisted
boats city
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qzebn9GBeeU
Unlisted
Boost Boxed Processors RC2
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v8Awt0HI6rU
Unlisted
building a computer for strange parts FOR REVIEW
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s_Zl2eOIcro
Unlisted
CES 2017 Boost Kaby Lake desktop rc6 with disclaimer and 1 and 2s
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ggyiB_qXrDE
Unlisted
Cheap $15 gaming mouse roundup floatplane rc1
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pjMMBi0GNPM
Unlisted
city traffic LOOPx10
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8shIK4wo3J0
Unlisted
CORSAIR mouse sensors explained rc1 - for brand review
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YLraDhj4twI
Unlisted
CORSAIR MOUSE SENSORS VIDEO - V5 FOR REVIEW
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dt0hba7-56E
Unlisted
CriCut Maker 3 YT 2
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_jrHfF0N95k
Unlisted
Deepspar ottawa video RC1
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8bqeBL92dOw
Unlisted
Dell XPS 2 in 1 2018 For review
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4RVPG2wbpow
Unlisted
Dolby Office Upgrade Video Brand Review 1
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dm7gKU4M-3E
Unlisted
Don't Spend $1000 on Data Recovery - DeepSpar Tour FOR BRAND REVIEW
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L8TMsPrFwvE
Unlisted
dont use!!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z64_Qvx0rWA
Unlisted
Double your RAM - This Method Actually Works! RC1
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4hZFU_IRRVg
Unlisted
Dual 8K Workstation FP - for review only
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CedpdvuUHsE
Unlisted
Entry Level PC Sample Footage
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hr3TqyVgCX4
Private
Example factory shot 2
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NO1j5nqeLWg
Private
FS700 Random Test Footage Featuring my Baby
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBYb2bDeSAw
Private
Further Diagnosis.wmv
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XwJXE8ujoBE
Private
Gaming iHotel FP1
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ra3XEL08GQo
Unlisted
Glossy Plastic Make It Look Nice Vessel For review
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yIQLYw2sgnk
Private
google maps yt1
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-p7ZeJpZvKU
Unlisted
highway traffic LOOPx10
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mR03C_QqBKw
Unlisted
Honor 6X Technology Now vs Then Ep3 floatplane For review
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tBeBZzpzf5E
Unlisted
I couldn't do my job without this
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B9iQOs_Q2a0
Unlisted
iJustine Studio Tour RC2
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qPaWCARCadg
Unlisted
Insta360 One X Camera FP2
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=clCanDjX7aU
Unlisted
INT Blue Apron 180723
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9vfOIVjHgNE
Unlisted
Intel 2FA Int 01 Linus V2
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_gsYqEsapn8
Unlisted
Intel editing room upgrade - intel sponsored rc3_YouTube 4K LTT
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ASHaPt7v92s
Unlisted
Intel editing room upgrade - intel sponsored rc5_YouTube 4K LTT
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QDlR21-8zgo
Unlisted
Intel i3 7350K Youtube 4K
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rpwGdkHazC8
Unlisted
Intel takes Linus back to school
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s1YpI-9nOcg
Unlisted
Intel UnRAID Streaming & Gaming Build FOR REVIEW ONLY
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jA_4lyzR8Ok
Unlisted
Intel "Ask the Expert" Devil's Canyon Q&A Live Stream Archive
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4V5I-IDiHuc
Unlisted
IntroSYW7 1
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MrHvHWm_Ups
Unlisted
IREP PC build March 2017 rc2
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U444j0zFBR8
Unlisted
Jayson badminton stringing racquet strings
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SOcLEQPYl9o
Private
just audible integration SiFive
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AW9sQu2BaTk
Unlisted
Kano DIY Computer FOR REVIEW ONLY v2
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k7jQW5mdMdA
Unlisted
Laptop Cart Floatplane RC2
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vWcbfiuVz4Y
Unlisted
LastPass Pre and Int
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wm3SX8mcYsU
Unlisted
Lenovo Flex 5 floatplane RC Brand Review
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2h0rYNypqgk
Unlisted
Lenovo Flex 5 floatplane RC3
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SE9rY1RXlmU
Unlisted
LG Monitor Workstation VLOG FP 1
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bhRhc8KUO0g
Unlisted
LG Projector Bed Theater FOR REVIEW
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V2cNN59dpmc
Unlisted
LG UltraFine 5K for linuse review rc2
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-5nA4zHRGZg
Unlisted
LG UltraFine 5K Youtube rc1 without preroll and integration_Custom
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=msNNKRb_pfs
Unlisted
lg wallpaper tv part 2 brand review copy
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lyX5jMbaf30
Unlisted
ligo tour YT 1
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vi_DnsOiiuQ
Unlisted
Linus Slow Motion Fall from Samsung Upgrade Your Mac Commercial
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PQkJbR6tPkU
Private
Linus Tom and Esther Talk About NCIX's Achievements in 2011
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bEW3EbthlCI
Private
Linus's 5S IMG 0269
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ao2szwTqsJ0
Private
LMG LAN Setup Cutdown 3 - FOR BRAND REVIEW
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FaBmflSidcI
Unlisted
LMG Wall of Shame Cutdown 2 - FOR BRAND REVIEW
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kwZdBdhpZLo
Unlisted
LMG Wall of Shame Cutdown3
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pQWDkFZwUtM
Unlisted
LTT-Intro.mp4
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v2M4YYqujtw
Private
memes
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KMf6lHpjTr4
Unlisted
minecraft
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uUW097YjPj4
Unlisted
Mirage Camera VR180 Office Tour RC1
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-oJ_6dXGMkg
Unlisted
MSI Vortex G25 Skillshare ad
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1re5wwUlb-4
Unlisted
Organization Vlog day 3 trailer
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6T9ZpoeCpA4
Unlisted
Organization Vlog day 3 trailer
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i0NfP0STqNU
Unlisted
orgtrailer ep2
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rAkEtptax-g
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Origin PC EVOLVE RC1 - FOR BRAND REVIEW, DO NOT POST.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5yb0b6ANtgw
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Our WORST Gaming Rigs - DONT USE
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6hDvdo72iy8
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PiKVM YT 1
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=95ZiRMYYo_I
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Puget Systems Tour brandreview3
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gO3WiXkxDnk
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Puget Systems Tour RC2
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=18lLCfP1usM
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razer phone review Youtube RC2 proper transitions
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oxbiLQnn5pk
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Red Weapon Unboxing - for Dashlane & Reelio review (no ad inclusion)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qwYC2eonTNk
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ReviewClip
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_2ZWKC8gvlA
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ROG Rig Reboot Build #1 RC2
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xuEkX2fS4hg
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ROG Rig Reboot Build no1 RC3
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RVURSSwU74A
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ROG Rig Reboot RAW FOR BRAND REVIEW
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u5JYG27WBxA
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ROG rig reboot
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ECka8QCCQyU
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Rog Rig Reboot
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u30JWO-RIdg
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Samsung S95B QD OLED APPY 2
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g--HflE6Bdg
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science world LOOPx10
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C-l2sDNHtlA
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screwdriver RC3
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=udaFp_T-cfc
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Screwdriver teaser
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5LdLb6RbCBE
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scroll lock youtube rc1
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XpHGZZhE6Po
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server room on fire april fools floatplane rc1 for linus to review
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mgK-13C6tEw
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Set Up Vlog PAX East
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9OwFXyF7o5w
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SFU Supercomputer Unboxing - v1 FOR REVIEW ONLY
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-3YGDj_vWj8
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Sketchy Heat Sinks ep 2 floatplane
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OlsmdfvkCp4
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Sony HT Z9F Sound Bar Showcase FOR REVIEW ONLY
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ybVUYl1_uV0
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Squarespace PRE ROLL 4k rc2
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8GglyNg-TyQ
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Storyblocks PRE AND INT Can you Dishwash your Keyboard
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g7mvNBmrOmY
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SVS: Engineering Samples - Evidence
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qpGTvTLS55s
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SWIC Week 4 Megatasking rc1
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RhwOIdX9ocA
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Synergy 01 Preroll Linus 1
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hNyA6ei_Sto
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Tech Showdown Episode 15 cutdown with captions version 3
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=th_ON-HYAP0
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Technical Workflow Tour Zhiyun Sponsored FP
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LrVlEwIaq-U
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temp file 1
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PND3Xv_QaAU
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test upload for luke. Is it upside down
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JNh1_Fxmghg
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The Fastest SD card--DO NOT USE, GLITCH AT END FRAME
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=stuIsswMA-Q
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The GAMING Hot Tub!! - For Brand Review
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DUS5gZxe5ik
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The Most Expensive Console Gaming Killer YET! - Zotac Magnus EN1080K Review
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mQU88807ja4
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The WAN Show - After party, August 2, 2013
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H5K6xmYr0iw
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Tic Watch Weird Wearables FOR BRAND REVIEW
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5SBGDi120GQ
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Tic Watch Weird Wearables V3 floatplane RC3 For Brand Review 1
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lOutcu9_728
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Ubiquiti Amplifi Teleport v1 FOR REVIEW ONLY
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S3Teieww52U
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Ultrawide Festival RC3 Final
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o-iBGmiL2vU
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Using ARC just for AV1 YT 2
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ByaNoQmnaZM
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VIDEO0514
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3GVKHPew9PE
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Viewers' Choice PC 2018 Q1 YT
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=31fqbQ8V-XU
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Visa Contactless Wearables Video Dual RC4
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nIB_BrDuTIk
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Want to enter giveaways that require a Twitter account and don't have Twitter?? Here's a solution!
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WD Interview
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oJxvlfMTq58
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WE ARE HIRING FOR FLOATPLANE!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pKywqfgXYW8
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We THOUGHT this $40,000 PC would break records...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mSO6yRJs0K4
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WE'RE LIVE! Tune into the WAN Show at the link in the description
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g4bt9-NqMLE
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What's in the box???
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f1kNKEPzXXw
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What's the fastest possible internet speed YT1
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GC2w06gInwI
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Windows 9 YT Custom
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f1lvfU5E6Aw
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Withings ScanWatch Horizon Dual 7
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hMKHl9TJHIM
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Xbox One X youtube RC3
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=znCpmy42_Bk
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Xiaomi Mi Laptop Showcase RC0 - FOR BRAND REVIEW
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BqyPxoldO0A
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Zotac VRGO Backpack Part 2 RC 1 - FOR REVIEW ONLY
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TfKlNKuo3tk
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Zotac VRGO Part 2 - FOR BRAND REVIEW ONLY
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xhPe6eDM87Q
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[2 zotac ads, do not post] World's Most Stylish Server Rack - HOLY $H!T Ep. 15
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YKBSPJ1hkkM
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[bad version]GAMING on RX VEGA & THREADRIPPER + Mystery Holocube
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IO8c5W_DwBI
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[FOR REVIEW] OnePlus Fingerprint Sensor Dual
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aCuo5FfWWjs
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DO NOT POST Does RAM speed matter 2023 YT
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IVdGy1kZHd8
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DO NOT USE I Have to Do Everything this AI Says DO NOT USE
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRRFd3UdvGw
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DO NOT USE I Scammed Customers in PC Building Simulator 2!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XO9_Rum_V9Q
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**IGNORE NEW ONE COMING Weird Side of Ebay Cooling DUAL
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xvYe1V_8jxI
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Privated before archival. Titles unfortunately inaccessible.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gdUIdFuBinU
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Keep an eye out for...
A torrent of 230 videos coming this weekend: https://old.reddit.com/DataHoardecomments/1206c41/linus_media_videos_looks_like_lots_of_theiAlso a Google Drive link in there: https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1GCtYBRdY1bamfUaE97wUewKWcSwXfbWW
2023.03.24 18:22 ammmarks A bartender review on NEBO Torchy
 | submitted by ammmarks to BuyItForLife [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/172lqb620qpa1.jpg?width=1778&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c0415b0383d3a292f39bad3e781e7b4c18d2f9a5 I'm a bartender in an Italian restaurant, I frequently find myself searching for wine in dimly lit rooms and ultra crowded coolers. After trying several horrible products, I stumbled upon the Nebo torchy pocket flashlight, and it has been a game-changer for me. I've been using this flashlight for two years now... (I work 5 days a week, and I don't take vacations, so do the math :D) that little guy provides excellent illumination, it's impact and water-resistant (I've dropped it countless times while cleaning the dishwasher filters, and it still keeps going). The rechargeable battery compartment is easily accessible without any special tools, which is a huge plus for me. Oh and I almost forgot, the base is magnetic, so you can position on metal surfaces... https://preview.redd.it/oz43qm6m0qpa1.jpg?width=1778&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8cbdcd64a41b0e29bd1dea8caa5ddd3b836f5853 As you'll notice on my pics I've managed to scratch it up quite a bit, but I always joke with my coworkers that it's just like me: a little ugly but gets the job done. I fricking hate this cable though The only downsides I've found so far are the removable metal clip that broke within a week of use; however, it's not a deal-breaker for me since I carry it in my vest pocket. Also, the charger cable uses a dock-like port, which can be a hassle if you lose it... which obviously happened to me, but the company behind the product offers great support, and they sent me a new cable when I reached out to them. Overall, I highly recommend the NEBO pocket flashlight for anyone who needs a durable, rechargeable, and reliable flashlight. You can find it on Amazon using my affiliate link, or you can look for a similar model on websites like AliExpress and Temu. I hope this helps! https://amzn.to/3z5kKgY |
2023.03.24 16:42 blerghc "Clean" ponytail advice?
My new job has a requirement for a clean/slick ponytail, with no flyaways or mess. I have curtain bangs, and they're also supposed to join the ponytail. My hair gets frizzy as soon as i'm close to anything humid, and i'm going to be handling a dishwasher in addition to other tasks. Does anyone have any tips for products i can use to ensure i get no flyaways?
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2023.03.24 15:52 Conscious-Swing7473 Would a summer job here be worth it?
Hello š
I (16) am in the Pittsburgh region, and was looking for a second job once school is out to make extra money this summer. The restaurant seems pretty nice, but it seems like most workers are a bit older.
I work as a dishwasher for a local restaurant now (since May of 2022, first job), and itās pretty fun, so I have some experience, and I assume that could play into my role at PE.
The biggest thing to me is flexibility and understanding in my schedule. Being 16, I have things going on, and my current job is pretty flexible as long as I give a heads up at least a week in advance (but even thatās flexible if thereās an emergency). And if I canāt make it one day, Iāll make up for it by working the next.
The other thing is pay, since itās a 40min drive from my house to my nearest PE, Iāll need more than Iām making now for gas.
I can answer questions, and any information to help me make a potential decision would be appreciated. Thank you!
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I (16) am in the Pittsburgh region, and was looking for a second job once school is out to make extra money this summer. The restaurant seems pretty nice, but it seems like most workers are a bit older.
I work as a dishwasher for a local restaurant now (since May of 2022, first job), and itās pretty fun, so I have some experience, and I assume that could play into my role at PE.
The biggest thing to me is flexibility and understanding in my schedule. Being 16, I have things going on, and my current job is pretty flexible as long as I give a heads up at least a week in advance (but even thatās flexible if thereās an emergency). And if I canāt make it one day, Iāll make up for it by working the next.
The other thing is pay, since itās a 40min drive from my house to my nearest PE, Iāll need more than Iām making now for gas.
I can answer questions, and any information to help me make a potential decision would be appreciated. Thank you!
2023.03.24 14:49 AC-RogueOne Something familiar started popping up in regards to work and itās got me worried
So back in 2017, Iāā worked at a restaurant as a dishwasher as my first job. But after the busy season ended I was laid off. Not only that, but was basically laid off with no one even telling me since my boss at the time basically acted like I didnāt exist when I tried contacting them about potentially coming back. For roughly 5 years since, I basically jumped from one seasonal job to another. Then last year, I found myself being rehired in the same position, but this time the place is under new management. And honestly, Iāve loved it. Not only is a job I enjoy with a salary that is better than I would have initially expected, but it also allowed me to make awesome new friends and get reacquainted with old ones. But since the start of the holiday season, Iāve been off duty so to speak until the dining room opens back up in May. Iāve recently found out in the company group chat that it will open up on Motherās Day weekend, to which I responded roughly with āawesome. So I guess that will be roughly when Iām coming back?ā That was 2 days ago and since then the group chat had been dead silent. Iād assume it was cause everyone was busy and didnāt see, but the chat says that pretty much everyone saw it. And now itās starting to feel similar to when I got laid off when I first worked there. And I donāt know why I would be since pretty much everyone has said how awesome I am for how hard I work and how good I am at my job. So, considering that, I may not have anything to worry about. But the fact that everyone saw that specific message yet didnāt say anything in response feels suspicious at the very least. What should I do? Do I have reason to worry or am I just worrying too much about nothing?
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2023.03.24 12:39 throwawayinetgirl Got burned at work, now it's infected
Hello, my primary role is dishwasher, but I moonlight sometimes as busserunner, I help prep occasionally, and I'm pushing to be barback, and I also sometimes clean for the restaurant.
On Saturday night, I was dumping out a pot of hot boiling water into the sink fresh off the stove, and it fell back onto me and landed directly on my foot. Then the pot fell on my foot. There's a whole reason why this happened. Long story short: I was trying to protect someone else from being burned.
I tried to deal with this at home, but the pain got worse and worse. Yesterday, I went to urgent care, and they said it was infected and gave me tramadol for the pain (it feels like I was shot, and I can hardly stand without screaming). Today is Friday, and I'm going to the ER to deal with it. I missed a week of work. What does my boss owe me? What can they do?
Edit: I am in New York. That night, they asked me if I wanted them to call EMS. I said no. When I ended up going to urgent care, I said this happened at work and when they wanted me to fill out forms for my job, I tried to backtrack and say it didn't happen at work (I didn't want to get my employer in trouble), and asked "what if I said this happened at home, do I still need to fill this out?" But it was too late š¤·āāļø
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On Saturday night, I was dumping out a pot of hot boiling water into the sink fresh off the stove, and it fell back onto me and landed directly on my foot. Then the pot fell on my foot. There's a whole reason why this happened. Long story short: I was trying to protect someone else from being burned.
I tried to deal with this at home, but the pain got worse and worse. Yesterday, I went to urgent care, and they said it was infected and gave me tramadol for the pain (it feels like I was shot, and I can hardly stand without screaming). Today is Friday, and I'm going to the ER to deal with it. I missed a week of work. What does my boss owe me? What can they do?
Edit: I am in New York. That night, they asked me if I wanted them to call EMS. I said no. When I ended up going to urgent care, I said this happened at work and when they wanted me to fill out forms for my job, I tried to backtrack and say it didn't happen at work (I didn't want to get my employer in trouble), and asked "what if I said this happened at home, do I still need to fill this out?" But it was too late š¤·āāļø
2023.03.24 07:09 CKain08 I am the glass child
TW mention of self harm and suicidal thoughts
" Glass children are those who are growing up in a home where a sibling takes up a disproportionate amount of parental energy "
Well. Disclaimer : I am not a child, alright, I am 20. But I've been thinking a lot about the last 10 years of my life, and I am, as much as it pains me, a glass child and I've been since my sister's born.
Of course, at first, it was (I thought) only because I was the first born, the big sis, you know.
But 3 years ago, my sister discovered Tik Tok. Everyone knows Tik Tok, right? Well, we all know what kind of stuff we can find on that app! I, myself, found the description of a "glass child" there. I use Tik Tok frequently.
My sister always had problems with her friends. When she was younger, she was always in the middle of some arguing between two or three girls, never really had a day where she wasn't coming home with what I call "girl's gangs" problems (you know when two best friends suddenly split and get mad and get other friends to form like alliances and stuff to b*tch on the others? Ya know, old stuff, we've all been there).
She was never wrong in those situations. She was coming home laughing about how she was the peacemaker and never creating problems of some sort. Thing is, I know my sister. Like the back of my hand. Alright? I just... know when she's lying. Still, to this day, she always brags about how good she is to manipulate people and make them do what she wants. Alrighty girl, weird flex.
Well, she got to high school (what we call secondary one in Canada), and then, she started having anxiety. Like panic attacks and all? I've had those, still do these days, so I understood. I became her protector, her therapist, calming her down when my mother critized her for exagerating. I knew what to do, and I gave up all my energy to take care of her, of her mental health, as a good old sister does.
She made it to the second year of high school (secondary 2) with difficulties. Panic attacks again and all. 3 years ago, as I said, she discovered Tik Tok. I know Tik Tok and its algorithm : there are specific fyp where you can find videos about the same topic over and over again. I suspect she was in a dark side of Tik Tok, a depressed one, where you can see all sort of sad/depressing things and stories (I know, I've been there too, now trying to avoid it as much as I can because it affects me mentally and I start spiralling).
Cutting her hair short ( I guess the "funny mentally hill" trend where you cut your hair on a headbutt and dye it, I know, been there too).
Sexuality explored too. Like she was trans for a while and wanted us to call her another name (she isn't anymore, she told me so about 3 months in). I always respected her choices and calling her what she wanted to be called at that time. She was a kid, she was 13, so she was discovering herself and her preferences and all. No problem with that.
She started hanging out with some people like that too. She had a non-binary friend, a trans one, a furry one, etc. She was having fun with them. Great people. She finally had a group.
Some of them, however, had the same experiences we all hear about on Tik Tok. You know, some of them not in a great home, or in a bad relationship with parents, depression, anxiety. Hate to say it, but you know those people on Tik Tok who (unfortunatly) are bullied on the internet for being... like... huuuuh (wondering how to say that without insulting anyone) like stereotypical? Like... you know those who wants a cat litter in a classroom in a unironical way? Some of her friend were a little extremist on that plan. Again, never really bothered me.
We have two parents, a mom and a dad. They divorced when I was 7. My sister was 3. They never fought in front of us, never heard them, it was really a suprise. They went their separate ways. Me and my sis got used to go to each of them for a week, and then go back to the other for a week. It was fine, working good. My parents are both accountants, my mom teaching it too. I had a strong disagreement with my mom in 2019 about one of her (numerous) boyfriends. The only one i really hated with all my heart. This resulted in me leaving her house for about a year. My sis was still doing 1 week/1 week. Apart of that, my parents are pretty basic ones, never abused us and we always had everything we needed.
I started college. I loved it, still do, and was finally starting my life as an adult, I started a great job, was doing good in school and... was still helping my sister and my parents with her anxiety/ panic attacks. Even learn in my degree how to deal with people who disorganize.
Then, the cutting started. A lot of her friend were doing it, she told me. And then she started having those episodes where she was cutting herself. Never with something sharp, like a knife or else. But with like compass and crayons? Then, she started having suicidal thoughts. Then, and that is where it all went down, she called 911 for suicidal thoughts. She was home alone and the police called my mom.
What had she done? Scratch herself... with a pencil.
I've had panic attacks before. And suicidal thoughts that crossed my mind but I never acted on them. Never. And I can't imagine myself doing it. I talked about it, of course, with my best friend, someone I trusted and it was making me feel better. How did I know my sister was doing that and having those thoughts? She just said it, casually, at dinner with the whole family. Like... girl? It really got the mood down, everyone worried and she was like... glowing? I don't know how to say it.
She was always a bit dramatic and had a way of making everything about herself, but it was never about negative things. More like flexing a good grade or whatever. She was always talking about how depressed she was, how she was suicidal, and the things she was saying were... like straight up a depressing tik tok. Like one day I found something she said ( I think it was like "you don't understand how this feels it is like blablabla i don't remember) WORD FOR WORD in a Tik Tok. It is like she wasn't expressing her feelings, but made up phrases you find on the Internet when you type "panic attacks" or "depression".
After a second call to 911 for taking 10 advils, she got admitted to psychiatry. At that time, I was watching my parents fall appart, running around to appointments for her, my dad having stress acnea (at 45) and both of them exhausted. It was a real drama. Everyone in the family talked about it. It was the only subject of discussion, the only thing that was on everyone's mind.
I was hanging out my seat in class with my phone on my belly to be sure to feel it vibrate if something happened. We were all in a bad place.
And then, we got a diagnosis of autism.
I'm sorry, what? Where does that come from? I mean, alright, we'll deal with that one.
But then. That's where all went down for me. Sis started therapy, changed school, went to an adapted classroom for people like her and with disabilities. My parents were still all over the place.
Except where I needed them.
I was 18, at that time, starting adulthood. I have ADHD. It is really hard for me to respect a schedule, think about every appointments I have, every homework, every luggage I can't forget to bring to mom's or to dad's. I was also giving my all in school, never missed anything, straight A's and working my ass off.
I started realising that everytime my parents texted me was to ask/talk about my sis.
Every. Single. Time.
They'd ask me to bring my sister her lunch that she forgot, to go get her when she was down, or get her to her appointments like I didn't have a whole fu**ing life I was trying so hard to keep on line.
I gave all my free time to her needs and my parents's. I educated myself on autism, defended her when my mom was thinking she was faking because I wanted to prove I was there for her. That I was the life saving good sister. I never, ever, heard her say thank you.
Never.
The only compliments my parents were giving me is "thank you for getting your sis for us. Thank you for being there for her. Thank you for doing things with her."
I went trough some stuff, at that time. I hurt my knee and was failing my physical tests. It got to the point I wasn't even sure I liked my degree anymore. I was having a really hard time. But my parents never saw my pain. I have a tendency to hide things, sure, but I was really trying to talk to them about how I was feeling. They were listening, and letting go. Why didn't they start worrying for me like they did for my sister? I don't know, don't really care now. I was having suicidal thoughts too, I wanted to yeet myself in a tree and even stopped driving so it wouldn't give me options. They left me alone, because everytime I tried bringing up the fact that I was not in a good place, my sister was disorganizing at school and they needed to go to the hospital to be both there for her while she fainted from hyperventilating. Every fcking time I was talking to my sister, she was acting like she lived trough everything and was telling me she knew more about suicidal thoughts than me cause she went to psychiatry. Excuse me miss gurl, but who was fcking there to help you trough your panic attacks hun? How do you think I know so much?
Seeing I had practically no support from my already exhausted parents, I took matters into my own hands and started going to therapy. My doctor also prescribed me with anti-depressants. I was going to be ok... on my own. I've had really bad days, real hard ones. But I got back on my two feet. At least, I think so.
School was over and it was time for summer break. I had a job I loved on a boat. I've had a blast on that boat, I wasn't jumping from a house to another, I wasn't always in luggages, I had my own room like a little appartment of my own on the ship. I slowly started to discover a backpacking/adventurous side of myself. I needed air, was travelling far from home as soon as I had a week or two off of the boat.
At the same time, my sister had stopped self-harming and having suicidal thoughts. She's was now in a school for adults to finish her 4th and 5th year of college. She wasn't in a special classroom anymore. Changed friend group.
But here's the thing. Cause there is always a "but".
I started realising how much my sister was toying with us, with my parents. As soon as the diagnosis fell, she became unsufferable. For example, when I say I hate loud noises and strong light, she says she has it tougher because, ya know, "i'm autistic". I can't say something without her saying she has autism and that's why she has it worse.
When I have a good grade or I've hit a PR at the gym, I tell my parents because I am happy. I try to see life the good way, now. I'm quite proud of all the personal work i've done.
But she can't have a normal day.
It is always "ho I hated school because the light was making a sound" or something to point out she has autism.
I talked to one of my friend who is a social worker, and he told me autism is usually apparent in children. My sis was diagnosed at 15. But, and hear me out, all the things that make her autistic according to her psychiatrist... she's never really had them before.
You remember at the beginning of this rant how I told you I know when my sister is lying?
Well. I don't think an autistic person possess the flex of "being able to manipulate people so easily to get what you want".
She's always bragging about how smart she is compared to us because, you know, "ShE cAn FeElS eNeRgiEs AnD pEoPlE AnD iT AfFeCts hEr". Well, honey, I don't think that is autism. It is always little comment about how special she is because she can't do this, or that. Like I have ADHD, alright? I'm stimming all the time. I don't point it out to people for fun, actually, i'm quite ashamed of it sometimes. She bought all those fidget toys and brings them ALL to school to show how much she needs them.
One reason of why I am mad, as you can (unfortunatly) see, is my father's attitude.
The fact that my sis had episodes of suicidal thoughts and acts traumatized him. With reasons, don't get me wrong.
But now, she's clearly living well of drama and stereotypical behavior she never had before.
My father is fucking afraid of telling her no.
Like man, I don't think that if you ask her to unload the dishwasher ONE FUCKI*NG time that she's going to kill herself. Like come on.
One time, she called him cause she fainted cause she was hyperventilating cause the cleaner at her school wore a different hat than usual. Or another time where she learn that two teachers were eating togueter at lunch and not in the cafeteria?
I know my sister. She is clearly using him. She's got him hooked with a silent threat of hurting herself or making it impossible for him to receive a phone call without thinking she committed.
And. She. Fucking. Knows. It.
She left my mother's house because my mom wasn't buying her shit.
She left with all her drama about how she could appologize but she needs her space to think about what she (mom) did.
BRUH did what?!?!?!? It was so sudden, what are you on about?
All her life, she was good at one thing : breaking people's relationship.
I know, because I'm not blind.
She's the type of person that looks at you after saying your deepest secret in front of everyone and be like : "oups teeheeš¤Ŗ you know i can't keep a secret" or she plays dumb "i didn't know it was a secret oupsis" with this little dumb face that I know by heart means "I win you fuck*ng idiot".
She broke the good relationship my parents had by pretending mom told her something when it wasn't right or vice versa. When she's at dad's, she always talks about all the things mom does that sucks. When she was at mom, she was always talking about how bad it was at dad.
I was in the middle like , bruh, it isn't even that bad. And of course, my parents both being proud individuals started feeling supperior than the other and downgrading the other in front of us (wich you know my sis was repeating over and over to everyone).
But because my parents are fucking blind they let her riled them up against each others. So now they don't talk. And when they do, it is always to argue about how to take care of my sis.
To make a clear example of how she gets everything she wants :
She always tells me that she wants a Mira dog. Like a service dog. She's going to keep creating dramatic scenarios like that until my father cries and decides it is the last option we have.
But no. After the dog, it is going to be another need for neurodivergent people that she's probably going to see on Tik Tok.
Because yes, she faints and yes, she is hyperventilating. But I can create scenario in my head and make them real too (maladaptive daydreaming oups). Anxiety works like that : if I start hyperventilating for 45 seconds, my body jumps to survival mode and the mammoth thing ang boom, there you have your panic attack.
Yes. She is mentally hill.
But she's not autistic. She does not need a service dog. And she can't continue leading people on like that.
She's in need of negative attention. She hates when we compliment her, she hates when we wish her happy brithday and all. But she's always talking about how she did bad at this exam and ho people please comfort me. There's always something going on with her.
She stopped self-harming and having suicidal toughts. People started living normally.
So she restarts panic attacks but she already has a psychiatrist so she needs more.
Lets go to the hospital, something's wrong with my heart. Then she's got the pleasure of walking around school with a machine to record her heart thingy.
Nope. Nothing wrong.
People start forgetting.
Whoops now she's fainting and we don't know why.
Hospital trip yeah.
Nothing's wrong.
Then she buys a machine to keep track of her blood pressure.
Does a doctor prescribed it?
Nope. You can just buy it so she did. And she could do it like in the morning, at lunch or at night, but no, she absolutly needs to do it in front of everyone, making noise in class while the teacher is talking.
And i'm starting to get fed up.
About a year into this nightmare, 3 years ago, I stopped feeling.
I wasn't able to feel anything. And that is why, today, I can write this and unfortunatly for some, it will be controversial.
After my downfall, when my sister was in need...
I did not care.
At all.
She could do whatever she wanted to do. She could have as much trip to the hospital as she wanted.
I . Did . Not . Care .
I was going to class.
And my phone was on silent.
I don't want to know. I don't care. Don't you get it? Mom, dad, leave me alone. You did it well, right? Continue.
I am an horrible human being. My best friend tries to comfort me saying that my heart of stone is a form of self-protection, a defense mechanism that I developped 3 years to protect myself and not live trough what my sister put us trough without knowing (or caring?).
Still.
I am an egoist.
But I do not care.
You want to make me feel like a glass child?
Alright alright.
I'll deal with it.
But now the glass is fed up.
And it is about to break.
Good bye and thank you for coming all the way here.
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" Glass children are those who are growing up in a home where a sibling takes up a disproportionate amount of parental energy "
Well. Disclaimer : I am not a child, alright, I am 20. But I've been thinking a lot about the last 10 years of my life, and I am, as much as it pains me, a glass child and I've been since my sister's born.
Of course, at first, it was (I thought) only because I was the first born, the big sis, you know.
But 3 years ago, my sister discovered Tik Tok. Everyone knows Tik Tok, right? Well, we all know what kind of stuff we can find on that app! I, myself, found the description of a "glass child" there. I use Tik Tok frequently.
My sister always had problems with her friends. When she was younger, she was always in the middle of some arguing between two or three girls, never really had a day where she wasn't coming home with what I call "girl's gangs" problems (you know when two best friends suddenly split and get mad and get other friends to form like alliances and stuff to b*tch on the others? Ya know, old stuff, we've all been there).
She was never wrong in those situations. She was coming home laughing about how she was the peacemaker and never creating problems of some sort. Thing is, I know my sister. Like the back of my hand. Alright? I just... know when she's lying. Still, to this day, she always brags about how good she is to manipulate people and make them do what she wants. Alrighty girl, weird flex.
Well, she got to high school (what we call secondary one in Canada), and then, she started having anxiety. Like panic attacks and all? I've had those, still do these days, so I understood. I became her protector, her therapist, calming her down when my mother critized her for exagerating. I knew what to do, and I gave up all my energy to take care of her, of her mental health, as a good old sister does.
She made it to the second year of high school (secondary 2) with difficulties. Panic attacks again and all. 3 years ago, as I said, she discovered Tik Tok. I know Tik Tok and its algorithm : there are specific fyp where you can find videos about the same topic over and over again. I suspect she was in a dark side of Tik Tok, a depressed one, where you can see all sort of sad/depressing things and stories (I know, I've been there too, now trying to avoid it as much as I can because it affects me mentally and I start spiralling).
Cutting her hair short ( I guess the "funny mentally hill" trend where you cut your hair on a headbutt and dye it, I know, been there too).
Sexuality explored too. Like she was trans for a while and wanted us to call her another name (she isn't anymore, she told me so about 3 months in). I always respected her choices and calling her what she wanted to be called at that time. She was a kid, she was 13, so she was discovering herself and her preferences and all. No problem with that.
She started hanging out with some people like that too. She had a non-binary friend, a trans one, a furry one, etc. She was having fun with them. Great people. She finally had a group.
Some of them, however, had the same experiences we all hear about on Tik Tok. You know, some of them not in a great home, or in a bad relationship with parents, depression, anxiety. Hate to say it, but you know those people on Tik Tok who (unfortunatly) are bullied on the internet for being... like... huuuuh (wondering how to say that without insulting anyone) like stereotypical? Like... you know those who wants a cat litter in a classroom in a unironical way? Some of her friend were a little extremist on that plan. Again, never really bothered me.
We have two parents, a mom and a dad. They divorced when I was 7. My sister was 3. They never fought in front of us, never heard them, it was really a suprise. They went their separate ways. Me and my sis got used to go to each of them for a week, and then go back to the other for a week. It was fine, working good. My parents are both accountants, my mom teaching it too. I had a strong disagreement with my mom in 2019 about one of her (numerous) boyfriends. The only one i really hated with all my heart. This resulted in me leaving her house for about a year. My sis was still doing 1 week/1 week. Apart of that, my parents are pretty basic ones, never abused us and we always had everything we needed.
I started college. I loved it, still do, and was finally starting my life as an adult, I started a great job, was doing good in school and... was still helping my sister and my parents with her anxiety/ panic attacks. Even learn in my degree how to deal with people who disorganize.
Then, the cutting started. A lot of her friend were doing it, she told me. And then she started having those episodes where she was cutting herself. Never with something sharp, like a knife or else. But with like compass and crayons? Then, she started having suicidal thoughts. Then, and that is where it all went down, she called 911 for suicidal thoughts. She was home alone and the police called my mom.
What had she done? Scratch herself... with a pencil.
I've had panic attacks before. And suicidal thoughts that crossed my mind but I never acted on them. Never. And I can't imagine myself doing it. I talked about it, of course, with my best friend, someone I trusted and it was making me feel better. How did I know my sister was doing that and having those thoughts? She just said it, casually, at dinner with the whole family. Like... girl? It really got the mood down, everyone worried and she was like... glowing? I don't know how to say it.
She was always a bit dramatic and had a way of making everything about herself, but it was never about negative things. More like flexing a good grade or whatever. She was always talking about how depressed she was, how she was suicidal, and the things she was saying were... like straight up a depressing tik tok. Like one day I found something she said ( I think it was like "you don't understand how this feels it is like blablabla i don't remember) WORD FOR WORD in a Tik Tok. It is like she wasn't expressing her feelings, but made up phrases you find on the Internet when you type "panic attacks" or "depression".
After a second call to 911 for taking 10 advils, she got admitted to psychiatry. At that time, I was watching my parents fall appart, running around to appointments for her, my dad having stress acnea (at 45) and both of them exhausted. It was a real drama. Everyone in the family talked about it. It was the only subject of discussion, the only thing that was on everyone's mind.
I was hanging out my seat in class with my phone on my belly to be sure to feel it vibrate if something happened. We were all in a bad place.
And then, we got a diagnosis of autism.
I'm sorry, what? Where does that come from? I mean, alright, we'll deal with that one.
But then. That's where all went down for me. Sis started therapy, changed school, went to an adapted classroom for people like her and with disabilities. My parents were still all over the place.
Except where I needed them.
I was 18, at that time, starting adulthood. I have ADHD. It is really hard for me to respect a schedule, think about every appointments I have, every homework, every luggage I can't forget to bring to mom's or to dad's. I was also giving my all in school, never missed anything, straight A's and working my ass off.
I started realising that everytime my parents texted me was to ask/talk about my sis.
Every. Single. Time.
They'd ask me to bring my sister her lunch that she forgot, to go get her when she was down, or get her to her appointments like I didn't have a whole fu**ing life I was trying so hard to keep on line.
I gave all my free time to her needs and my parents's. I educated myself on autism, defended her when my mom was thinking she was faking because I wanted to prove I was there for her. That I was the life saving good sister. I never, ever, heard her say thank you.
Never.
The only compliments my parents were giving me is "thank you for getting your sis for us. Thank you for being there for her. Thank you for doing things with her."
I went trough some stuff, at that time. I hurt my knee and was failing my physical tests. It got to the point I wasn't even sure I liked my degree anymore. I was having a really hard time. But my parents never saw my pain. I have a tendency to hide things, sure, but I was really trying to talk to them about how I was feeling. They were listening, and letting go. Why didn't they start worrying for me like they did for my sister? I don't know, don't really care now. I was having suicidal thoughts too, I wanted to yeet myself in a tree and even stopped driving so it wouldn't give me options. They left me alone, because everytime I tried bringing up the fact that I was not in a good place, my sister was disorganizing at school and they needed to go to the hospital to be both there for her while she fainted from hyperventilating. Every fcking time I was talking to my sister, she was acting like she lived trough everything and was telling me she knew more about suicidal thoughts than me cause she went to psychiatry. Excuse me miss gurl, but who was fcking there to help you trough your panic attacks hun? How do you think I know so much?
Seeing I had practically no support from my already exhausted parents, I took matters into my own hands and started going to therapy. My doctor also prescribed me with anti-depressants. I was going to be ok... on my own. I've had really bad days, real hard ones. But I got back on my two feet. At least, I think so.
School was over and it was time for summer break. I had a job I loved on a boat. I've had a blast on that boat, I wasn't jumping from a house to another, I wasn't always in luggages, I had my own room like a little appartment of my own on the ship. I slowly started to discover a backpacking/adventurous side of myself. I needed air, was travelling far from home as soon as I had a week or two off of the boat.
At the same time, my sister had stopped self-harming and having suicidal thoughts. She's was now in a school for adults to finish her 4th and 5th year of college. She wasn't in a special classroom anymore. Changed friend group.
But here's the thing. Cause there is always a "but".
I started realising how much my sister was toying with us, with my parents. As soon as the diagnosis fell, she became unsufferable. For example, when I say I hate loud noises and strong light, she says she has it tougher because, ya know, "i'm autistic". I can't say something without her saying she has autism and that's why she has it worse.
When I have a good grade or I've hit a PR at the gym, I tell my parents because I am happy. I try to see life the good way, now. I'm quite proud of all the personal work i've done.
But she can't have a normal day.
It is always "ho I hated school because the light was making a sound" or something to point out she has autism.
I talked to one of my friend who is a social worker, and he told me autism is usually apparent in children. My sis was diagnosed at 15. But, and hear me out, all the things that make her autistic according to her psychiatrist... she's never really had them before.
You remember at the beginning of this rant how I told you I know when my sister is lying?
Well. I don't think an autistic person possess the flex of "being able to manipulate people so easily to get what you want".
She's always bragging about how smart she is compared to us because, you know, "ShE cAn FeElS eNeRgiEs AnD pEoPlE AnD iT AfFeCts hEr". Well, honey, I don't think that is autism. It is always little comment about how special she is because she can't do this, or that. Like I have ADHD, alright? I'm stimming all the time. I don't point it out to people for fun, actually, i'm quite ashamed of it sometimes. She bought all those fidget toys and brings them ALL to school to show how much she needs them.
One reason of why I am mad, as you can (unfortunatly) see, is my father's attitude.
The fact that my sis had episodes of suicidal thoughts and acts traumatized him. With reasons, don't get me wrong.
But now, she's clearly living well of drama and stereotypical behavior she never had before.
My father is fucking afraid of telling her no.
Like man, I don't think that if you ask her to unload the dishwasher ONE FUCKI*NG time that she's going to kill herself. Like come on.
One time, she called him cause she fainted cause she was hyperventilating cause the cleaner at her school wore a different hat than usual. Or another time where she learn that two teachers were eating togueter at lunch and not in the cafeteria?
I know my sister. She is clearly using him. She's got him hooked with a silent threat of hurting herself or making it impossible for him to receive a phone call without thinking she committed.
And. She. Fucking. Knows. It.
She left my mother's house because my mom wasn't buying her shit.
She left with all her drama about how she could appologize but she needs her space to think about what she (mom) did.
BRUH did what?!?!?!? It was so sudden, what are you on about?
All her life, she was good at one thing : breaking people's relationship.
I know, because I'm not blind.
She's the type of person that looks at you after saying your deepest secret in front of everyone and be like : "oups teeheeš¤Ŗ you know i can't keep a secret" or she plays dumb "i didn't know it was a secret oupsis" with this little dumb face that I know by heart means "I win you fuck*ng idiot".
She broke the good relationship my parents had by pretending mom told her something when it wasn't right or vice versa. When she's at dad's, she always talks about all the things mom does that sucks. When she was at mom, she was always talking about how bad it was at dad.
I was in the middle like , bruh, it isn't even that bad. And of course, my parents both being proud individuals started feeling supperior than the other and downgrading the other in front of us (wich you know my sis was repeating over and over to everyone).
But because my parents are fucking blind they let her riled them up against each others. So now they don't talk. And when they do, it is always to argue about how to take care of my sis.
To make a clear example of how she gets everything she wants :
She always tells me that she wants a Mira dog. Like a service dog. She's going to keep creating dramatic scenarios like that until my father cries and decides it is the last option we have.
But no. After the dog, it is going to be another need for neurodivergent people that she's probably going to see on Tik Tok.
Because yes, she faints and yes, she is hyperventilating. But I can create scenario in my head and make them real too (maladaptive daydreaming oups). Anxiety works like that : if I start hyperventilating for 45 seconds, my body jumps to survival mode and the mammoth thing ang boom, there you have your panic attack.
Yes. She is mentally hill.
But she's not autistic. She does not need a service dog. And she can't continue leading people on like that.
She's in need of negative attention. She hates when we compliment her, she hates when we wish her happy brithday and all. But she's always talking about how she did bad at this exam and ho people please comfort me. There's always something going on with her.
She stopped self-harming and having suicidal toughts. People started living normally.
So she restarts panic attacks but she already has a psychiatrist so she needs more.
Lets go to the hospital, something's wrong with my heart. Then she's got the pleasure of walking around school with a machine to record her heart thingy.
Nope. Nothing wrong.
People start forgetting.
Whoops now she's fainting and we don't know why.
Hospital trip yeah.
Nothing's wrong.
Then she buys a machine to keep track of her blood pressure.
Does a doctor prescribed it?
Nope. You can just buy it so she did. And she could do it like in the morning, at lunch or at night, but no, she absolutly needs to do it in front of everyone, making noise in class while the teacher is talking.
And i'm starting to get fed up.
About a year into this nightmare, 3 years ago, I stopped feeling.
I wasn't able to feel anything. And that is why, today, I can write this and unfortunatly for some, it will be controversial.
After my downfall, when my sister was in need...
I did not care.
At all.
She could do whatever she wanted to do. She could have as much trip to the hospital as she wanted.
I . Did . Not . Care .
I was going to class.
And my phone was on silent.
I don't want to know. I don't care. Don't you get it? Mom, dad, leave me alone. You did it well, right? Continue.
I am an horrible human being. My best friend tries to comfort me saying that my heart of stone is a form of self-protection, a defense mechanism that I developped 3 years to protect myself and not live trough what my sister put us trough without knowing (or caring?).
Still.
I am an egoist.
But I do not care.
You want to make me feel like a glass child?
Alright alright.
I'll deal with it.
But now the glass is fed up.
And it is about to break.
Good bye and thank you for coming all the way here.
2023.03.24 07:06 Ill_Lettuce_4165 Would you leave my job if you were me?
Hi! I've been working in this family restaurant for years. I am not a part of the family directly but have become friends over working many years with the two owners and have a lot to say about them. I worked my way for 7 years from dishwashing to bussing to serving and I'm proud of my achievement. My two bosses is a giant, big built gentleman,(6 foot 4 at east 230 lbs) and a short pretty woman, both of whom have no prior management experience, or any training (at least would be suggested to me by their actions and mannerisms) in how to operate with employees.
The Male Owner exerts unbelievable amounts of ferocity and aggression when talking to his employees. he claims he's managing "18" (really 12 per shift, and 6 of which are managed by head cook in the back, so really only 3 because he doesn't tell servers what to do) people per shift and it is stressful and that's the reason for his aggression, and he states "I'm only human" as some sort of excuse for being rude. His sisters work as waitresses, and he lets them have it when they make mistakes. "Are you kidding me??? you can't fucking count? I'm losing money because you can't fucking count????!! I lost money there are you stupid?" he says the other night to his youngest sister who mistakenly didn't charge for an extra dish (13.95$). This happens quite often at little mistakes, he openly berates the servers and bussing staff to the point that reviews on the restaurant started to appear not only because of mistakes, but just in general working. one reads as such:
" I recently had a disappointing experience at a local restaurant. Although the food was decent and our server was excellent, we were extremely disheartened by the behavior of one of the owners, a tall, older man who made disrespectful comments to our server as we were packing up our food. His wife, another owner, also spoke poorly of our daughter, who used to be friends with her own daughter. It was evident that these owners have some serious issues. While we love to support small, local businesses, we cannot recommend this particular establishment due to the disrespectful behavior of the owners. " (I reworded this with ChatGPT so it can't be traceable) on this post the owner GAVE CONDESCENDING REMARKS AND OBVIOUS SARCASM to the woman posting.
There is a remarkable amount of reviews to this length on the website. Today they tried charging me 27$ for missed food on a tag that I had served that evening, which is illegal in the state of California, which I had brought up and challenged them on because I find the notion RIDICULOUS. I have never challenged their authority one time in the restaurant and have taken everything with grace even when I can see they are completely wrong. Boss proceeded to say "okay, sure you want to go the legal route *slams papers onto a table gets up and darts over to lady boss*" says to lady boss "write him up warning number one, you get three, three and you're gone. You want it like this go ahead" and he storms into his back office where he sits regularly and drinks nightly.
We then talked after and I stated "I can work the next two weeks so lady boss can take her vacation I am working for her, or I can go now" to which he kicked a chair hardly and said "sit down" and we had a conversation. The conversation basically went, "I'm not going to fire you, I care about you, I'm human, I don't want your money, I don't owe anyone anything, we've been kind to you, if you want to leave its up to you." He really just didn't want his authority challenged, and when I said I'm not going to fucking pay for a mistake, it is not on me legally, I have protections from this. The conversation basically says to me that the ball is in my court. I can stay or leave, They need me to stay because I am a valuable asset, but I am not wanting this treatment. It has happened and continued for years. I feel like I am being manipulated, I have a strong family bond and emotions with these people, that is constantly tested by large boss's angry nature, and woman bosses cattiness. Normally we would talk it out but I am tired of the back and fourth. It feels like things are great one second and ferocious the next, almost like an abusive relationship. It is also annoying of their lack of accepting any wrong-doing.
With context above, would you leave my serving job for a new one, or would you work it through. I'm unsure what to do as I have so much personal investment into clientele (I am very beloved in the restaurant and have 13 good reviews with my name attached) and the innerworkings of the restaurant. I'm certain I could make the same at other restaurants in my area, but I'm not sure if the grass is always greener... maybe someone who has served a long time in a multitude of restaurants can give me an opinion as I have only ever worked in this one, I'm unsure how common this scheme is among bosses, or managers, or whatever other places have as superiors.
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The Male Owner exerts unbelievable amounts of ferocity and aggression when talking to his employees. he claims he's managing "18" (really 12 per shift, and 6 of which are managed by head cook in the back, so really only 3 because he doesn't tell servers what to do) people per shift and it is stressful and that's the reason for his aggression, and he states "I'm only human" as some sort of excuse for being rude. His sisters work as waitresses, and he lets them have it when they make mistakes. "Are you kidding me??? you can't fucking count? I'm losing money because you can't fucking count????!! I lost money there are you stupid?" he says the other night to his youngest sister who mistakenly didn't charge for an extra dish (13.95$). This happens quite often at little mistakes, he openly berates the servers and bussing staff to the point that reviews on the restaurant started to appear not only because of mistakes, but just in general working. one reads as such:
" I recently had a disappointing experience at a local restaurant. Although the food was decent and our server was excellent, we were extremely disheartened by the behavior of one of the owners, a tall, older man who made disrespectful comments to our server as we were packing up our food. His wife, another owner, also spoke poorly of our daughter, who used to be friends with her own daughter. It was evident that these owners have some serious issues. While we love to support small, local businesses, we cannot recommend this particular establishment due to the disrespectful behavior of the owners. " (I reworded this with ChatGPT so it can't be traceable) on this post the owner GAVE CONDESCENDING REMARKS AND OBVIOUS SARCASM to the woman posting.
There is a remarkable amount of reviews to this length on the website. Today they tried charging me 27$ for missed food on a tag that I had served that evening, which is illegal in the state of California, which I had brought up and challenged them on because I find the notion RIDICULOUS. I have never challenged their authority one time in the restaurant and have taken everything with grace even when I can see they are completely wrong. Boss proceeded to say "okay, sure you want to go the legal route *slams papers onto a table gets up and darts over to lady boss*" says to lady boss "write him up warning number one, you get three, three and you're gone. You want it like this go ahead" and he storms into his back office where he sits regularly and drinks nightly.
We then talked after and I stated "I can work the next two weeks so lady boss can take her vacation I am working for her, or I can go now" to which he kicked a chair hardly and said "sit down" and we had a conversation. The conversation basically went, "I'm not going to fire you, I care about you, I'm human, I don't want your money, I don't owe anyone anything, we've been kind to you, if you want to leave its up to you." He really just didn't want his authority challenged, and when I said I'm not going to fucking pay for a mistake, it is not on me legally, I have protections from this. The conversation basically says to me that the ball is in my court. I can stay or leave, They need me to stay because I am a valuable asset, but I am not wanting this treatment. It has happened and continued for years. I feel like I am being manipulated, I have a strong family bond and emotions with these people, that is constantly tested by large boss's angry nature, and woman bosses cattiness. Normally we would talk it out but I am tired of the back and fourth. It feels like things are great one second and ferocious the next, almost like an abusive relationship. It is also annoying of their lack of accepting any wrong-doing.
With context above, would you leave my serving job for a new one, or would you work it through. I'm unsure what to do as I have so much personal investment into clientele (I am very beloved in the restaurant and have 13 good reviews with my name attached) and the innerworkings of the restaurant. I'm certain I could make the same at other restaurants in my area, but I'm not sure if the grass is always greener... maybe someone who has served a long time in a multitude of restaurants can give me an opinion as I have only ever worked in this one, I'm unsure how common this scheme is among bosses, or managers, or whatever other places have as superiors.
2023.03.24 06:05 throwra_eacb Me (30F) and my partner (29M) have a disagreement over cleaning/work.
I work a physically demanding job, and most days I get about 6 hours. for arguments sake lets say i make about 2000 a month. My money mostly goes to bills, including rent, food, phone, gas etc. Whatever is left over is normally split between something I want to get and 60-100$ of weed he gets for back pain every 2 weeks.
He does not work, and has an income of 300/mo for disability. It mostly goes to buying him more weed, getting money for a game, keeping up with our Spotify, and his phone bill that he rarely keeps up with then complains about.
He gets upset with me for rarely doing cleaning around the house, which is very true, and whenever I do things like clean, cook, reorganize, do laundry, etc., he will complain that I did it the wrong way, even if the outcome is identical. I never complain if things aren't clean, and he does clean at least once or twice a week, however he rarely cooks, and when he does he makes me help, but when I cook hes upstairs playing games and talking to friends. I've gotten upset a few times and snapped saying if he wants to go work and make all the money I will happily trade places and clean, cook, do laundry etc. I've even said he's welcome to find someone else to move in with and let them pay for everything, but only once after a particularly tough day and long argument. We struggle for money, and rarely have anything left over at then end of 2 weeks so it would be nice if both of us had jobs but hes putting it all on me that I should be helping him with VA stuff instead, and that he wont be able to increase his disability unless I write something that I don't even understand how to write.
Over the pandemic the roles were reversed for 2 years, and I was in and out of hospital unable to work while he was working. His disability clearly didn't prevent him from working full time back then. He treats me like I owe allowing him to just sit around while I do everything, but anything I do outside of going to work and coming home I get criticized over. If I clean the kitchen, well i should have hand washed everything that didnt fit instead of running two loads of dishes because it wastes water and soap to run the dishwasher twice (also, no it doesnt but thats a fight ive had with him for about 3 years. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_rBO8neWw04 ) If i cook, well i should have known he wants the burger patties all this one specific size and if i wanna make myself smaller ones thats INCORRECT, because he had me buy those ingredients for a very specifically made meal that he shared no specifications beforehand for.
I don't ask him to clean, or cook, or work, or shop, or anything. Almost everything he has to do i have to be company to, but everything he expects me to do needs to be done without him because hes busy. But god forbid i get home and want to stream, play games all evening after working, cook for just me, chat with friends etc, and not include him directly. I can elaborate for hours but ill stop here. I AM NOT PERFECT, Shit im not even pretty good. I am adequate. I love him. I'm exhausted from all the expectations he has on me, when I ask for so little, and rarely ever ask.
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He does not work, and has an income of 300/mo for disability. It mostly goes to buying him more weed, getting money for a game, keeping up with our Spotify, and his phone bill that he rarely keeps up with then complains about.
He gets upset with me for rarely doing cleaning around the house, which is very true, and whenever I do things like clean, cook, reorganize, do laundry, etc., he will complain that I did it the wrong way, even if the outcome is identical. I never complain if things aren't clean, and he does clean at least once or twice a week, however he rarely cooks, and when he does he makes me help, but when I cook hes upstairs playing games and talking to friends. I've gotten upset a few times and snapped saying if he wants to go work and make all the money I will happily trade places and clean, cook, do laundry etc. I've even said he's welcome to find someone else to move in with and let them pay for everything, but only once after a particularly tough day and long argument. We struggle for money, and rarely have anything left over at then end of 2 weeks so it would be nice if both of us had jobs but hes putting it all on me that I should be helping him with VA stuff instead, and that he wont be able to increase his disability unless I write something that I don't even understand how to write.
Over the pandemic the roles were reversed for 2 years, and I was in and out of hospital unable to work while he was working. His disability clearly didn't prevent him from working full time back then. He treats me like I owe allowing him to just sit around while I do everything, but anything I do outside of going to work and coming home I get criticized over. If I clean the kitchen, well i should have hand washed everything that didnt fit instead of running two loads of dishes because it wastes water and soap to run the dishwasher twice (also, no it doesnt but thats a fight ive had with him for about 3 years. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_rBO8neWw04 ) If i cook, well i should have known he wants the burger patties all this one specific size and if i wanna make myself smaller ones thats INCORRECT, because he had me buy those ingredients for a very specifically made meal that he shared no specifications beforehand for.
I don't ask him to clean, or cook, or work, or shop, or anything. Almost everything he has to do i have to be company to, but everything he expects me to do needs to be done without him because hes busy. But god forbid i get home and want to stream, play games all evening after working, cook for just me, chat with friends etc, and not include him directly. I can elaborate for hours but ill stop here. I AM NOT PERFECT, Shit im not even pretty good. I am adequate. I love him. I'm exhausted from all the expectations he has on me, when I ask for so little, and rarely ever ask.
2023.03.24 01:02 PattyXP I hate my job. I'm an estate agent.
Hello,
I hate my job, I work as an estate agent. I'm still in the training period, but I would never expect it to be so soul crushing. The job itself is fine and isn't too difficult. I just hate the business model of squeezing the tenants as much as possible.
I understand it's capitalism and everything, but it just feels wrong. Especially now, as before lock downs were taking place during Covid. The landlords were concerned about accepting any tenants to keep their cash flow. So tenants received favourable terms. Now those tenancies are getting close to renewals, as estate agents we have to raise their rent by a lotā¦ this benefits the estate agency as we earn by % from the rentā¦
The tenants could be good people, living their life, trying to get by and get hit by a rent increase. Essentially making them move. Constant cycle of moving in a property, then moving in 12/24 months and repeatā¦
Imagine working hard at your job and receiving a raise and, it is going to cover your rent increase, and utility costs. Some people don't even get a consistent raise each year so they are in a downward spiralā¦
Some landlords are so cheap it's ridiculous, some landlord wanted to wait 8 weeks for a dishwasher handle because it would be cheaperā¦
Rich people usually say to invest in real estate, but I don't think I would want to do that if I get the opportunity in the future. The power dynamic on the human life to simply exist is so deranged.
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I hate my job, I work as an estate agent. I'm still in the training period, but I would never expect it to be so soul crushing. The job itself is fine and isn't too difficult. I just hate the business model of squeezing the tenants as much as possible.
I understand it's capitalism and everything, but it just feels wrong. Especially now, as before lock downs were taking place during Covid. The landlords were concerned about accepting any tenants to keep their cash flow. So tenants received favourable terms. Now those tenancies are getting close to renewals, as estate agents we have to raise their rent by a lotā¦ this benefits the estate agency as we earn by % from the rentā¦
The tenants could be good people, living their life, trying to get by and get hit by a rent increase. Essentially making them move. Constant cycle of moving in a property, then moving in 12/24 months and repeatā¦
Imagine working hard at your job and receiving a raise and, it is going to cover your rent increase, and utility costs. Some people don't even get a consistent raise each year so they are in a downward spiralā¦
Some landlords are so cheap it's ridiculous, some landlord wanted to wait 8 weeks for a dishwasher handle because it would be cheaperā¦
Rich people usually say to invest in real estate, but I don't think I would want to do that if I get the opportunity in the future. The power dynamic on the human life to simply exist is so deranged.
2023.03.24 01:00 PattyXP I hate my job. I'm an estate agent.
Hello,
I hate my job, I work as an estate agent. I'm still in the training period, but I would never expect it to be so soul crushing. The job itself is fine and isn't too difficult. I just hate the business model of squeezing the tenants as much as possible.
I understand it's capitalism and everything, but it just feels wrong. Especially now, as before lock downs were taking place during Covid. The landlords were concerned about accepting any tenants to keep their cash flow. So tenants received favourable terms. Now those tenancies are getting close to renewals, as estate agents we have to raise their rent by a lotā¦ this benefits the estate agency as we earn by % from the rentā¦
The tenants could be good people, living their life, trying to get by and get hit by a rent increase. Essentially making them move. Constant cycle of moving in a property, then moving in 12/24 months and repeatā¦
Imagine working hard at your job and receiving a raise and, it is going to cover your rent increase, and utility costs. Some people don't even get a consistent raise each year so they are in a downward spiralā¦
Some landlords are so cheap it's ridiculous, some landlord wanted to wait 8 weeks for a dishwasher handle because it would be cheaperā¦
Rich people usually say to invest in real estate, but I don't think I would want to do that if I get the opportunity in the future. The power dynamic on the human life to simply exist is so deranged.
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I hate my job, I work as an estate agent. I'm still in the training period, but I would never expect it to be so soul crushing. The job itself is fine and isn't too difficult. I just hate the business model of squeezing the tenants as much as possible.
I understand it's capitalism and everything, but it just feels wrong. Especially now, as before lock downs were taking place during Covid. The landlords were concerned about accepting any tenants to keep their cash flow. So tenants received favourable terms. Now those tenancies are getting close to renewals, as estate agents we have to raise their rent by a lotā¦ this benefits the estate agency as we earn by % from the rentā¦
The tenants could be good people, living their life, trying to get by and get hit by a rent increase. Essentially making them move. Constant cycle of moving in a property, then moving in 12/24 months and repeatā¦
Imagine working hard at your job and receiving a raise and, it is going to cover your rent increase, and utility costs. Some people don't even get a consistent raise each year so they are in a downward spiralā¦
Some landlords are so cheap it's ridiculous, some landlord wanted to wait 8 weeks for a dishwasher handle because it would be cheaperā¦
Rich people usually say to invest in real estate, but I don't think I would want to do that if I get the opportunity in the future. The power dynamic on the human life to simply exist is so deranged.
2023.03.24 00:57 PattyXP I hate my job. I'm an estate agent.
Hello,
I hate my job, I work as an estate agent. I'm still in the training period, but I would never expect it to be so soul crushing. The job itself is fine and isn't too difficult. I just hate the business model of squeezing the tenants as much as possible.
I understand it's capitalism and everything, but it just feels wrong. Especially now, as before lock downs were taking place during Covid. The landlords were concerned about accepting any tenants to keep their cash flow. So tenants received favourable terms. Now those tenancies are getting close to renewals, as estate agents we have to raise their rent by a lotā¦ this benefits the estate agency as we earn by % from the rentā¦
The tenants could be good people, living their life, trying to get by and get hit by a rent increase. Essentially making them move. Constant cycle of moving in a property, then moving in 12/24 months and repeatā¦
Imagine working hard at your job and receiving a raise and, it is going to cover your rent increase, and utility costs. Some people don't even get a consistent raise each year so they are in a downward spiralā¦
Some landlords are so cheap it's ridiculous, some landlord wanted to wait 8 weeks for a dishwasher handle because it would be cheaperā¦
Rich people usually say to invest in real estate, but I don't think I would want to do that if I get the opportunity in the future. The power dynamic on the human life to simply exist is so deranged.
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I hate my job, I work as an estate agent. I'm still in the training period, but I would never expect it to be so soul crushing. The job itself is fine and isn't too difficult. I just hate the business model of squeezing the tenants as much as possible.
I understand it's capitalism and everything, but it just feels wrong. Especially now, as before lock downs were taking place during Covid. The landlords were concerned about accepting any tenants to keep their cash flow. So tenants received favourable terms. Now those tenancies are getting close to renewals, as estate agents we have to raise their rent by a lotā¦ this benefits the estate agency as we earn by % from the rentā¦
The tenants could be good people, living their life, trying to get by and get hit by a rent increase. Essentially making them move. Constant cycle of moving in a property, then moving in 12/24 months and repeatā¦
Imagine working hard at your job and receiving a raise and, it is going to cover your rent increase, and utility costs. Some people don't even get a consistent raise each year so they are in a downward spiralā¦
Some landlords are so cheap it's ridiculous, some landlord wanted to wait 8 weeks for a dishwasher handle because it would be cheaperā¦
Rich people usually say to invest in real estate, but I don't think I would want to do that if I get the opportunity in the future. The power dynamic on the human life to simply exist is so deranged.
2023.03.23 23:58 BluntsForBlondes Am I (25F) being unreasonable about my boyfriend's (30M) career choice?
My boyfriend (M30) and I (25F) have been together for about six years. For the most part he always had some kind of job and worked hard/often but he switched professions often. From landscaping, to retail, to barbering. Constant change can be challenging/a trigger to me but I've always supported his decisions as I want him to follow his heart.
His newest thing is making music. He quit his good paying but stressful job in Dec ā21 to pursue music full time. Since he was 18 heās always had interest in music, dabbled here and there, and he is quite good. But now he thinks that putting loads of money on credit cards for equipment and doing this full time is a good idea. We split rent and bills 50/50 as he does odd side jobs here and there that just barely make ends meet for his part of everything. Today I mentioned groceries and he told me he had $10 and I nearly lost it.
I have made clear since day 1 my life goal is to be a mother, and to be as great as a mom mine was to me. I know reddit can be pretty anti-children and that dream may seem silly to some but growing up in a more ātraditionalā household was lovely for me. Although I do understand times/money is different these days but he always assured me that weād figure it out and make it happen. In addition to this, I unfortunately have a disease that affects my fertility and shortens my window of fertility and to conceive safely. He's very aware of this as I had a surgery recently to help this condition but it's only a temporary fix and I most likely will need another in 5 years or less.
He has yet to make real money doing music. Again he's really good, but I personally know of so many musicians who were amazing but did not succeed at making a proper living. Those people also have at least other jobs to fund their passion.
I keep trying to express my worries for our future in the politest way possible but he always just gives me the "this is my dream and soon I'll be making so much and passive income, everything will be fine" spiel. I am so, so nervous that I'm wasting time on pursuing *my* dream of having a family and having a husband that is willing to work just as hard as me for our family. I love him so, so much though.
He's planning on proposing (apparently) sometime in the near-ish future. I've sort of hinted at the fact that I will not say yes unless I feel at least somewhat confident in our future and pursues another avenue to make money, but to not give up on music.
His family also owns multiple small businesses that his other siblings work for and are very successful/well off, at least to the point that his brother that is younger than me just bought a house. Their business doesn't interest him at all which I understand, but it's such easy work and if I had the chance to do it even though it doesn't really interest me either, I'd do it in a heartbeat.
I am being unreasonable? I feel crazy and like a bad person, that I'm just expecting him to be this person I want/need him to be. It's just I never saw this coming of him making this decision, and sometimes I feel like if I had known this was a choice he was going to make the first day I met him, that I may not have became his girlfriend in the first place. At times we argue about this and he just says "Fine I guess I'll just look on Indeed for dishwashing jobs then". He has multiple degrees, he could accomplish so much. I'm so lost.
TL;DR My boyfriend job hops often but has been pursuing a music career for the last two years, not earning any money. I'm concerned for our future.
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His newest thing is making music. He quit his good paying but stressful job in Dec ā21 to pursue music full time. Since he was 18 heās always had interest in music, dabbled here and there, and he is quite good. But now he thinks that putting loads of money on credit cards for equipment and doing this full time is a good idea. We split rent and bills 50/50 as he does odd side jobs here and there that just barely make ends meet for his part of everything. Today I mentioned groceries and he told me he had $10 and I nearly lost it.
I have made clear since day 1 my life goal is to be a mother, and to be as great as a mom mine was to me. I know reddit can be pretty anti-children and that dream may seem silly to some but growing up in a more ātraditionalā household was lovely for me. Although I do understand times/money is different these days but he always assured me that weād figure it out and make it happen. In addition to this, I unfortunately have a disease that affects my fertility and shortens my window of fertility and to conceive safely. He's very aware of this as I had a surgery recently to help this condition but it's only a temporary fix and I most likely will need another in 5 years or less.
He has yet to make real money doing music. Again he's really good, but I personally know of so many musicians who were amazing but did not succeed at making a proper living. Those people also have at least other jobs to fund their passion.
I keep trying to express my worries for our future in the politest way possible but he always just gives me the "this is my dream and soon I'll be making so much and passive income, everything will be fine" spiel. I am so, so nervous that I'm wasting time on pursuing *my* dream of having a family and having a husband that is willing to work just as hard as me for our family. I love him so, so much though.
He's planning on proposing (apparently) sometime in the near-ish future. I've sort of hinted at the fact that I will not say yes unless I feel at least somewhat confident in our future and pursues another avenue to make money, but to not give up on music.
His family also owns multiple small businesses that his other siblings work for and are very successful/well off, at least to the point that his brother that is younger than me just bought a house. Their business doesn't interest him at all which I understand, but it's such easy work and if I had the chance to do it even though it doesn't really interest me either, I'd do it in a heartbeat.
I am being unreasonable? I feel crazy and like a bad person, that I'm just expecting him to be this person I want/need him to be. It's just I never saw this coming of him making this decision, and sometimes I feel like if I had known this was a choice he was going to make the first day I met him, that I may not have became his girlfriend in the first place. At times we argue about this and he just says "Fine I guess I'll just look on Indeed for dishwashing jobs then". He has multiple degrees, he could accomplish so much. I'm so lost.
TL;DR My boyfriend job hops often but has been pursuing a music career for the last two years, not earning any money. I'm concerned for our future.
2023.03.23 23:17 CuriousAntelope3538 OCD Sociopath Narcissistic Co-Worker
OCD problem? It's a cleaning job at a very large restaurant. She always said "I'm gonna deep clean [insert place here] and then knock out the [insert place here]. Before she came (and still am by all means) I was very liked and respected for my hard work. Like I said, her "hard" (OCD) hasn't affected the perception of the bosses. But, apparently to her, my equal, not my boss, I've not cleaned an area well enough. "You just be stop sweepin'" No, have to take all this time sweeping into piles. I don't have time for that shit! I have a huge place to clean.
Then, she pulls out the chairs to sweep....we have like 375 chairs maybe in the place! Seriously, because there's a part that does shows (the venue) that seats about 300 and I'm going to say the restaurant sits 75 to be conservative. I asked the other porter (who's been there for years) if he pulls out the chairs and he says no, because he doesn't want to spend two hours doing the venue. Nope, I don't have time, but to spare myself trouble, I do as she says--with limitations. She asks me to stay longer with her, I say no. I want to go home.
Restaurants have what they call family meal--the kitchen staff makes something simple like chicken tenders or something. It's ready. I'm ready to eat the other day. She says "Please, I need help in here with the venue." She says it two or three times, so you know she's trying to play me...use me.
Last thing I remember saying, "Didn't your mother teach you good manners?" What I meant, was don't you know it's good manners to let your co-worker go eat when its time? That's the last thing I remember before being in the dishwashing area surrounded by people. I was told what I had said to her was very disrespectful. Apparently I had said "Fuck you mother". I have epilepsy. Given I don't remember walking from the one area to the other or these other people coming in, I likely suffered from what's called an "absence seizure" where you don't go into convulsions, but may stare for a minute, even continuing your task while not knowing it, and then come back to your senses. You don't remember the time in between actions, from seconds up to minutes. You basically blackout. All the frustration made me have a seizure.
Maybe I did say, being confused, "fuck your mother" though I do remember saying "Didn't your mother teach you good manners?" Maybe she didn't like that and we got into a confrontation and I went into the seizure and said "fuck your mother" and don't remember any confrontation or that time up until being in the other room. Or maybe she just lied. I'll have to ask who heard what to see if the little sociopath made stuff up because she didn't like my commonly used phrase about being taught good manners.
What I ALSO remember saying is when she asked me like two times why I couldn't eat is saying: "Because I said so." I don't let her play her manipulation games anymore. The first three times with things like that, I was diplomatic. After that, I've decided to be firm. You can't let people step on you, especially sociopaths. If it's time to eat, you have the right to before the food is gone. If she wants to hyperclean, that's her affair. I have the right to eat. So, maybe I did in my seizure tell her "fuck your mother"...maybe because I said the mother teaching good manners thing and she got mad and we argued and I came to a point where I said "Fuck your mother." I don't remember. She with her little smirk says. "You remember. Don't be pretendin' you don't." I didn't mention one thing about the seizures either. Well, I kept the stiff British upper lip, but apologized multiple times and shook on it. So, shook on it. But, the little sociopathic bitch. She's 30 and I'm 37 and she tells me she's offended because I'm like a father to her...yeah, I'm like a father to her somehow. Six years older and a paternal figure? It's not like I give her sage words. She's the one who pretends to be my boss. I only sometimes comply to keep the peace. I guess my unconscious didn't during my possible seizure or something. Regardless, I'm looking for a new job. I can't take this OCD sociopathic stuff anymore. I've had smaller seizures (not the mentioned type) working with her in that very venue. Look up the types of seizures if you're confused on what I mean.
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Then, she pulls out the chairs to sweep....we have like 375 chairs maybe in the place! Seriously, because there's a part that does shows (the venue) that seats about 300 and I'm going to say the restaurant sits 75 to be conservative. I asked the other porter (who's been there for years) if he pulls out the chairs and he says no, because he doesn't want to spend two hours doing the venue. Nope, I don't have time, but to spare myself trouble, I do as she says--with limitations. She asks me to stay longer with her, I say no. I want to go home.
Restaurants have what they call family meal--the kitchen staff makes something simple like chicken tenders or something. It's ready. I'm ready to eat the other day. She says "Please, I need help in here with the venue." She says it two or three times, so you know she's trying to play me...use me.
Last thing I remember saying, "Didn't your mother teach you good manners?" What I meant, was don't you know it's good manners to let your co-worker go eat when its time? That's the last thing I remember before being in the dishwashing area surrounded by people. I was told what I had said to her was very disrespectful. Apparently I had said "Fuck you mother". I have epilepsy. Given I don't remember walking from the one area to the other or these other people coming in, I likely suffered from what's called an "absence seizure" where you don't go into convulsions, but may stare for a minute, even continuing your task while not knowing it, and then come back to your senses. You don't remember the time in between actions, from seconds up to minutes. You basically blackout. All the frustration made me have a seizure.
Maybe I did say, being confused, "fuck your mother" though I do remember saying "Didn't your mother teach you good manners?" Maybe she didn't like that and we got into a confrontation and I went into the seizure and said "fuck your mother" and don't remember any confrontation or that time up until being in the other room. Or maybe she just lied. I'll have to ask who heard what to see if the little sociopath made stuff up because she didn't like my commonly used phrase about being taught good manners.
What I ALSO remember saying is when she asked me like two times why I couldn't eat is saying: "Because I said so." I don't let her play her manipulation games anymore. The first three times with things like that, I was diplomatic. After that, I've decided to be firm. You can't let people step on you, especially sociopaths. If it's time to eat, you have the right to before the food is gone. If she wants to hyperclean, that's her affair. I have the right to eat. So, maybe I did in my seizure tell her "fuck your mother"...maybe because I said the mother teaching good manners thing and she got mad and we argued and I came to a point where I said "Fuck your mother." I don't remember. She with her little smirk says. "You remember. Don't be pretendin' you don't." I didn't mention one thing about the seizures either. Well, I kept the stiff British upper lip, but apologized multiple times and shook on it. So, shook on it. But, the little sociopathic bitch. She's 30 and I'm 37 and she tells me she's offended because I'm like a father to her...yeah, I'm like a father to her somehow. Six years older and a paternal figure? It's not like I give her sage words. She's the one who pretends to be my boss. I only sometimes comply to keep the peace. I guess my unconscious didn't during my possible seizure or something. Regardless, I'm looking for a new job. I can't take this OCD sociopathic stuff anymore. I've had smaller seizures (not the mentioned type) working with her in that very venue. Look up the types of seizures if you're confused on what I mean.