My boyfriend has anger issues. He goes from 1 to 100 fast and it doesn’t matter if he’s arguing with me or venting about something else. He raises his voice and refuses to lower it even when I give him signals to do so (I don’t like being yelled at and I’m autistic so its overwhelming.) He told me he has to yell in order to release his pent up frustration and when I tell him to lower his voice or avoid angry outbursts I don’t actually care about mens issues like I say and that I won’t let him express his emotions. He said I’m a hypocrite and a liar for saying I do.
He doesn’t think his anger is an issue and I don’t know how to get that through to him. He cusses in public, yells and cusses at his mom, hits his desk during games, yelled at my friend till they cried, and I can’t talk to him about our relationship or finances without him getting mad at me for it. He’s never been violent and is very calm until something sets him off but so many things set him off. It’s embarrassing at the least and scary at most.
Is there anything I can do or should I try to get him help in someway?

Hello there, a bit about me to start. I am 6'2 with a medium build. I am a senior in college. I enjoy lots of sports (soccer, basketball). I also enjoy the outdoors in general (hiking, visiting museums, watching waterfalls). I am looking for a girl to chat with about anything and everything. Just talk about life in general and ask each other questions, get to know each other, and have fun. Being responsive is a big plus to keep the conversation going. I am also looking for someone that is around the same age. Not too young and not too old.
DM me if you're interested.

^{Hey strangers,
I’m aware this isn’t an incredibly common situation but I know we’ve all got our own fucked up home lives/families.}
I was just hoping to find some kind of advice or whatever support can be thrown my ways.

So, I was adopted at birth because my bio mother was using while I was in the womb and it was either adoption or foster care.

I’ve met my bio(logical) mother a couple of times but from what I’ve heard my bio father was having an affair and disappeared so I’ve never had the chance to meet him.
I’m told my artistic and other interesting traits would have come from him and I find myself moving onto the next stage in my life;
(i dropped out of high school this year - hoping to work full time and possibly continue my education next year at a music college).
It’s not that I would like him to be a part of my life (I do not want that, not yet at least), I have a complete family that is bound stronger than blood, but I would like to meet the second half of my genetics?
I don’t know what I want to get out of meeting him and I’m just toying with the idea of doing so, but I think even if I got to see the man let alone talk to and understand him I would gain some kind of closure, because I feel like there’s just a piece missing in my understanding of my upbringing.
I believe nurture over nature every day of the week but I’m sure anybody else who is missing or had missed not having parental/birth figure, but a specific person to be that figure, will understand the feeling of missing out on something I don’t have. It’s a confusing feeling and I don’t know how to treat it.
Even if I managed to get ahold of one of his handles how would I go about asking to meet him? Or even introduce myself?
Would he want to talk to me?
Does he even know I exist? irdk.
TLDR; adopted at birth, met bio mother but bio father has never even been mentioned and now i’m questioning the mystery man.
I probably only figured out I have a father because I understand basic biology.
^{If anybody has been through something similar and is comfortable sharing anything about their experience I would deeply appreciate your support ❤️.}

Hi I want to find someone that I can talk to and have fun. I like to read, draw, play video games and have long talks with people. I would really like to get to know you and I’m bi so I don’t care about your gender. Please tell me your age when you message me and don’t be a creep.

i guess i’ll start with some context, me and this girl were friends online for around a year, then i told her i had a crush on her and she felt the same way so we started dating for a couple months. throughout our friendship she was dealing with depression and suicide attempts, and later she told me that i was the reason she was even alive because i was just always there for her. We have spent 100s of hours playing games and flirting with each other, but recently she became religious (Christian) however i am an atheist, we still managed to date but just a couple hours ago she said that i’m just not right and she isn’t ready for a relationship. i’m used to her being very moody (she ghosted me once for 2 months) and often she says we need a break yet we still continue texting. well it finally happened, this time she has officially broken up with me and i know she won’t come back in 2 months. I know it’s stupid that i’m complaining about a relationship with someone i have never met, but it’s really hard for me to talk to people. I’m soon going to have no friends after I graduate high school in a month, and my other online friends barely talk anymore. I have never been close to another girl in my entire life and it was only by pure luck that i met her. I have nobody to talk with everyday now and I plan to kill myself in August unless a miracle happens. I’ve posted on this subreddit before on different accounts whenever Ive been depressed in past years because of various family problems ive had, and each time have always gotten positive replies. But this is definitely the lowest point of my life. If anyone has any advice for my situation please comment

One turns to the other and says "Is it hot in here or is it just me?"
The other brick says "Ahh!!! A talking brick!!!"

Hi!
I'm just a dude who is missing that exciting feeling of meeting a potential soulmate. Would be awesome to get to know someone I can really get along with. No rushing into anything though, alternatively we could also become great friends!
In my free time I love to play games, mostly singleplayer stuff, but also some league, dead by daylight, or phasmophobia, as well as watch shows, movies, anime. I'm a pretty mediocre cook, but can make a mean lasagna! Music is a huge part in my life and I could nerd out about bands I enjoy, so be warned, haha.
Also, do expect some cat picture spam!
As for what I'm looking for, there's no specific type, just someone I can get along with, someone who makes me excited to see a message pop up from them. We could talk about all kinds of things, hang out in vc, or simply spam memes.
Thank you for your time reading this and have a great day!

I have been in a long distance relationship with someone i met online through both of our parents,everything has been going great and i love him very much i do believe he is my perfect match,but we got into an argument two days ago and he hasnt contacted me since our fight ,he stopped checking my stories and completely ignored me on every single social media platform we had a serious argument about a serious matter ,he checked stories of another shared account i had with my bestfriend except my main, ive heard advices from different people and mostly they told me that its a sign he doesnt want anything to do with you and the relationship probably ended for him and hes ghosting you im here left wondering should i text him ?should i keep waiting for a text?Did he really end things?what is he thinking?and talking to him means i want to change my whole beliefs what do you guys think?Everyone advised me not to text him they said if he really wanted you he wont loose you over an argument hell talk to you and hell change things and make it work i dont want him to change his beliefes i just wanna talk to him i miss him he was supposed to come in a few weeks we were finally gonna spend time together i think its all ruined now what should i do what should i think ?i need help

One common trait of primary psychopaths is calm under conditions that the general public believes should make everyone hysterical.
I am not a primary psychopath, though my parents both were. I do, however, exhibit many primary-psychopathic traits.
I am including some personal anecdotes, slightly colorful to be sure, to encourage discussion.
Primary psychopaths are basically anhedonic, mistrustful, and often apathetic. Their sensation-seeking, rule-breaking, attention-seeking, paraphilias, criminal versatility, etc. stem largely from just being bored and depressed.
That attitude is not lost on others and repels them even when masked, leading to attention-seeking tantrums. Two friends who were firestarters as children grew up to set themselves on fire for the same reason: boredom and numbness.
Primary psychopaths are characterized by enlarged striata, visible on MRI, which leads to increased need for stimulation, and by the Warrior Gene. Warriors are routinely called upon not only to take lives but to sacrifice their own.
Intelligence is essential in any great warrior, so it makes sense that a warrior caste would be suspicious, bored and indifferent (callous), and more interested in ends than means (duplicity, lying, manipulation, ruthlessness): if you enjoy life, how will you take pleasure in being a shadow on the battlefield, knowing that you may not survive the engagement?
If a normal person is threatened by Medicaid fraudsters, he will probably just take the medical care and hope the goons won't hurt him. In such a situation, I knew their goal was life insurance, not Medicaid fraud, so I tried to kill myself in ways that would have killed most people (drowning in extremely polluted water marked as a drowning risk due to strong currents, then drank my own urine for 3 days while stopping antibiotics midcourse, hoping to develop a superbug to thank my friends and neighbors) but barely hurt me: I am the son of an unrelentingly brutal special forces commander, who raped his own soldiers, castrated Blacks for sport, prided himself on devising new methods of killing with his bare hands, and lamented the unscrupulousness of people selected to provide information under torture). He and my mother -- a pedophile, castration fetishist, FGM fetishist, rape fetishist, trafficker (cocaine, children, slaves), arranger of murders for hire, money launderer, and money other interests -- and was jubilant as I thought of fucked up and conceived me, which
They took out a life insurance policy, circumcised me instead of reassigning me at birth as indicated, and waited for me to die.
His second wife, who did her family of guards at GULAG in Siberia proud by getting a promotion to surveil rich people and push them out windows, , stalked me for years, then decided to castrate and enslave me. I wish I had been reassigned at birth, but being 40-year-old nutless Lurch just doesn't seem like fun.
I refused slavery, so she robbed my friends to make me disappear in GULAG ( State psych). I let her friends know, so they demanded the money from the life insurance policy. Failing that, extirpation of everyone who robbed my friends. It'll happen.
Instead of killing myself, it may be advantageous to move somewhere other than a kleptopsychocracy. I have earned respect from homicidal psychopaths for staying cool when beaten bloody.
I have some classic primary psychopathic traits. For instance, I was struck by a speeding Jeep when celebrating my 26th birthday and Thanksgiving in 2010..
I was strolling across 3rd Avenue and paused to let the speeding Jeep, two blocks ahead of the other traffic, go by, figuring I would then just stroll to he curb.
My best friend at the time had a fight-or-flight reaction and risked his life to pull me into the path of the Jeep, himself falling down and being grazed in the process.
I was slammed directly in my left side, then grew giddy as I bounced of the hood, then the windshield, then the roof, which gave me a really beautifully blurred view of the white Christmas lights on the trees. I thought of the 1995 season finale of Law and Order, in which Claire Kincaid, played by Jill Hennessy (a then-famous Cover Girl model), was distracted by her conversation with her boss, Jack McCoy (played by Sam Waterston), and was killed in a driver's side crash. The lights in that episode were just like what I was seeing. How the hell did the producers know how it should look? I thought of asking a childhood acquaintance whose dad worked on the show to tell his dad, then lamented they would never know because I would be dead. I hit the pavement, landing on my back. The tires touched my left hip. I thought having crushed c&b in the middle of 3rd Avenue would be really gross, so I was relieved when the Jeep didn't run over me. I wiggled my toes and figured everything would be a stupid formality, which was true.
My friend stood over me, screaming. His hair looked so thick, he looked so beautiful, and so... bothered... I was thinking of how unfair it was that my birthday was being ruined by ordinary people with their procedures.
I was lying in the middle of 3rd Avenue, staring up at this amazing specimen, only for him to scream hysterically instead of helping me up so we could continue celebrating a the nearest motel.
They would inevitably call an ambulance and blame me for waiting for the speeding Jeep to pass, which indeed happened. Then tragedy struck: the ambulance crew had the unmitigated gall to tell me not to sit up and take off my shirt.
That was a vintage Brooks Brothers navy blue Golden Fleece tennis shirt. I was scarred for life as they cut the shirt, the scissors moving menacingly toward my face, just to remind me that I would be a miserable failure (true, but not because of the shirt).
I had struck my head on the pavement and could not urinate. I stayed on a Foley catheter for a while and walked out of the hospital the evening.
My only injuries were bruising, a scrape on my right hand, and a hairline fracture, barely perceptible on x-ray, in my lumbar spine.
My mother insisted I have physical therapy. I pointed out that there was nothing to do but wait for my body to heal. I knew she just wanted to play the hysterical mother, worried about her adult son who didn't know how to cross the street by himself. Yup...
When my mother was dying, I was livid that people were upset: I was the person closest to her. If I don't mind, how dare they encroach on my indifference?! I remarked around that time, quite sincerely and incessantly, that people who mourn the dead should be killed: not only for coveting the dead but for pretending to they feel sorry for the dead instead of admitting they feel sorry for themselves.
I really enjoyed exposing my crooked family to my former friends they robbed: they fucked up their payment plan and now they and their American friends, to whom they spread around my friends' money, cannot be saved.
I really hope they really, really spread it around, because then there will be mass casualties. If good Russians won't starve Europe, can they at least liquidate New York? It's like blowing up Syria: someone has to do it.
It would really work out well for me: I live in New York and my life sucks, so that way I shouldn't have to keep sleeping and metabolizing and would die knowing that the people I see every miserable day would never make trouble again. I could just die instead of making more decisions.
I always regretted not having killed my parents before I turned 12. Mommy got away scot free, but Daddy and his nearest and dearest fucked themselves.
I actually asked if I could help out with the torture, but no one needs me for anything. I'm always ready to roll up my sleeves to help a friend. If you can't kill your family, how are you supposed to kill strangers?

SHE GOES TO MY SCHOOL, IS 10 MONTHS OLDER THAN ME AND WE ARE IMMEDIATELY BEST FRIENDS. ITS BEEN A WEEK SINCE WE MET AND SHE ALREADY FALLS ASLEEP TO ME TALKING ON CALLS. SHE TALKS ABOUT WANTING TO FALL ASLEEP ON ME LITERALLY ALL THE TIME. I HAVE UHAULED INTO HER HEART, ACCORDING TO HER.
NEITHER OF US WANT A RELATIONSHIP SO WE ARE JUST GAL PALS. IM HEADING OVER TO HER HOUSE ON TUESDAY AND WE’RE GOING TO WALK TO A SMOOTHIE PLACE, GO BACK TO HER ROOM, WATCH MONTY PYTHON AND CUDDLE (SHE HASNT SEEN THE MOVIES)
I AM SO EXCITED AND HAPPY AND GAY PANICKING
SHES ALSO HEADING TO COLLEGE SOON SO WE’LL BE ABLE TO HANG OUT AT HER DORM WHICH WOULD BE DOPE AF BECAUSE PARENTS ARE THE ONLY THING KEEPING US AWAY FROM THE GAY COMFY NAP TIMES

Started a new job 6 weeks ago and have noticed that a woman I work with just always seems to be "there."
From the time we met, I got a lot of eye contact / smiles from her, but I chalked it up to her being friendly/professional.
But I keep noticing that this same girl keeps ending up in the same general vicinity as me, though. For example: A handful of times she's gotten up to go to the bathroom / break room at the same time as me.
Our office building has an outdoor courtyard with a basketball hoop and some other stuff.
Literally every time this girl and I have been in the courtyard at the same time she's been in my vicinity, and it's always been her coming outside after me.
The few times I was shooting around with coworkers, she would be standing around off to the side on her phone or with some other girls (but I saw that she was the one who led them there). I caught her looking at me a few times. Another time, I was talking to some guys by the fountain, and she came out and sat down a couple benches down. I thought she might be interested in another guy, but the only person present in every one of these incidents was me.
A few days ago, some work groups from our office had to do a volunteer cleanup thing. I noticed she was lingering around me and the girl I was partnered with, then she started working in our area until her group mates called her over to their assigned area. When I was leaving the venue, she was there with her group. She walked right in front of me for no apparent reason, smiled at me and said "Sorry for getting in the way!"
I have some hesitations about the situation because it's work, but do you guys think there could be something to this things from an attraction standpoint? Am I reading into this too much because I find her attractive, or does this seem intentional?

46 year old mom to 16M. I got pregnant from a hook-up. It was my fault, as I didn't thought about asking him to wear a condom. I am not proud of this and if I could turn back in time, I'd do it differently.
The only time I saw his father was on that night. I choose not to look for him because it was a shot in the dark. I didn't had the resources to look for him.
I still choose to raise him. My family welcomed him with opened arms and helped me take care of him. I never dated again after this and focused on doing my best in raising him.
A few weeks ago, after some questions he had made about the issue, I've decided it was time to sit down with him and explain to him what happened. He had a very bad reaction.
He was extremely angry, which I understand. I would be too. I told him I was sorry. However, he said somethings that really punched me in the gut. Namely, he said he was ashamed to be my son and said that a hook-up is something a prostitute does. Then he told me that our relationship was done.
The tension has already died down, but I can see he is still very angry at me. We don't have the same intimacy anymore and we don't talk to each other in the same way. He avoids me when at home.
I know that I should have been more responsable at the time and that I should have tried to look for his father. But inspite of that, I've always tried my best to own up to my actions and I love him deeply. I'm afraid he'll never forgive me now.
How do I fix our relationship?

Many magic systems have a facially transactional model of upfront costs: in order to achieve X output (magic), I need to give up Y input (blood, etc.). Spirits is now not necessarily a magic-making machine but instead a debt grantor, and the mage is a grantee.
For my magic system, I wanted to use a different model, flipping it from an upfront cost to a delayed cost: I can achieve X output now, but I will need to give up Y later. To be more accurate and explain, in my universe, the planet is a sentient consciousness, and everything in and on it is a different aspect or expression of its existence. This includes humans too, and other races as well, putting that aside. Magic is going into debt with spirits, but what the spirits want is not concrete like what people want; they have wants, needs, and personalities. What one fire spirit wants is not necessarily what another fire spirit wants, and due to this very nature, studying magic becomes more about understanding the other party so you can both come to an agreement that's mutually beneficial.
A lot of magic is reaching out and getting them to take stock and pay attention, with rituals and spells being akin to pitches or terms of a contract with reciprocity on both sides. Spirits breaking Deals come with just as much consequence as a person breaking a deal, and the punishment is equal to that of what was agreed upon. However, if for some reason you figure out how to keep delaying what you owe, eventually it will come if the deal isn't fulfilled to the letter, hence why being specific is important as well. Spirits are sometimes ephemeral; they know just as much as people do about someone that they know, or, to be more accurate, they only know what you say.and do on the very surface level and will not be able to read your heart, your soul, your intentions, and all that. With this said, it is also important to note that while spirits are not holy omniscient, they do talk to one and are careful about who they make deals with.
Essentially, karma exists in this universe, but it's more centered around keeping your word, not in a you can't lie sort of way, but more in a are you someone who makes good on their deals specifically, not always pertaining tomagic, more so what sort of person you are in this universe." A good rule of thumb is that your deals are best kept, with anyone can learn magic if they have the right knowledge, more specifically access to certain types of spirits and spirits of different calibers, so you'll have access to your local spirits of darkness, With there being many different approaches to doing magic and calling spirits, you might not necessarily have access to a greater power that embodies a different or stronger aspect of the dark with spirits not giving or allowing access to magic they deem worthy or not fit as magic can and will just not work or backfire ironically if the spirits think they're being tricked, swindled, or conned, however this generally depends on the spirits and Spirits in one area might let you do magic where others might not, but as I've said, spirits are humans, to use the broadest meaning of that word, and are capable of making mistakes and bad judgment calls.
There are probably a lot of things I missed, but this is it. What do you guys think? Any suggestions I know not many people are going to read this, but I wanted to give it a good old college try.

As the tittle quite accurately says, life is not only about the journey, it’s about who you spend that journey with, and who better to be pals with than a bunch of strangers online!
I’m pretty much an open book and have your run of the mill hobbies and things I like, but I do think I can bring a lot to the friendships!
Hopefully you consider my friendship application and we can be friends!

My (25F) husband (27M) & I have a mutual friend (29M). This mutual friend has been involved in an off & on relationship with his partner who has cheated on him multiple times, laughed in his face about it, never apologized, etc. they have recent gotten back together and we do not see this mutual friend as much. We have tried inviting him and his partner out multiple times, always met with an excuse or barrier. Our friend does not seem as happy to be in this relationship again. For example, not being in a good mood, visually depressed looking, experiencing stomach issues, not doing things he enjoys doing (riding motorcycle, working on cars, going out), and not being responsive to messages and phone calls.
In December, we went out for a trivia night at dinner. Our friend’s partner called us assholes, stating that we had negative body language towards her. I did not agree with her that we acted that way towards her, but still apologized several months later when I saw her next (I do not have her added on any social medias nor have her phone number). I had told our mutual friend it was unfair that he is ignoring us, due to his partner. His response was to “just give it time” & I told him that it was unfair to us to wait on the sidelines to be friends again because his partner disapproves, for no true reason. He replied with, “it’s not fair to me either”.
A couple weeks ago, we went golfing and I told our friend & his partner that I would pay for their dinner & would love for them to come to an escape room with us. I tried to make small talk with her only to be met with one worded answers. Our mutual friend thanked me three different times for buying them dinner, his partner did not thank me at all. The next day, I mentioned to our friend that his partner did not thank me at all for dinner, as I thought this was kind of rude given how hard I have tried to make her feel welcomed & amend issues. He had relayed to my husband & I that she said, “what do they want me to do, get on my knees and thank them?”
It definitely appears to me that there is some sort of emotional/manipulation/abuse cycle going on. We relayed to him that we love & support him, but will not continue this rollercoaster of friendship. At this point, my husband & I have cut ties with this mutual friend because he is continuing to allow & enable her behavior. My husband sent a long text message to which this mutual friend didn’t reply. Should we let this friendship die or try another tactic?

My (20M) boyfriend of one year dumped me (19F) 2 weeks ago. It completely blindsighted me. We were acting as usual and the morning of he told me i love you before he started work. then didn't respond to a few of my texts and showed up at my door asking me to come out and talk. he told me we needed to break up. He said he fell out of love with me a month ago. He said other things like he wasn't ready for a long term relationship, (although we had been dating for a year and talked about a future together on many occasions), that he feels like this relationship would keep getting worse, that he didn't want to put in the effort for long distance as I'm leaving for university again in the fall. we did long distance before and saw each other often with no issues.
we had a fight a month prior which some concerns were brought up that I apologized for. I asked if he could communicate with me when he's upset with me earlier because he had been resenting me on this for months. i came up with a plan to tackle the issue and thought we would work together as a team moving forward (agreed on by both of us) I know telling someone you don't love them anymore is hard, and he owned up to being wrong for holding it in before ending things. We haven't spoken since and he deleted me on everything. He said "i still think you're a good person and wish you the best." but that just cut deeper because that's so little to say after loving someone for so long.
He did/said some extremely hurtful things in the past to me, and this hurt even more. he helped me move into my apartment, let me drive him to and from work most days, I bought us lunch, and we slept together for the month leading up to the breakup. The day before the breakup he told me he had a great day because of me and was thankful i was with him. I feel so used and confused. I know he gave me reasons as to why but I'm going between anger and sadness. I feel like I was the problem sometimes, as he told me he felt like his happiness was dependent on me spending time with him. I feel like this is untrue (at least for me), I kept myself busy frequently. I've been having a tough time going through therapy for sexual violence and living with emotionally immature parents, but I've always tried to never impose on him. I really tried my best. I know people say I'll find someone who really values me, but the things he told me when he was angry are making it really hard not to reach out. I know both of us made mistakes. I guess the signs were there that he was disengaging. I just loved him so much that I didn't want him to leave me over something I could fix now that he told me about it.
I don't know what to do here. I'm living for myself and trying to be happy without him. I just needed to vent and maybe ask for some guidance on moving on. There's lots more to it so please ask any questions if needed! thanks in advance:)

For example, if you started out with a child who’s shy, or extra competitive, or someone who doesn’t like to share, or someone who’s anxious around strangers, etc, to what extent did that behavior stay with your child when they became adults?

Hello! and Konnichiwasup! Thank you so much for reading my post! I'm 27 years old male from Tokyo, Japan.
I hope to make friends who speaks English natively. (hopefully friends from Australia or New Zealand because I'm planning to work there next year)
as I wrote on title, I can help you with your Japanese and I'm gonna be your native Japanese friend. (only if you want). In return, I hope you help me with my English. (You don't need to do anything difficult. I just want you to talk to me in English. so I could practice my English listening and speaking.)
We could practice our languages while we play video games or just talk on the phone! Let's get to know each other!
I hope to hear from you! Have a good day!

Hey, guys! My name is Adrian, and like most people here, I'm looking to make more friends! A bit about me is that I'm a bi guy who lives on the East Coast, and I'm currently in my third year of college.
My passions include music, PC gaming, martial arts, manga (specifically BL), and anything related to the great outdoors!
What am I looking for in a friendship? Well, ideally, we'd work on building a bond strong enough to where we'd always have each other's back when life gets tough. I'd love for us to be able to spend our days laughing our troubles away by sharing comedic gold and overall wholesome moments. I guess you can say that I'm searching for another best friend 😅.
If any of this have peaked your interest, feel free to DM me! Thanks for reading, and I hope to talk to you guys soon! 💙