I'm really nervous to post this, but here is goes. I think I am ready to admit I am an alcoholic, but only to strangers on the internet for right now.
I have never considered myself an alcoholic because I am an extremely high functioning one, to my own detriment. How can I be an alcoholic if I drank my way through a masters program only to graduate with a 4.0? I'm not drinking a handle of rum and screaming at everyone around me like my mother did. I've never missed a day of work despite being either still a bit buzzed or completely hungover. I haven't had a rock bottom yet, so obviously I'm good right?
Not really. My first red flag is that I have become really sneaky about my drinking. For over a year I always have a 750ml bottle of whiskey in my office closet, hiding my drinking from my partner. I rotate between six different liquor stores so I don't become a weekly regular anywhere. It was working great until the paranoia of being found out started seeping into every corner. I listen for footsteps in the house and hide my glass when anyone walks past my office, I've almost been caught several times. I worry when my parter and I pop into a liquor store for beer or something that the cashier will recognize me and say something. I feel so guilty and ashamed. I keep thinking I'll stop before it gets out of hand.
Second red flag is the cycle of binge drinking, waking up feeling horrible, and justifying drinking more just to feel better. That cycle has reached a point where I don't even feel good from the alcohol, I just drink it to feel not sick. It's not fun, it's not productive, and I hate it. I feel so embarrassed when I shakily hand my ID card to some kid working the liquor store cash register, buying a bottle of whiskey at noon on a Tuesday. I feel like everyone is looking at me and they see right through me.
The catalyst that really broke me happened this past Monday. For about 5 weeks now I have been taking Wellbutrin for depression. My doctor told me not to drink while taking it, but I figured it was fine because they always say that. When I had a check-in on Monday, and admitted my drinking hadn't really stopped, she told me that my choices are stop drinking or she will have to switch me to a new antidepressant because as she said it, Wellbutrin, more so than other antidepressants, can severely lower your seizure threshold. I had to make a choice in that moment: either use this as an opportunity to make a positive change, or allow drinking to continue controlling my life and switch to a new medication whose therapeutic benefits will probably be cancelled out by said drinking. I chose to stay on Wellbutrin and haven't had a drink since. It has been three days, 14 hours, and 28 minutes.
I'm past the worst of the physical withdrawal symptoms but my brain is doing mental gymnastics all day trying to justify why it's okay to drink just a little or thinking about upcoming events and immediately thinking, well I can at least drink at those, right? Surely seizures and alcoholism doom spirals take breaks for special events, right? Ugh. I'm just feeling so lost and out of my depths. My third red flag is that at my worst, I actually feel like risking a seizure is a reasonable trade for a buzz and for not having to go through my day sober. Being sober feels too heavy, too grounded, too quiet. I have spent years using alcohol to avoid having to sit in the quiet with my own thoughts. That's how I know I am actually an alcoholic and I need to do some heavy reevaluation of my priorities.
Thank you for reading if you are still here. I have never admitted all this to anyone before. People see me as a leader, highly responsible and dependable, top-of-my-class, having a lot of potential. Everyone thinks I have my life together, they ask me for advice. I feel like a fraud and an imposter. If only they knew how I spend my evenings isolated in my office. I already feel better physically than I have in a really long time, but emotionally I feel wrecked, anxious, and frightened. I feel like I'm losing my best friend in alcohol and no replacement feels like enough.
These past few days have been rough, but this group has really helped me get through it so far. When bad cravings hit, or depression gets overwhelming, I have been searching this group for motivation and it is here in abundance. I don't know any of you, but I'm really grateful for all of your authenticity, honesty, and vulnerability. Thank you for cultivating the first space I have ever felt safe in to finally admit to the darkest side of my life. IWNDWYT

I've tried to think of a way to write this for a long time but always chicken out. However I need help / advice / some sort of wisdom.I hope this community can guide me.
I’m using a fake name to help get this out. If that is against the rules please let me know.
I (30f) moved into my Mama's (57f) house last December because I was at the end of my mental everything. The thought of living was hard and I needed my Mama.The downside of moving in with my Mama is I'm also living with my sister, Jada (32f)... she is not a kind human.
I don’t know how to describe living with Jada without falling apart or wondering if I’m being sensitive so here are a few examples.
Jada sets the menu and time for dinner everyday. She expects all meals to be cooked to her exact specifications and if the meal doesn't meet her standards she will refuse to eat or belittle Mama and I throughout the meal. Jada also refuses to do dishes.
I partake in the devil's lettuce and vape outside exclusively so I always smell bad and so does everything I use. I even smell bad after coming out of the shower. The towels I use to shower with are not allowed to be kept in the closet after being washed. Neither are my sheets.
The relationship Jada was in recently brutally ended in a therapy session. Jada is now convinced she will be alone when Mama dies. She has told me this and tells me she doesn't feel like she has a sister because I don't share every detail and desire of my life with her.
Jada is not all bad but more often than not I pray I don't see her in the kitchen or hope I leave before she wakes up.
Mama and I have tried to talk to Jada together and individually about how her words and actions affect us but nothing has worked. Jada refuses to take accountability and blames her actions on Mama or I. Jada admits she has a problem and is ‘working on it’ but when I asked her ‘so Mama and I have to suffer while you work on it’ Jada walked away.
Everything boiled over two weeks ago for me. Jada got angry about something I was eating and went on a tangent of how she never wanted me in the house. How if she had it her way I would be back to living in my car. I was almost in tears. Mama tried to calm Jada down however per usual it did not work. I left the house and went to a safe place.
I decided I could no longer stay in the house. My first thought was to give Jada her wish. Leave and live in my car but I told Mama I was afraid. My will to be is coming back but if I leave? I'm afraid I'll come undone again.
Mama has given me keys to the garage but says I'm welcome to stay in the house. I've been primarily staying in the garage. Sleeping in my car and venturing to the house to use the bathroom and kitchen. Jada works from home and keeps odd hours so still see her regularly.
I know Jada is abusive but I cannot leave. I have no savings, my credit is shot, and I’m afraid to leave Mama alone with her. Before the world boiled over I finally wrote a six month plan (including saving for therapy), and was organizing my life into a functioning order. I know those are important things but what will happen after the next fight? When will Jada decide I'm too peaceful in the garage? I know there will be another fight and I know Jada will get angry about my existence in the garage. I just don’t know when it’ll happen.
The advice I very much could use is what words or methods can Mama and I use to make Jada see she’s cruel. What can I do to change the situation I’m in without abandoning Mama? Are there groups I can seek out? Anything would be helpful at this point as I’m tired of constantly feeling beat down.
TLDR : I (30f) moved in with my Mama (57f) and my sister (32f) in December. My sister is always angry and takes it out on Mama and I. Life in the house is unbearable so I’ve moved into the garage. How can I change the situation I’m in?

TLDR: Canvassing, and the media company.

Canvassing

There's been a slight air of pessimism concerning Destiny's canvassing drive in Omaha, Nebraska. That pessimism is unearned, as while the hit-piece arguably squandered the chances Mark Gudgel had at mayorship (one he didn't have without the canvassers to being with), it cemented Steven as a progressive who's not only willing to talk the talk, but also walk the walk. That has been paying dividends, and is one of the biggest reasons why people like Brianna and Cenk can look past the controversial takes, and even interpret them in good faith. Destiny has talked about not wanting to be an "ally" to any group, and thats fine, but It's clearly important for many people to show that he is fighting from the same side.
Subsequently, the conclusion drawn by many that Steven is too much of a radioactive figure for big-name politicians to risk interacting with is false. Small-town elections are a completely different beast to national politics, and while a small controversy could sink a mayor, our national politicians already have so many skeletons in their closet, and so many major hit pieces against them (per day) by partisan media, that Destiny talking to Biden himself might not even make the 24/hour news cycle.
Nick Fuentes got negative press for Kanye, primarily because he is so outside of the Overton window, it would be like if Haz joined the Biden staff. Secondly, Kanye started making insane public statements right around the same time, so the whole situation is not even remotely comparable. A better example is Hasan, who is lauded on the internet, but some of his statements (i.e. 911) are highly unpopular anywhere in the US. His talk with AOC generated positive coverage.
A comprehensive canvassing and phone banking movement for 2024, financed and led by the community, could open the door to conversations with big-name political figures, and bring about actual legislative change. Just don't hire Doug again.

Media Company

I don't know why Destiny seemingly forgot about this idea, it has a chance to make a big impact while not being a financial black hole. We all know that legacy media is going to continue trending down, while the youth listens to internet influencers for politics. Steven is one of the biggest players in that field, not just because of his following, but the respect many people give to his word. There is a reason why apolitical streamers like Xqc regularly make comments like "I just copy and paste whatever Destiny thinks", and why even after so many hitpieces and controversies, his opinions are still respected in most spaces.
Young people, left and right, don't trust mainstream political outlets. Even well respected journalists from The New York Times, Associated Press, the WSJ, and etc., are often included under that umbrella of distrust, while new-media is increasingly hyper-partisan, thereby not allowing space for moderates of any kind. There's a giant hole forming larger by the year in new-media that people like David Pakman try to fill. But no young person ever links a Pakman video to their friends and family. His content doesn't carry the same implicit trust that Destiny's political takes often do, and it's not nearly as entertaining.
Destiny has the opportunity to launch the moderate equivalent of The Young Turks, aimed at young people disillusioned with the biases of old media, and the hyper-partisanship of new-media. He's practically already doing that in some aspects, but his style of content doesn't allow for regular political streams, and written articles carry way more water in changing narratives than a kick stream.
The level of work required isn't huge, Steven could hire a chief editor who's in line with his personal philosophy to micromanage what articles get published, or he could just take 1-2 hours every other day to read through some articles on stream, like he does emails. He wouldn't need to hire journalists at first, (although it would be good), as his audience definitely has enough people to supply a steady stream of articles. Most published articles in new-media are below the quality of the average u/Wannabe-Sadboi effortpost anyway, and an editor (like Ninou with emails) could weed out the low-effort/low-quality submissions.
This endeavor could legitimize him as a political figure, while also netting some long-term profits from donations/ad-revenue. A bipartisan voice is sorely missing from American politics, and in this way the organization could identify and promote them, like AOC was promoted by TYT.

Conclusion

The two things in conjunction with each other could bring us closer to a conversation with the next US President. Inshallah.
(Just name it something official and boring, not DGG news please.)

For a little context I had to move in with my friend out of complete necessity like three weeks ago because I left a long term relationship with basically nothing, and I've had to just watch all of this happen and stop myself from saying anything. When her two kids wake up in the morning she usually yells at them for at least an hour to just lay back down, instead of getting up and being a mother. Her oldest is three, so they are young and that definitely feels wrong to do that. Then she doesn't feed them usually for at least an hour after she finally comes out, regardless of how much they ask for food. Today she took her youngest into the room to "lay her down for a nap" only two hours after they woke up, and has been in there for an hour now, she is still not asleep but she's still just in there. She sits on her phone for hours while I clean, and just doesn't seem to think twice about it. I get home from work and the house is absolutely trashed all over again. I understand mental health issues, but her house was heading towards the level of a hoarder when I moved in. She has hundreds of toys for two kids, and a closet in the hallway up to my neck in clothes that some of which haven't been washed in at least a year. I spend most days extremely stressed and she usually seems like the happiest person on earth and couldn't care less about any of this. I just don't know what I could possibly do to make my situation better and I need some sort of advice.

It's the most common and most intense emotion I've felt my entire life,it's bottle rocket explosions of energy and it's the lethargy of a corpse and it's staring at the walls for 12 hours in a pitch black basement closet imagining I was someone else. I can't do anything at all because of it,I can't have relationships I can't have friends I can't have a job. And you can't ask for help because help is self improvement so often and I don't want to improve myself I want to be a different person. A million wrongs fill my mind and I feel like the people I've slighted or sinned against or inconvenienced in some way scream in my ears at night like tinnitus and I can't get away from it and I'm laughing as I type this and I don't know why. And I do have opportunity,I had a million more opportunities than anyone else gets and I squandered them all because I didn't feel worthy of any of them.

What do you do with guests who complain of "smells"?
I got an "We can't stay here anymore" email with
" While we do realize you live here also, there has been [guest complains about things that are very explicitly described in listing]The drawers are completely full in the kitchen, bedroom, and bathroom. The closet in the bedroom is [exactly as pictured in the listing] which is difficult since the second room doesn’t have a closet [as described in the listing]."There was also an odor coming from the bed and living room overall. The pillow and comforters had a smell as well."
Brackets are brief summations of their complaints, or an addendum info - anyway - blah blah blah, pillows are 3 months old, have coveres, duvets / sheets washed day guest got there - I've asked other people about the smell, have super host status, blah blah blah. I have been a host for over 10 years so its not the first time I got a guest complaining about "smell," either defined or undefined.
One time a guest had to leave because he checked in when I was cooking meat and he was vegetarian and couldn't take it (this wasn't disclosed) - another time a guest complained that I had a pee pad for the dogs (disclosed in the listing) - so a whole variety, again 10+ years hosting. I smelled all the things, I've had a friend smell them, and nothing they could report. I also run a HEPA filter more often than not... but just at a loss for what to do with this.
I'm glad to be rid of this guest in so much that they showed up 3 hours early and just let their selves in after being told that I would tell them when the cleaners were done and they could come after that (They instead scared the shit out of the cleaners by just letting their selves in unannounced and were just like "OH We were in the area so thought we'd come by!" )

If anyone is looking for housing around UH/TSU/EADO, I’m subletting my unit starting July 28, 2023.
It’s a private bedroom with a private bathroom. I have 3 other (females) roommates with a cat (friendly until hungry or annoyed 😄) and a dog (friendly).
$800 base rent + monthly utilities. You do not need to be a student, and if you cannot pass the credit req, you can pay $32/month to bypass.
There is a 24 hour fitness studio, pool, study rooms on every floor, and a clubhouse where the complex throws little get togethers. The rooms itself comes fully furnished, carpeted, and huge walk in closets. There is an in unit washedryer, stove, oven, microwave, dishwasher, balcony, and a TV in the living room!! Located close to UH/TSU campus in East Downtown, right off of 45.
Contact me if interested!

Hey all,
I don't know if there's a better forum for this but maybe someone has an idea that could help?
We have intermittently bad air quality in our house. Particularly in the master bathroom and walk in closet. Last night, I was cooking dinner and went up to the bathroom and noticed in smelled like burning or cooking/generally funny in the bathroom. I got out our air sensor and the aqi was over 160 in there (it was 5 outdoors). The closet was the same.
It gradually came down. I tried testing again by burning something in the kitchen and putting the fan on, but it didn't come back up (the vent for the kitchen fan goes into a completely different area as well).
From the attic: the light in the walk in isn't sealed, everything in the bathroom appears sealed up. We do live in a forest fire area and have industrial pollution to contend with as well.
So far we've: gone around the attic and sealed up various holes (nothing was properly sealed to start with, our hourly air exchange rate was almost 30 when we tested it...our sealing efforts brought it down to 3.5). Installed proper attic ventilation (we previously had not enough outflow and too much soffit).
Any other ideas? Maybe we just missed sealing some stuff or we still have a ventilation imbalance (roofer seemed to think it was fine).
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Thanks!
p.s. we live in a small town with terrible contractors so that's part of the issue is they don't see an issue. But whatever it is, it sets off my asthma like crazy (hence why we started testing the air - which revealed pm2.5 and VOC spikes intermittently). There's no mold that we've found yet

My husband and I are between rental properties and we’re in a bit of a tricky situation. Our current lease is up 8/22/23 - meaning we have about 2 months left of rent to pay. Our apartment has become less livable over the past year from a combination of poor maintenance staff, hurricane ian, and the property being built in the 1980s. Our issues with the apartment are as follows:

• During the hurricane the roof of our building was damaged, leaving a hole open to the sky that is positioned directly above one of our bedroom closets. It’s been covered with a tarp but has definitely impacted the moisture level and insulation of our apartment.
• Another roof leak has caused a water spot in our living room that is rapidly worsening every time it rains (which is every day now in swfl). I fully believe that this water spot will turn into a full blown ceiling leak very soon.
  
• We’ve had a near constant pest problem since we moved in. We understand it’s inevitable in older Florida buildings but it seems worse here than anywhere else despite regular “pest control” services from the rental property.
  
• Our front door knob (the only entrance) jammed and locked us inside, my husband spent several minutes yanking on it to get it to open. You can see the handle is very loose - obvious safety concern. I do have video proof of this as well.
  

These are all of the major issues causing us to worry about our health and safety. This is nothing to say for the multiple minor fixes that have gone unresolved since… well, pretty much the entire time we’ve been here. One bedroom door sticks, toilet runs constantly, microwave handle broken, that sort of thing.
As I said, our lease here ends 8/22 and we will obviously not be renewing. We found a new place with a lease that starts on 7/1 and our intention is to terminate our current lease so as to not have to double pay for those two months. Our main question is: do we have grounds to terminate payment based on the livability in the apartment? My husband put in a ticket for the roof leak in the living room over 6 weeks ago, and no one reached out to us until we went in with a non-renewal agreement in hand earlier this week.
We believe that based on the livability of the unit, that we are within our rights to cease payments and seek early termination of the lease. Can someone confirm this, or explain why not? We’re just trying to move with as little of a financial impact as possible. For the record, we have been exemplary tenants, no complaints, we pay rent on time. Also worth noting that I purchased mold tests yesterday and we set them up, it takes 48+ hours but we will have confirmation soon if we’re being exposed to mold.
Any insight anyone can give us on how to handle this would be GREATLY appreciated.

My husband and I are between rental properties and we’re in a bit of a tricky situation. Our current lease is up 8/22/23 - meaning we have about 2 months left of rent to pay. Our apartment has become less livable over the past year from a combination of poor maintenance staff, hurricane ian, and the property being built in the 1980s. Our issues with the apartment are as follows:
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• During the hurricane the roof of our building was damaged, leaving a hole open to the sky that is positioned directly above one of our bedroom closets. It’s been covered with a tarp but has definitely impacted the moisture level and insulation of our apartment.
• Another roof leak has caused a water spot in our living room that is rapidly worsening every time it rains (which is every day now in swfl). I fully believe that this water spot will turn into a full blown ceiling leak very soon.
• We’ve had a near constant pest problem since we moved in. We understand it’s inevitable in older Florida buildings but it seems worse here than anywhere else despite regular “pest control” services from the rental property.
• Our front door knob (the only entrance) jammed and locked us inside, my husband spent several minutes yanking on it to get it to open. You can see the handle is very loose - obvious safety concern. I do have video proof of this as well.

These are all of the major issues causing us to worry about our health and safety. This is nothing to say for the multiple minor fixes that have gone unresolved since… well, pretty much the entire time we’ve been here. One bedroom door sticks, toilet runs constantly, microwave handle broken, that sort of thing.
As I said, our lease here ends 8/22 and we will obviously not be renewing. We found a new place with a lease that starts on 7/1 and our intention is to terminate our current lease so as to not have to double pay for those two months. Our main question is: do we have grounds to terminate payment based on the livability in the apartment? My husband put in a ticket for the roof leak in the living room over 6 weeks ago, and no one reached out to us until we went in with a non-renewal agreement in hand earlier this week.
We believe that based on the livability of the unit, that we are within our rights to cease payments and seek early termination of the lease. Can someone confirm this, or explain why not? We’re just trying to move with as little of a financial impact as possible. For the record, we have been exemplary tenants, no complaints, we pay rent on time. Also worth noting that I purchased mold tests yesterday and we set them up, it takes 48+ hours but we will have confirmation soon if we’re being exposed to mold.
Any insight anyone can give us on how to handle this would be GREATLY appreciated.

My husband and I are between rental properties and we’re in a bit of a tricky situation. Our current lease is up 8/22/23 - meaning we have about 2 months left of rent to pay. Our apartment has become less livable over the past year from a combination of poor maintenance staff, hurricane ian, and the property being built in the 1980s. Our issues with the apartment are as follows:

• During the hurricane the roof of our building was damaged, leaving a hole open to the sky that is positioned directly above one of our bedroom closets. It’s been covered with a tarp but has definitely impacted the moisture level and insulation of our apartment.
• Another roof leak has caused a water spot in our living room that is rapidly worsening every time it rains (which is every day now in swfl). I fully believe that this water spot will turn into a full blown ceiling leak very soon.
• We’ve had a near constant pest problem since we moved in. We understand it’s inevitable in older Florida buildings but it seems worse here than anywhere else despite regular “pest control” services from the rental property.
• Our front door knob (the only entrance) jammed and locked us inside, my husband spent several minutes yanking on it to get it to open. You can see the handle is very loose - obvious safety concern. I do have video proof of this as well.

These are all of the major issues causing us to worry about our health and safety. This is nothing to say for the multiple minor fixes that have gone unresolved since… well, pretty much the entire time we’ve been here. One bedroom door sticks, toilet runs constantly, microwave handle broken, that sort of thing.
As I said, our lease here ends 8/22 and we will obviously not be renewing. We found a new place with a lease that starts on 7/1 and our intention is to terminate our current lease so as to not have to double pay for those two months. Our main question is: do we have grounds to terminate payment based on the livability in the apartment? My husband put in a ticket for the roof leak in the living room over 6 weeks ago, and no one reached out to us until we went in with a non-renewal agreement in hand earlier this week.
We believe that based on the livability of the unit, that we are within our rights to cease payments and seek early termination of the lease. Can someone confirm this, or explain why not? We’re just trying to move with as little of a financial impact as possible. For the record, we have been exemplary tenants, no complaints, we pay rent on time. Also worth noting that I purchased mold tests yesterday and we set them up, it takes 48+ hours but we will have confirmation soon if we’re being exposed to mold.
Any insight anyone can give us on how to handle this would be GREATLY appreciated.

My brain is being super mean to me today 😩 and it’s only 9 am!
I’m at 31 weeks, I’ve been having pelvic pain and battling a cold all week. I went to chiropractor yesterday and it helped a lot, and I got some actual sleep, but I’m still feeling tired.
And yet, all my brain is telling me this morning is “you need to get up and do ALL THE THINGS” deep clean your house you lazy bum, organize your closet, forget going to your internship or doing your term papers! Food? You don’t need that! Just do 4 loads of laundry instead!
I want it to shut up so I can get intern hours in and write at least 1 term paper.
Being in grad school, parenting a teen and working all while growing a human is exhausting.

So, now I didn’t have to do my chores again. That was a plus.
And not long after Asahi was gone, I heard my phone buzz and found an incoming call from Celia Norn. “Celia! How are you? Did you grab what I asked for?”
She wasn’t using her human disguise right then, and I tapped on my cheek a few times with one finger until she got the hint.
Celia ‘shifted’ into the body she used last time, then rolled her eyes. “Happy now?” She asked.
“Yes. What if somebody else picked up? Or what if there were people around me?” I asked. “Earth doesn’t know about swappers or any other extraterrestrial life yet.”
Her cheeks turned a little rosy, “Alright, so that’s fair.” She mumbled, “That’s why you’re the best, always thinking about what’s around you and not just what you’re doing.”
“You’re right,” I said, tilting my head back and resting a hand on my chest I agreed, “I am the best. But I’m always happy to help out a colleague, is that what you’re calling about, or did you get what I asked for?”
She huffed, “I don’t always need help, you know. Yes I got what you asked for, and since I finished a job first I wondered…”
I wasn’t going to make her ask. I knew what was coming. So I interrupted her and said in a slightly higher pitch, “Great! So does that mean you’ll be able to take a few days off and hang out here? When was the last time you really even used some of your vacation time? How much do you have built up?”
“A lot.” She acknowledged and pursed her thin lips together. “I just… never had anything I wanted to do before…”
“How about a story about a human swapper and his romantic shenanigans after his father gets him engaged to a bunch of women at once?” I asked.
“Humans have swappers?” She asked.
“No. But that’s what makes this one interesting, he only ‘swaps’ from male to female and back again, but only when he’s splashed with cold or hot water. Shenanigans ensue.” I told her, and for the first time, a little of that anxiety left her eyes.
“I’ll have lots of snacks, of course, I have other things I need to do…” I said, and explained the details of my shifts at Toriyamas’s.
“That’s unfortunate, but this will break a few rules, you know.” She pointed out.
“Meh, not for you.” I gave her a dismissive wave of my hand and looked over at my kitchen where Jin used to often sit and try to study. The last session had been only a few days, really. Barely anything, but I was so used to helping him that it felt strange for him not to stop by after cram and say a few words. I don’t know why, but it just felt wrong to let his mother die on him when he was this age. I’ve seen a lot of people die over the years, from more races in the galaxy than I care to name.
But I never got involved.
I wasn’t supposed to be involved now… but here I was.
Celia shrugged, “If you’re OK with it, but don’t blame me if you get caught.”
“I’d blame only myself if I were that sloppy.” I said after Celia drew my attention back to her before I could fully drift off into my own thoughts. I smiled to show her I was fine, “The people here have some silly superstitions, I’m just going to play into that, and they’ll have one more nonsensical story nobody can verify or debunk, and it’ll be fine. So,” I cleared my throat and shifted gears, “when will you get here?”
“Tomorrow morning.” Celia answered, “I can’t jump as far as you, so it takes a little longer, otherwise I’d be there now.”
“Not a problem, just teleport through my front door when you get here if I don’t answer. I’ll leave directions on how to use my t.v. and microwave, help yourself to my snacks, I’ll be up in the evening.” I promised, and Celia gave a nod at me that bounced her dark hair around behind her.
She scratched her head a little and gave me a quirky look, her lips shifting a little to one side, “You are strange. I think your habit of these vacations has loosened a few screws in your head.”
“Yeah, yeah, don’t overthink it, I’ll see you tomorrow.” I said and wiggled my fingers at her in a wave and hung up.
I briefly considered going to visit Suki in the hospital… but there was no point.
I yawned and went toward my bedroom. “I can’t do anything for her as things are. What good is it to just sit around?” I asked myself, and there was no answer but “None.”
I stripped off my pajamas, closed my eyes, and let myself fall forward into the mattress. I had just enough strength of will to scooch myself on my belly up to the pillow, lift my head, and flop it back down again.
Burrowing under the blankets, I savored that ‘cold’ feeling of mattress and pillow and curled up to savor the slow spread of warmth that would eventually surround me.
Before I slept though, for reasons I wasn’t able to really pin down, I thought of Jin’s mother again, lying alone and hooked up to machines in that awful white room listening to footsteps outside her permanently open door. Nothing to do but lie there and hope to stay unconscious as long as possible.
Jin was a good boy. Too good. ‘He’d leave after visiting hours were over. That’s how he is, always following the rules and trying not to cause trouble for anyone.’
I’m sure I don’t need to tell you I had my own opinions on that way of doing things.
It was chilly in there, last time I visited. The blanket was probably too thin.
She wasn’t shivering, but that didn’t mean she wasn’t uncomfortable.
“Welcome to Shinjai… I run the store on the first floor, since you don’t seem to have much, come by and I’ll let you sign out what you need and just pay me later…” I remembered the way she sounded when she said that. Honestly I did not think anyone could sound that damn…perky to a complete stranger.
I wasn’t the nicest then, either, if I’m being honest.
I sighed into my blanket and got up out of bed. I really wanted to be lazy but… ‘Just a few minutes, in and out. Just drop off a blanket.’ I told myself and threw on a pair of white pajamas, then went to my closet and grabbed a short but thick blue blanket out of the back, it was one she’d let me have when I moved in.
I’d always meant to return it… now was as good a time as any.
Getting there and sneaking in the same as before was as easy as you’d expect. Humans are no match for a magic swapper.
I was still in a hurry though, so I didn’t waste time, my lazy cozy bed was in that ‘perfect comfy’ state and every second I delayed, that perfect comfy state would decline just a little bit more.
“Kayobi… is that… isn’t it after hours?” Suki asked. “I’m sorry, the drugs, it’s like I’m seeing things sometimes…” She tilted her head, she had a thin tube in her throat still and it was definitely slurring her words a bit, her eyes were bleary and unfocused. “I can’t.. I can’t really see well… you look funny, a fuzzy blur… but who else would break the rules…it’s good to see you. Even if you’re not here. Imaginary company… beats none… since I won’t last much longer…for the best… it hurts a lot… I don’t like it… I just want it to stop…”
“No. I’m not Kayobi. Just an angel passing by. Kayobi would never break the rules.” I teased her a little and patted her hand. It was veiny, thin, she’d seemingly aged a hundred years, at least to my eyes. She wasn’t shaking before, but she was now.
“I’m just bringing you a blanket for right now. Sleep well, and before you know it, you’ll be up on your feet again in no time, just like you were when you helped out that silly meddling neighbor of yours who is allegedly none too fond of convention.” I tried to smile at her, but I doubt it would have mattered.
The eye evolved similarly on many worlds, and I’d seen enough people dying to know what that look in their eyes meant. It meant they weren’t seeing much at all, even if she hadn’t told me as much, I’d have figured it out.
I pulled the blanket out from under my arm as I heard the sound of footsteps in the hallway. I shifted my form to that of their traditional angel, and draped the blanket over her, I gave it a quick snap to spread it out wide and let it drift down over her body.
“You will be fine. Just be patient.” I promised and ran my hand over her head just as the doctor and nurse came into view in the doorway.
“Who ar-” Their words cut off at the sight of my big white wings, and I cast my spell of invisibility, sounding the words out slowly so I would ‘fade’ rather than simply snap out of view. Then I stepped out of the way to let them rush to where I stood, and covered my mouth to keep back my laughter at their consternation and confusion.
The chaos I caused was…pretty damn funny, if you ask me. Suki wasn’t able to say much, just that an angel came by and told her she’d be fine. Those who saw me, believed, those who didn’t, called it a delusion, only for the first group to point out the blanket and ask the second group where it had come from.
I left after a few minutes, I mean confusion can only be so funny for so long, and I was about to bust my gut laughing at them anyway, so I returned to my little apartment again, resumed my human shape, and fell back into bed.
Only then did I let my laughter out in long peels, kicking and thrashing as I cackled away at my mischief making magic, until I was finally ready to sleep.
And when I did, wouldn’t you know it? That ‘perfect comfy’ was somehow better.

Update: I called my GP, and she sent out an assessment link for his teacher and myself to fill out to try and get him reassessed, and re-medicated. I have also reached out to another counselor who does play therapy who might be better at treating him, and his current counselor.
I’ve decided to limit his electronics to one or two hours a day after he gets his chores done, and I will be making lists of all the things he needs to do every morning, and every evening. I’ve also decided to get rid of his blackout curtains, so that his room gets more light and he wakes up easier.
Original post: I’m at my wits and and am reaching out to Reddit in hopes someone out there may be able to offer some advice.
I am a single mother to two children. 16 and 12. My 12 year old son is causing me a lot of grief and I am considering sending him to live with his dad.
Since the beginning of time, he’s been a lazy, unmotivated and difficult child. A stark contrast to my older child who could not be more opposite in personality. He is argumentative, defiant, whiny, sensitive and all he wants to do is play video games.
He is a picky eater and refuses to eat nearly anything but sugar. He steals piggy bank money and brings it to school to buy candy before and after school at a nearby store. He refuses to eat the lunches I pack and he refuses to pack his own. He is underweight and malnourished. He often gets free food at school by claiming I don’t feed him.
He wets the bed nearly every night due to being too lazy to go pee at bedtime and too deep of a sleeper to wake up. I have to continuously wash his sheets daily, wash his mattress pad because sometimes he will sleep on his mattress without his sheets because they’re all in the washing machine. It’s driving me insane!
He refuses to shower. He stinks!!! Won’t wear the deodorant I buy him, or change his socks. He refuses to brush his teeth. I’ve had to pin him down and force brush his teeth due to them being so covered in gunk. He has athletes foot which has caused weeping blisters and he struggles to walk because of it. He refuses to let me put the anti fungal medication on him. He also has warts on his feet which he refuses to let me treat and is always dirty.
He won’t get a haircut and can’t see out of his eyes because it’s so long and in his face. He hides his dirty clothes in his closet and I have to go on a scavenger hunt to find them. He has a garbage can NEXT to his bed and he will throw trash on the floor next to it. He will sneak granola bars and fruit snacks and eat them all when I’m not home leaving nothing for my daughters lunches. I’m talking 10+ granola bars in a sitting.
I’m fucking exhausted. I don’t want to spend the rest of my life babying him and I worry things are not going to get better. I have tried everything, putting him in counseling, yelling at him, pleading with him, calmly telling him how this will impact his life. I turn the Wi-Fi off for weeks at a time he will just vegetable out in bed.
I want to send him with his dad but I know for a fact his dad wouldn’t be able to deal and would send him back within hours.
HELP! I can’t do this anymore!

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OutdooFarmer’s Markets:

• Lake Ella Grower's Market: Wednesday and Saturday, 11am-2pm. You can always find organic vendors, and foragers: The Holistic Cannabis Community, Artzi Farms, Hickory Nut Gifts, and others. Including Pita Queen! Farmer's Market Nutrition Program Coupons gladly accepted!
  
• Frenchtown Heritage Market: 524 N MLK Jr Blvd. Saturdays, 10am to 2pm. Come grow community and support your local farmers and makers, while you get your groceries for the week! Don’t forget! We match SNAP/EBT, so you DOUBLE your money to go towards locally grown fresh fruits and vegetables! If the guy with the pineapple is there, get it.
  
• Tallahassee Farmers Market: 2904 Kerry Forest Pkwy, Saturdays, 8am to Noon. Come see us at Tallahassee's longest-running farmers market! We are a year-round market, featuring local farms and vendors that provide the best seasonal produce, meats, baked goods, and more. We welcome you and your whole family (leashed pets included) to come out and meet your local farmers! Ample parking is available between our lot and the shopping center lot next door (by Red Elephant). Come early for the best selection.
  
• Tallahassee Downtown Market: Ponce de Leon Park, Saturdays, 10am-2pm. Join us for a stroll in the park among local makers, bakers, artists and farmers as live music is played by local musicians!
  

THURSDAY, 6/8

• The Hub at Feather Oaks: Bingo. 6pm
  
• Dreamland BBQ: Weekly Open Blues Jam. If you'd like to sing, please bring your own mic. 6pm
  
• The Rose Room: Open Mic Night. 6pm
  
• The Great Games Library: Solforge Fusion Sealed-Deck Tournament. Anyone interested in SolForge: Fusion, please come out! Thursday nights at 6:00pm to 9:00pm ish will be dedicated to SolForge Fusion gameplay and weekly tournaments. If you play or have played MTG but would like to spend less, this is a great alternative CCG with inexpensive entry and minimal purchases to enjoy playing competitively. In-store and online tournaments may be played with the same decks purchased at any store. SolForge was created by the same designer for MTG, Netrunner, and Key Forge, Richard Garfield, and the designer for Ascension, Justine Gary. 6pm/$35 Entry Fee for 4 Sealed Half-decks, Special Art Playmat Prize for 1st Place
  
• Oyster City Brewing Co: Open Mic Night! Join us on Thursdays from 6:30-9:30 PM for Open Mic Night hosted by the incredible Mike Ingram of The Brown Goose! This is your chance to show off your skills! Whether you're a musician, poet, comedian, or have a hidden talent, we can't wait to see what you bring to the stage. 6:30pm
  
• World of Beer: Trivia Night. 7pm
  
• The Bar at La Casa: Tallahassee Thursday Comedy. 7pm
  
• Lake Tribe III: Trivia. 7pm
  
• Smitty's Taphouse: Trivia Lab Thursdays. Teams of 6 or fewer players can compete for $30 / $20 / $10 Prizes + The Golden MacGuffin prize table! New format! Interactive smartphone answering for your comfort and safety! 6 Fun Rounds - 42 Total Questions. 7:30pm
  
• Cap City Video Lounge: Gamera: MST3K. Join us Thursday as we climb aboard The Satellite of Love along with Joel, Tom Servo and CROOOOW as the Gang riffs the 1965 kiju classic, GAMERA, who will devastate every city in Japan but maintains that he is a friend to all children...despite leaving them homeless and killing their parents. 8pm/free but donations encouraged
  
• Fire Bettys: Electronic Thursdays. There will be rotating music genres from local artists! 8pm/free/21+
  
• Poor Pauls: Trivia. 8/21+
  
• 926: Karaoke. 9pm
  
• La Casa: Comedy Night! 9pm
  
• Fire Bettys: Electronic Show. Join us for Experiment 002 and take a mind-bending trip into the sound of the future! Our electrifying music party will transport you to another dimension with cutting-edge beats and non-stop excitement. 9pm
  
• Bird’s: Karaoke with Nathan. 9pm
  

• Blue Tavern: Free Jazz Five Buck Thursday (and Jam Session) with the Longineu Parsons Trio. Expect the unexpected when the supertrio of Longineu Parsons, Brian Hall, and Michael Bakan hold court for Blue Tavern's exciting new Free Jazz Five Buck Thursday series (FJFBT). From Louis Armstrong classics to meditative musical dreamscapes, hard-driving funk grooves to wild Balkan beats, and free jazz adventures to the deepest downhome blues, Parsons-Bakan-Hall do it all--and they do it like no one else, whether here in Tallahassee or anywhere else on the planet. Oh, and don't forget to bring your instrument and sit in during the final 10:00 set open jam (space permitting). 8pm/$5
  
• Retrofit Records: King Krule “Space Heavy” Album Listening Event. 8pm
  
• The Bark: Closet Goth with No Face and Good Real Estate. 8pm
  
• 926: Jameson Tank with Learning To Swim and The Sparrows. 8:30pm
  

FRIDAY, 6/9

• Blue Tavern: Happy Hour with Everett Young. 5pm
  
• Hobbit West: Friday Night Dart Tournament. Anyone can Enter! Sign ups at 7:30, Darts fly at 8:00/$10 entry fee
  
• Ouzts Too: Karaoke with DJ Nathan. Best karaoke DJ in town. 8pm
  
• The Bar at La Casa: Latin Night. 8pm
  
• Just One More: Karaoke with DJ Rah. 9pm-11pm/21+
  
• 926: The Hot Friday Night Party and Drag Show. 9pm/$5/18+
  

• Proof: The Allie Cats. 5pm
  
• Peppers: Saylor Dollar. 6pm
  
• The Red Shed: Walkers Crossing. 6pm
  
• The Hub at Feather Oaks: Ben Baggett. 6pm
  
• Lake Tribe: John Moore. 6:30pm
  
• The Wine House on Markey Street: Little Mercies. 7pm
  
• Ruby Diamond: Second Annual Screen Spectacular featuring original film scores from student films and arrangements of music from film, TV, and video games performed by the FSU Studio Orchestra. 7:30pm
  
• Fire Bettys: Jupiter Troupe + Soul Candy - Free Show! 8pm
  
• The Bark: BRAT! with support from Brass Wizard, Slug Crust, Nightfall Ends, and Subpotent. 8:30pm
  

SATURDAY, 6/10 It’s my birthday! Happy birthday to me.

• Brinkley Glen Park: Invasive Plant Removal. Join Master Gardener Volunteers at this weekly invasive plant removal event. This is a great way to learn to ID our invasive plant species and how to remove them. We recommend wearing long pants and sleeves, closed-toed shoes, gloves, a hat and mosquito spray. Bring gardening tools such as hand clippers, loppers, trowels, etc. if you have them. We are removing coral ardisia bushes and berries, nandina, tung trees, Tradescantia flumenensis, cat's claw vine, winged yam, Japanese climbing fern, skunkvine and more. Directions: The best way to get there is to take Meridian Rd to Waverly Rd, go to the next intersection and turn left onto Abbotsford Way, then turn left at the next road called Woodside Dr. At the stop sign turn left onto Lothian. Lothian ends in a cul-de-sac and there is a sign that says Brinkley Glen Park. 8:30am-11:30am
  
• The Rose Room: The Rose Revue. Performances by your favorite entertainers and special guests! Shows at 8pm, 10pm, & Midnight! A unique cast EACH show! 7pm
  
• Duke’s and Dottie’s: Line Dancing Plus Lessons. 7pm/21+
  
• Bird’s Oyster Shack: Laughterday Night Fever. This week: Five Year Anniversary Laughterday Night Fever! Join us every Saturday at Bird's Aphrodisiac Oyster Shack for a free comedy show! 8:30pm
  
• La Casa Bar: Karaoke With Nathan. 9pm-1am
  
• The Bark: Sickening Saturday Drag Show. 10:30/$10/18+
  

• Woodville Branch of the Leon County Public Library: 2nd Saturday: History Under the Sea. Florida’s long coastline and crystal blue waters make for excellent diving experiences! The wonders of the sea have called many people to explore the depths! Come learn about diving practices through the years. Kids will go on a ‘dive’ of their own and discover the wonders of Florida’s waters! 11am
  
• Adams Street: Adams St Flea. Browse our market full of locally hand-made items, art, and vintage finds, all set to the vibes of our house DJ on Adams St. Make an afternoon of your trip by visiting the restaurants and shops in the heart of our Capital City. Noon
  
• Blue Tavern: 2nd & 4th Saturday Old Time Jam. All players & lovers of old-time Appalachian music are welcome to join! 4pm
  
• The Hub at Feather Oaks: Zach Lambert. 5pm
  
• The Rose Room: Grand RE Opening (Now in RR Sq). Welcome to our Rose Room... Come see how much we bloomed! WE have so much to show you... The Rose Review will leave you begging for more... with 2 amazing shows @9 and 11 followed by our very own burlesque troop @midnight ... This is a themed night Pride month so come out and support these AMAZING performers and show so Love... 6pm/$10
  
• 926: Mason Pace, Cinema Stereo, Satin, Copyright Claim, and The Fetish. 7pm
  
• Blue Tavern: Pat Puckett. 8pm/$5
  
• House of Music: Selwyn Birchwood. 8pm
  
• Cap City Video Lounge: Pride Burlesque Show. Shaken Not Stirred Burlesque is back at your fav local theater Cap City Video Lounge! We have an amazing show planned for Pride month! We're here, we're queer, & we're gonna make you cheer! Enjoy our queer cuties, exquisite enbys, & bi-babes! You don't want to miss our Pride Burlesque Revue! Pride looks/outfits welcome & encouraged! Don't forget to tip your performers! 8pm/18+/masks required/$10 General Admission, $20 VIP Admission: Front row seating, $35 Celebration Special: Ticket & a personalized song from Shaken Not Stirred Burlesque!
  
• Fire Bettys: Live Band Karaoke. 8pm/free
  
• SoLook Tally (434 FAMU Way): Submersive Sounds Hip-Hop Showcase featuring Nu Skinny, Trem Sol, Ro-Thoro, Tokyo.Extraordinaire, Da Beast, and DJ Ryan Chargers. 9pm
  
• Common Ground Books: June CGB Movie Night: Paris is Burning. 9pm
  

SUNDAY, 6/11

• Bicycle House: Sunday Ride. Ride at 10:30 AM from Bicycle House. We will ride the Cascades trail to the St Marks trail and down to Wakulla station and return, about 31 miles. Ride speed is 12 to 14 mph, with periodic regroups. Vernon Bailey is the ride leader. Vernon is a new CCC member who’s been biking for 50 years enjoys riding with small groups and weekend touring. 10am
  
• Gamescape: Pokémon League. Come learn, play, and trade with the Pokémon Trading Card Game and the Pokémon video games! We LOVE seeing new players, so come learn how to play! We play both the Trading Card Game and the Video Game casually and competitively. The store offers lots of different seating arrangements to meet our group's needs, as well as food, drinks, and Pokémon products for purchase. We are also hold regular, officially sanctioned tournaments for Pokémon Trading Card Game and Video Game Competitions! 2-4pm
  
• Lake Tribe: Colby Scheib. 3pm
  
• House of Music: Songwriter Sunday. Songwriters of Tallahassee hosted by Rachel Hillman. Bring your original songs on Sunday - sign up is at 4:30. No Cover Songs please - this is an event celebrating original music. Accompanists and Bands Welcome - you must be able to set up within two minutes, so no crazy pedals or amp shenanigans. No Backing Tracks - Please find someone to play your song with you. 5pm
  
• The Plant: Open Jam. All instruments, all players welcome. 5pm-9pm
  
• House of Music: Perkins Street Pickers. 5pm
  
• Oyster City Brewing: Comedy Night. Come have some laughs with us on Sunday nights! If you are interested in participating in the show, reach out to [email protected] 7:30pm
  
• The Rose Room: Synful Sunday. 8pm
  

• Ology: Marauder’s Market. Noon
  
• Goodwood: Tomato Feastival 2023. Join us for our 2023 Tomato Feastival on Sunday, June 11 from 2-6 p.m. at Goodwood Museum & Gardens! Enjoy great food, live music, meeting our farmers, playing games, and of course, local tomatoes. 2pm
  
• The Hub at Feather Oaks: Dominic Milner. BK’s SnowKone Factory is also here from 1-4 pm that day with their great selection of snow cone flavors and Dippin' Dots ice cream. The ice cream of the future of yesteryear! 3pm
  

**MONDAY, 6/12

• Just One More: Bingo. 5pm-6:30pm
  
• World of Beer: Corn Hole Night. 6pm
  
• American Legion Hall: Cha Cha - Weekly Lessons. 6:15pm/$5
  
• Hangar 38: Bingo. 6:45pm
  
• Vino Beano: Tipsy Trivia. 7pm
  
• The Rose Room: Karaoke Night. 8pm
  

TUESDAY, 6/13

• Blue Tavern: Shanice Richards Happy Hour! 5pm
  
• World of Beer: Poker Night. 6pm
  
• The Rose Room: Drag Bingo and Open Stage Night ft. Britney T. Foxx! 6pm
  
• Oyster City Brewing Company: Tuesday Night Beer-go! 6pm
  
• The Rose Room: Queer Dinner and a Movie! 6pm
  
• Crafty Crab: BOOMIN' Karaoke. 7pm
  
• Gamescape: Hobby Night. Slay the grey together! Join your fellow gamers and turn your pile of grey miniatures into a battle ready army. Need some painting tips? Feel free to ask at hobby night. You can bring any miniature for any game to paint. 7pm
  
• Ology Midtown: Jazz Jam Sessions. 7pm
  
• Island Wings: Trivia. 7pm
  
• House of Music: Tuesday Trivia & Karaoke. 7pm
  
• Burrito Boarder: Karaoke with DJ Roldus. 8pm
  
• Blue Tavern: Bluesday Tuesday with Bill Ricci. Every Tuesday is Blues Day @ the Blue Tavern and Blues Meets Girl is a Tallahassee favorite. This perfect, intimate venue provides just what you need for both a mid-week break and authentic blues music experience. 8pm/$5
  
• 4th Quarter: Professor Jim's Tuesday Night Trivia. Popular for a reason! 8pm
  
• Argonaut Coffee: Trivia Tuesday. 8pm
  
• 926: Tacos and Trivia. 9pm
  
• Fire Betty’s: Comedy Show. 9pm/21+
  

• Cap City Video Lounge: Tallahassee Filmmaker Meeting. Join us at Cap City Video Lounge to pitch and discuss coming film ideas and video projects, both currently in production or in the pre-production stages! Please bring your work and ideas via links, thumb drives, or discs so that we can showcase it on the big screen in the Cap City Video Lounge's Fantomas Theatre! (Trailers and Shorts only, please!) No experience is necessary to join, but a small $5 admission fee will go towards our wonderful meeting location to continue supporting the passion of movie making in the local community! Please invite local actors, crew members, and film enthusiasts to join us on Tuesday, June 13th! We will be returning to an itinerary for our meetings starting in July that will help amp you guys up for the next 48 hour competition in November! Tickets for the 48 Hour Film Festival Premiere from this past month are available for purchase in person or over the phone! Hope to see you there! 7:30pm

WEDNESDAY, 6/14

• Rose Room: Women's Wednesday. Featuring Our Rose Roulettes and drink specials all night long. A night for all of our female-identifying friends to enjoy a safe space and an awesome happy hour! 6pm-2am
  
• Blue Tavern: The Wednesday Night Lab Session. 5pm
  
• Sugar and Spice Tally: Game Night. Join us every Wednesday Night for community game night. Bring your own or use ours! Let me know if you need to reserve space for a large group. Free to attend! 5pm
  
• Tara Angel’s Magic: D&D Experience - Adult (18+) Group. Dungeons & Dragons 5th Edition - Candlekeep Mysteries. A one-shot is a D&D event that starts and finishes in the same session, typically lasting 3 - 4 hours. We have pre-generated characters for players to choose from. WHAT TO BRING: Pencils, Dice (can be purchased in store), Mask (encouraged for unvaccinated participants), Enthusiasm! Please sign up in advance to reserve a spot in this campaign. Tickets can be purchased in-store, over the phone, or on the website. For more information, please email [email protected], or call: (850) 878-4555 6pm-9pm
  
• Goodwood: Wonderful Wednesday. 6pm/$5
  
• Level 8 Rooftop Lounge: Trivia. 6pm
  
• The Great Games Library: Open Game Night. 6pm/free
  
• American Legion Hall: Sue Boyd Country Western and More Dance Class. Session 2 - Beginner 6:30 to 7:45 pm What: East Coast Swing and Waltz. Cost: $8.00 per person. Wear comfortable shoes you can turn in. 7:45 to 8:15 - Practice dance with paid admission. 8:15 to 9:30: Intermediate - 2 Step and WCS. $8.00 per person or $13.00 for both classes. Vaccines are required. Face masks are optional. Changing partners is optional. 6:30pm
  
• Perry Lynn’s Smokehouse in Quincy: Wed Night Open Mic w/ Steven Ritter and Friends. 6:30pm
  
• Hangar 38: Trivia. 6:45pm
  
• Oyster City Brewing Tallahassee: Trivia. Teams up to 6 players for three rounds with 10 questions and a tie breaker each round. Winners are by round so don’t worry if you need to come late or can’t stay the whole time! Prizes include a round of beer, a 6 pack and a gift card! 7pm
  
• Proof: Trivia. 7pm
  
• Vino Beano: Wine Bingo. 7pm
  
• Fermentation Lounge: Trivia. 7pm
  
• Blue Tavern: Wednesday Open Mic with Doc Russell. The open mic night that has run continuously for almost 20 years, once housed at the Warehouse, lives on at the Blue Tavern. Doc Russell continues as the host with the most. Sign up starts at 7:45pm/free to attend
  
• House of Music: Bar Bingo! Free to Play & Late Night Karaoke. 7pm
  
• The Bar at La Casa: MidWeek KARAOKE! 7pm
  
• Fire Betty’s: Karaoke! 8pm/21+/free
  
• Dukes and Dotties: College Night and Line Dancing Lessons. 8pm
  
• The Bark: Karaoke with DJ Nathan. Best karaoke DJ in town. 9pm
  
• World of Beer: Karaoke with DJ Cowboy. 9pm
  
• 926: Dragged Out Wednesday. 10pm
  

• 926: Normalizing Hate: A Difficult Discussion on LGBTQ+ Rights in Florida. Gay-owned Junnier Law & Research P.A. is presenting "A Law & Your Rights Hour" discussion on "Normalizing Hatred: An Uncomfortable Discussion About LGBTQ+ Rights in Florida" at 926 Bar & Grill to talk about the government clawback of LGBTQ+ rights in Florida. We will informally discuss LGBTQ+ current events and how they affect our identity as a group and as individuals. Talk leads to anger, anger leads to planning, planning leads to action--Let's turn Anger into Action! 7pm
  
• Square Mug: Ahleuchatistas (feat. Trevor Dunn of Mr. Bungle/Fantômas) with Frogs Dogs and Cowl. 7pm
  

Hello! I've posted here on r4r a handful of times now and I wanted to try and write up a more definitive ad. Every time I've written up a new one it contained new information or less information than a previous post so, I'm going to try and compile it all into one master post. That way everything there is to decide whether you'd like to message me is easily available and accessible to you without having to dig around a dozen other posts.
Now that the "prologue" is out of the way let's jump into why you're here and what it is I'm looking for.
Who Am I?

• Future Lawyer - Currently working as a Student Attorney this Summer at my school's legal clinic before my final year of law school. Will probably be taking the Bar July of 2024. I'm not sure as to what kind of law I'll be doing as a full fledged lawyer, but I know I intend to practice here in California. I'm working in Sacramento.
• Philosopher - I got my BA in Philosophy from UC Berkeley. I've always enjoyed philosophical discussion and occasionally write philosophical pieces. I was always into the classical Greek philosophers; Socrates/Plato and Aristotle. If you ever need a deep conversation we can delve into the depths of any subject.
• ENTJ/Leo - For those that enjoy Horoscopes or Myers Briggs tests. I'm an extrovert. I enjoy people and being alone is draining for me. I'm a bit shy and anxious at first, but once I'm comfortable that all goes away.
• Muslim - I know religion can be a big deal for some people, but I don't ask that anyone hold similar religious views as me. As long as we both value humanity, family, and general goodness, a difference in religion shouldn't be an issue. As a Muslim I don't drink and I don't eat pork. I don't care if you do. I'm not the best at praying (it's something I should fix) and I don't do the prayers (I generally just recite prayers to myself without doing the ritual aspects). I do fast during Ramadan.
• Drug Free - I also refrain from smoking and doing drugs. I just ask that if you do any drugs it's no more than weed, but ideally you don't smoke. I just don't like the smell lol and it sets me into a coughing fit if I'm around people that are smoking.
• Writer - I enjoy writing if you couldn't tell from the absurd length of this post. I apologize in advance. I write short stories, philosophy, political opinion, and whatever else comes to mind when I feel inspired.
• Traveler - I've traveled to a handful of places and there are a handful more I'd like to complete. I've been to Italy, Ireland(for a day), Austria, Hungary, Germany, Lebanon, Syria, and Jordan

Things I enjoy:

• Mythology - Especially Greek mythology which I'm more acquainted with. My favorite myth is Orpheus or as some know it from the play Eurydice which I have yet to see or read. Also love the myth of Sysiphus hauling the giant boulder up and the one about Prometheus stealing fire for mankind.
• Literature - I try and read on occasion. Haven't been too successful. The last book I completed was last winter and that was Robert Heinlein's Starship Troopers. Trying to get through Homer's Iliad at the moment before jumping to Homer's Odyssey. Some of my favorite books include: Steinbeck's Of Mice and Men, Rand's Atlas Shrugged, Tolkien's The Hobbit, Luo Guanzhong's Romance of Three Kingdoms, and lots more.
• Gaming - PC Gamer, but do own consoles like the Switch, 360, PS4. I just bought a Gameboy Advance SP to play some old Pokemon games. I have a Gameboy Advance, but it doesn't have the light and the battery exploded inside it, rip...
• Movies/Shows - I love films. I watch a lot of foreign stuff too like Kdramas, Chinese, Japanese, language doesn't matter as long as it's good and it has subtitles for me to read. My favorite film of all time is The Godfather. Some of my favorite shows include Game of Thrones(prior to season 8 of course), Better Call Saul, South Park, Rick and Morty, Criminal Minds(before they changed the whole cast), and plenty more.
• Anime - I could've put the animated cartoons in here too, but I'm currently watching Dr. Stone. Some of my favorites include: Steins;Gate, Kaiji, Legend of the Galactic Heroes(the original although the new one is alright), Death Note, and plenty more.
• Comedy - Love a good comedy show. I've been to a few clubs, the Ice House down in Pasadena, the Laugh Factory in Vegas, and Cobbs in San Francisco.
• Sports - Big fan of Soccer. Watch the Premier League when I get the chance and try and keep up. Man United fan. Also enjoy going to Sacramento Republic games. Football is cool too, 49ers. Watch Basketball on the rare occasion as well, Sacramento Kings.
• Music - Rock and Metal fan. Going to be seeing Nickelback in July and I want to see Disturbed in July as well, but have no one to go with, rip. Some of my favorite bands include: Green Day(who I got to see live alongside Weezer and Fall Out Boy), Rise Against, Five Finger Death Punch, Disturbed, and a handful of others. My music tastes can be a bit eclectic, but rock and metal is my go to.
• Tea - I'll definitely brew you some tea someday. I enjoy black tea for the most part. I order loose-leaf tea online. I enjoy Assam, Darjeerling, Oolong, Pu-erh, Keemun, Earl Grey, and more.
• Museums - A big fan of history so I enjoy going to museums and looking at old things. Love Renaissance/Enlightenment period artwork. Just about any kind of museum is cool. I love learning new things.
• Going out in General - Whether it's hiking in nature among the redwoods, going to a bar, dancing at a club/bar, eating out, or bowling with friends. I'm good for just about anywhere as I like getting out of the house.
• Homebody - As much as I enjoy going out and exploring new places, sometimes I need a break from adventure and enjoy relaxing at home. Play some board games.
• DnD - I'm relatively new to it, but I'm DMing currently for a group of friends that I played my first campaign with. Been playing around two years now if not three (a bit on and off due to scheduling conflicts).

What I'm Looking For?
A woman who I can meet, befriend, love, marry, have kids, and grow old with. I'm a hopeless romantic, I guess lol. It would go in that order and as for the timeline, that's for fate to decide.
Age - Ideally 21+, but will accept as long as you're 18+. Ideal age range 21-30. If you're slightly older or slightly younger that's fine too. +/- 7 is the general rule of thumb.
Looks - Personality beats looks, but attraction is still important. I don't have a type per se. Don't really care about race/ethnicity. I'm trying to work on my weight myself so I rather not cast a stone at a glass house, but proportionality is something I find attractive. A gym partner or someone who can help me with my weight would also be appreciated(we can run together or go hike, etc.)
Personality - I find that sometimes when I'm not attracted to a person , their personality attracts me to them. Personality can elevate a 5 to a 10 or reduce a 10 to a 1 instantly. All I ask is that you're intelligent(a woman who can think for herself, articulate her thoughts, and is able to challenge me when I'm wrong), kind, communicative(communication is key in any relationship), and is sociable(don't need to be extroverted, just able to socialize when the situation calls for it).
Location - In California, looking to move to California, or willing to relocate (a hard ask considering everyone is leaving California lol). For the foreseeable future, I'm stuck here for work and family. Maybe someday I'll have a nice plot of land in the middle of nowhere and can live off the fatta the land with some rabbits. If you read the post and know the book, you got the reference.
What can I Give You?
Tea - As I mentioned before, I'll brew you tea and sometimes I might have a good story to tell over tea lol.
Laughter - I have a contagious laugh and I enjoy joking around. I laugh at most things so it's not too hard to elicit a laugh from me which might get you laughing too.
Adventure - I like visiting new places with friends or a companion so as long as you desire it, we can always adventure out to new places. Whether it's a beach, a new city, a forest, mountain, you name it, we can go.
Optimism - I have a generally happy-go-lucky attitude with life and I'll be happy to reassure you life is good and things will be fine. And if you need the opposite with harsh realism, ask and you shall receive lol.
Hygiene - I do my best to keep myself clean. I also wash my own dishes. I try to keep my home clean, but it's a bit difficult when you're never home. I bought my first condo in 2021 and now I understand why people rent. It's difficult to maintain everything and expensive. And on top of all that you gotta keep it clean even when you're not home.
Attention - As much as you desire. I enjoy people and having someone around all the time is fine by me. I also don't mind some alone time and lawyer stuff can be a bit time-consuming.
Food - I can't cook, but I'll try. I tried to make sushi and failed two weekends ago. Rice was too sticky and too hot. Also the sashimi refused to thaw no matter how long I waited(was well over 12 hours...) But wrapping it was actually easier than I expected just not evenly distributed along the roll.
I think that covered everything I needed to add or wanted to add in here. If I come up with more I'll be updating this master ad over time. Feel free to message me or use the chat feature. Also if you like we can move to Discord, feel free to ask for it. Attached is a photo of me as well. Thanks for bearing through this long post. And if you didn't read it all, that's fine. It's too damn long.
https://imgur.com/a/GgHS6Iu

I’m trying to get rid of some stuff but want to get money out of it so either Plato’s Closet or craiglist. Curious if anyone here can share how their experience was.

I never see anyone speak about situations like mine. My relationship with my parents is very complicated, and I would classify how it was when I was younger as abusive. That part has absolutely stablised and I do not consider it that anymore.
I came out at 12. They were not accepting. I was forced into the closet, I wasn't even allowed to go by my name with friends. It was years of fighting before I was allowed to be out. I was not allowed to have a binder, they destroyed the one they found of mine a few years ago, and I spent so long binding unsafely.
About 8-9 months ago it reached a sort of catalyst moment. I was 17 already by that point and had a good support system, places to go if I needed. My chest had gone up a cup size and it absolutely crushed me, since I could have gotten on puberty blockers when I was younger. I wished I had fought harder for it, and I decided I was not going to turn 18 and look back and wish I had fought harder for T.
So I threatened to disown them if they did not let me get on T (which, for the record, I do not reccomend doing) and that I would get on T anyway through the family court. (I'm in Australia for the record.)
And they. Let me.
I told them they did not need to call me Griffin but I just needed to get on T. And they let me and also started gendering me correctly. With he/him too, not they/them like the few times they would before they began to accept me. My mother calls me her son so often and it makes me so happy.
I've been on T for 8 months (thank fuck for informed consent, it was literally 2 weeks after I brought it up to them which is so crazy) and I am so much happier now. And since I got on T, my relationship with my parents started improving drastically. A part of that was also my brother (he's an adult) being an absolute piece of shit, I felt really bad for them.
Now things are just. Good.
Last night I spent hours talking to my dad about tech stuff, and my mother and I have taken a painting class together (in which she introduced me as her son).
It's just weird. They're my biggest supporters now, but they also were the people who were the most transphobic to me for years. I never see anyone talking about relationships like this with family, does anyone have anything to share about it?

Do I have civil rights case if I was locked in a cell/cage every day under the guise of a special education program? It’s a long story, but basically I was part of a program that punished special needs children by locking them in “quite rooms”. The AJC covered this story a few years back. A lot if children developed mental health issues from this program and a few hung themselves in the rooms. I spent most of my childhood locked in these rooms often no bigger than a broom closet. They would turn if the lights and leave kids as young as 6 in the dark screaming in fear for up to 8 hours some days. A lot of physical harm was done to the children. This coupled with segregating us from other children resulted in a massive lawsuit that I believe is still going (there will be no compensation for the victims). I was contacted by a children’s advocacy group in Ga about the case a few years ago and I was supposed to testify before Congress on my trauma but was turned down for a child currently in the system. This program ruined my life and the lives of many children. I want to know if I have a legal case to build against the school system? Is this a civil rights violation as well? Thank you.