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Recommend the "best of" streaming content on Netflix

2010.04.12 18:52 hans1193 Recommend the "best of" streaming content on Netflix

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2018.06.03 02:11 P1ac3h01d3r ROBE LOCKS

cursed screenshots of kids in roblox doing stupid stuff

2009.09.13 17:48 Null_State I only need two buttons, Ctrl + C and Ctrl + V.

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2023.06.02 19:54 tiltingatwindsocks Looking to start new personal (non-monetized) blog, need advice for 2023

I've been on and off Tumblr for a decade. I remember when it was fun, and abstract, and a wierd portal to a place that all us nitty gritty little freaks could find commonality.
Unfortunately this enigmatic and often dysfunctional symbiosis has run it's evolutionary arc. Everyone I interacted with has moved on, and the vibe feels a little too disonent to my constitution for about the past year now. Tumblr - sadly - is not fun anymore.
It's time for me to move on, too, but to where?
I tend to make long posts about randomness, but honestly I am not interested in having a gajillion visitors. Likewise I don't like the idea of some algorithm deciding what portion of my content should or should not be visible to be shared, either.
I have a format in mind, and I like the idea of retaining ownership of ideas vs intellectual property of the hosting company, but it seems like everything now is geared towards generating revenue.
I just like to write dumb shit for me. If others align with it, cool, but that's not my goal. If someone was going to pay me for it, I'd have to seriously question why lol
I have an old Blogger acct but feels very 2009 even still, and some of the sites out there seem unnecessarily complicated. I like the ease of Tumblr, but that may just be because 'the devil you know'.
The free version of WordPress seems like the best landing spot, but I feel like a middle-aged divorcee who hasn't dated in too long, because a lot of this feels foriegn.
Advice, thoughts, etc?
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2023.06.02 19:54 BigBurgerBandit Hearts & Circuits - Been working on a cyberpunk story about a young homeless girl named Mia that finds a semi working junk robot. Not sure where this story is going or when I'll be done but been posting a few short parts as well as concept art to paint a picture of Mia's world.

Hearts & Circuits - Been working on a cyberpunk story about a young homeless girl named Mia that finds a semi working junk robot. Not sure where this story is going or when I'll be done but been posting a few short parts as well as concept art to paint a picture of Mia's world. submitted by BigBurgerBandit to Cyberpunk [link] [comments]

2023.06.02 19:54 viirtualvoiid i need help with apologizing

i need help. last year one of my friends one time told me about how they cut themselves. i did not know how to respond and i didn't say very helpful things. i tried to get them to promise not to do it again, and i understand how unhelpful that is now and i know it probably made things worse. i want to apologize but when/how should i? i don't want it to be triggering in case bringing up sh might remind them of the problem and make it worse. i've thought of what i want to say and stuff, i've wanted to say sorry for a long time but i don't know where they are in terms of recovery and don't wanna make it worse. would any of you be triggered if someone brought it up kind of out of nowhere? i just don't wanna risk them possibly relapsing because i reminded them of it. i dunno if this makes sense or not so sorry if i come across like an asshole in this post i just dont wanna make it worse. i hope i make sense
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2023.06.02 19:54 dirkpitt73 I got my Woot SD1 unlocked!

Like many of you, I have been trying to get my AT&T locked SD1 from the Woot blowout sale unlocked. I went the usual routes - case to Microsoft, which requires AT&T case, then back to Microsoft and crickets from both sides.
I ended up activating the pre-installed ATT SIM on a prepaid plan for a few months. Initially the ATT unlock portal said I could unlock it after 60 days of prepaid service. When that passed, the portal updated to say data doesn't match or something. So, I logged a new ticket with the prepaid team, and they said it needed to be active on prepaid for 6 months(!?) to be eligible to unlock. Talk about bait and switch!
So, after all of this, I'd had enough and filled out the online FCC complaint form. Within a day or two, a very nice guy from ATT Office of the President called me to confirm IMEI and some things and said he'd connect with Microsoft and get the unlock code. Maybe 10 days later, he finally got back to me and said he'd gotten the code and would email it to me.
I was expecting the unlock code not to work based on many posts here re: fiddling with the last digit. I removed the ATT SIM and inserted a Straight Talk SIM I'd ordered months ago thinking I could get data only for the Duo (turns out, not from Straight Talk since it's considered a phone). Anyway, the Unlock screen popped up after inserting the SIM and I entered the code (it's a weird UI, like it takes over Android). Sure enough, it worked! 👏
It's been so long since I got the Duo, I was originally thinking I'd daily drive it (I'm on Fi) but now I'm not so sure. But at least I have the flexibility and consider it a win. In retrospect, the whole process has been a wild goose chase and totally not worth the time, but glad to be done with it!
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2023.06.02 19:53 Such-Acanthaceae8927 Sorry but i just had to share it.

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2023.06.02 19:53 jrbill1991 Daniel Farke

Oh no, another post about a potential future manager...
Easy, lads. This one got available today, so I think it's justified, no?
So, Borussia Monchengladbach and Daniel Farke (former Norwich manager) parted ways today after the team finished 10th in the Bundesliga.
He won the Championship twice with Norwich recently, so here we have the experience in the competition and he likes to play possession-based football, something we'd like to see again.
If we can't get Rodgers or Knutsen, I think he could be a good option, even better than Corberán since he has way more experience.
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2023.06.02 19:53 EugeneLawyer Moonlight Mash bike ride Saturday at Bier Stein

Moonlight Mash bike ride Saturday at Bier Stein
The moonlight mash bike rides are pretty fun, I’ve done several of them over the years.
In essence it’s a fun easy going ride blasting music throughout downtown Eugene and the river trail during the full moon. The ride it self starts around sunset and lasts for about an hour.
This Saturday there is also a charity event coinciding with the event. See the flyer included with this post.
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2023.06.02 19:52 justdipping_mytoes Product Review: Portable Shower

Product Review: Portable Shower
This is the Ivation portable shower available on Amazon. It had mostly positive reviews and after searching for a few weeks and having decision paralysis I went ahead with this one.
Very easy to use and put together
Comes with a charger
Lightweight (important for me as I have carpal tunnel)
Small -so can easily take while traveling and fit inside almost any sized container you might put your water in
Inexpensive, free returns on Amazon
Can be used for other things (dogs, baby)
Sort of loud
The on/off switch is on the motor itself which is submerged in water, so you have to put your hand in the water and fish around for the button to turn it off and on.
It does not like not being entirely covered in water; as soon as any bit of it starts to get exposed it starts to make a louder noise and sputter. So even though water remains in the container it never sucks it all up. I’d advise getting something tall, narrow, and cylindrical that can hold 2+ gallons so you don’t have to stop and refill. I just have a regular bucket and that’s fine but I do have to refill.
Pressure is not great but gets the job done
Does not have a heating component
I’ve only used this twice so far but it has definitely made a lot of difference in my washes and wash time. I feel more thoroughly rinsed when using this and I would never have been able to color my roots and rinse with distilled water without this. A wash used about 2.5-2.75 gallons for my thick, shoulder length hair.
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2023.06.02 19:52 billteeth 23 Bolt EV 1LT in California for MSRP?

Anyone have any luck getting the EV 1LT in the bay area (or central/coast CA) at MSRP?
Also, what about ordering one? I saw some people posting here in other parts of the country having luck in the past month.
For reference, markup's I've been quoted:
Fremont $2k
Tracy $3k
Steven's Creek $3k
Sacramento $5k
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2023.06.02 19:52 TheTribunalChat I Found Every Location In Their Japan Vlogs

Hey Megheads, I want to preface this post by saying, yes, I know this probably seems creepy. But I promise I have no ill intent and I only did this because I had been watching Geowizard's Geo Detective series on youtube where viewers send him pictures of themselves in various locations, and he tries to find their location on google earth. I originally did this with this video. I spent a couple days finding every shot in the video and I genuinely had a lot of fun. I know a decent amount about Japan so I wanted to put my knowledge to the test. So I decided to try something that was a bit harder.
I started off finding a few locations from Vlog 1 that were fairly easy, but some of the shots seemed impossible to find. After taking a break and coming back to it, I started to think more logically about it. I looked at it from the point of someone on location and moving from location to location. Once I got an idea of the general area, finding individual spots became easier. There are some shots I'm surprised I found. Shots that are half a second long, blurry, or shows no information that gives a hint to it's location, I was able to find. I'm very proud of this one in particular.
I was able to find every location in the first 3 vlogs except one where Ryan was listen to music in the Shinjuku train station. I tried finding it but the entire station isn't covered, only a few sections and the platforms. Also if you click in the wrong spot you'll clip back up to street level and lose where you were, it was very frustrating. I started working on vlog 4, but after doing this off and on for a few weeks, I got a little burned out and needed a break. I may go back to it eventually.
I don't want this to come off as creepy. I did not do this to dox them or anything like that. I just genuinely found this fun because after plotting all of the points in a video, it really gave me an idea of their day and how they decided to edit the video. I like to edit videos as a hobby, and it was interesting to see when they included certain shots. I could see the path they took that day and how their video came together. I highly suggest if you find this interest to try this yourself. Take a vlog, music video, whatever, and see if you can find the locations. Although this was very interesting and fun, I would never do this to find anybody's actual location. I didn't feel as bad doing this knowing these videos were over a year old and they don't live there, but I would never do this to try to find a youtuber's house or a livestreamer's location. Please do not be weird and do that.
I know this will probably be glanced at and forgotten, seen as creepy, or even deleted, but if anyone is curious about how I found any individual shot, feel free to ask. I was able to find every restaurant they went to, so if you want to check them out, or any of these locations, while in Japan, you can easily find them from the project.
So here is the google earth project. Feel free to open up the vlogs and watch them again while switching to the different google earth locations. Hopefully at least 1 person gets some enjoyment out of this.
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2023.06.02 19:52 BalancedJewel46 Where do i get Maya Indie

My student license just ended and I would like to keep using Maya since i have 4 years of experience and have read in numerous places about Maya Indie which is much cheaper then the full version but functions the same way. The links posted everywhere do not work it just links the the homepage I cant find where to get it.
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2023.06.02 19:52 81adv Triggers

I came across a girl's post on a forum, talking about being codependent on a alcoholic partner who manipulates her, never says he loves her and clearly abuses her but she tries so hard and desperately to find love behind his words. She's been posting about the same question 2 months.
I was doing better but upon reading this and seeing that none of the comments get through to her (she has about 60 comments), brought the flashbacks back. All the flashbacks. I saw myself. I am worried to death she will end up trying to kill herself, too. I am worried to death she might be successful, unlike me. I am worried sick.
And just like that, from just a site, it all came back to me. Every feeling. Every picture. Every tear. Every panic. Every hospital bed.
And when I walked by the road today, I had a ridiculously strong urge to walk into traffic. Beyond my control. I have no idea how I didn't.
I wonder if I'm traumatized at this point.
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2023.06.02 19:52 piegonkiller7000 Exposing America

I am using an alternative account. I have my family posted on my other.
I don't know where to even start with this. I am an Army Veteran. It started back in 2005. I was asked by my lieutenant to Get off base and talk with him.
They made me get into a white SUV and we drove. I was clueless on where we were going and then I saw it. This massive building, it had a gray base and there were 5 small windows across the Building front, It was outlined with a beige.
It didn't seem to be gaurded or gated which was strange because of what I will see next.
They took me into this room that was unlabeled unlike the others who had things like "Mr. [Insert name]" or these random letters thrown together. I can't even remember them to this day.
We walked into the unlabeled room and they asked me to sit down.
They put this metal thing with chords connected to my head and had these straps put on My heart and Wrist.
I froze. I was terrified. My Lieutenant sat across from me at the end of this long black table. His expression blank. I don't remember a lot but they were asking me questions about rats inside the system. These..agents.
I walked out of there Bruised and bleeding.
I have dreams every night about it. Yet I never seem to fully remember it.
I tried asking my Lieutenant about it the next day. He said he remembers none of it and I am imagining things. I couldn't even get a medic. I left the next year. In the time I was still there, everyone acted strange. They had different Lingo than usual and all talked the same. I guess monotone? I don't exactly know how to describe this. They acted aggressive with me, more than usual. They acted like we haven't known each other for 3 years. Like i was an outsider.
This was only the start.
In 2008, pigeons started watching my every move. I didn't see pigeons much but day I did. My girlfriend (now wife) noticed this too. I was always on edge. I felt like my every move when I got outside was watched by pigeons.
I swear This is no dumb joke.
I'm not a paranoid shizo either.
I killed a pigeon after it tried to attack my wife and a chord came out of its eye.'s eye.
This is so fucked up.
I stopped going outside for months at a time. Then I just started smashing them. They all had wires in their eyes. The white ones have A blue wire in their left eye and the grayish ones Have A black wire in their right eye.
Look out for them.
FBI robots
I saw men start following me. They all had something in common.
Light blue shirt, kakhi pants, and black shoes.
They all had military cut
They also were branded on their wrist. Looked like a snake bit them.
They followed me everywhere. I saw the same white SUVs too.
I saw them at Walmart, Gun ranges, etc.
They also have a weird porcelain look to their skin.
I can't figure out what it is.
I am tracked online
I keep getting reccomendations on all my websites for Veterans and My state groups and pages. I have never given permission for them to Use my info or get my location.
I have a bunch more stories but I'm scared my family will die if they find out what I've said already. I have way worse stories
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2023.06.02 19:52 LostGreenArrow How to begin… I have difficulties going public about my partner having kids.

Long story short, we’ve been together for a year, all good, her kids love me, I love them, even tho they test my patience a lot haha. Her divorce is still on going and we don’t live together. Also their father(her ex) is theusual, jealous and resentful of me and pretty much getting in her way of setting up a new family, despite having a 5 months old child with his new girl. He basically wants it all both ways, control everyone and my partner be a baby sister for the kids while he is galavanting around.
Anyways, I am coming from circles where it’s a bit frown upon getting with a woman with kids. But she is one of a million type of woman and we are expecting in 5 months. However, I still feel super uncomfortable about telling my old friends my partner has kids. She posted photos from our holiday and tagged me in it and obviously I got a lot of messages “uh oh I didn’t know you had kids!?”, “Are they yours!?”, “How come you didn’t tell me!?” And so on. That for whatever reason hits me deep. I didn’t even answer yet, cause I don’t know how and what. I wish they were mine and I am embarrassed that being in my 40s I don’t mine and instead got step kids. Don’t get me wrong, I am also proud and humbled my partner trusted me and her kids trust and love me. The 4 year old one introduces me a his dad now(despite his dad told him I am no one and he shouldn’t listen to me. He even prevent us taking kids to see my parents that live abroad). It’s a great responsibility, even tho it fell of the sky on me out of nowhere. I mean I really wanted a family but it didn’t work out with my ex and then I suddenly got this ready made family haha. But I somehow overthink the whole thing that my friends will think of me, or worst what my ex and her friends will think. Stupid and irrational I know. I think it’s just hard to come to terms with this layout and also that her terrible divorce is still on going and my role is very vaguely defined or even disputed and resented(by her ex).
Some good people keep telling me I should have a sense of pride for taking on this responsibility of forming these two small toddlers. They are already super smart and good boys thanks to my partner. I don’t even need to do much, just follow her lead and be a best male role model for them as I can be. Her ex did absolute fuck all and only spoiled them(when has time) by buying bunch of expensive toys meanwhile abusing and belittling their mother in from them. The mere fact the boys are fine is a credit to her and only. My family was quite fractured and I suffered emotional neglect most of my childhood, so I can spot a good mother when I see one. And yet I still feel like a fraud or something like that.
Sorry I know it’s all convoluted but it’s hard to explain something I don’t fully understand yet. I hope maybe you guys had similar experience and overcome this struggle and willing to share advice and encouragement. Thank you.
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2023.06.02 19:52 Ok_Farmer_1815 I (22f) keep self sabotaging and I don’t know what to do

For context, I have been dating my partner (23m) for almost two years now. During the pandemic (before we were dating) He was an avid Twitch streamer. He would go on multiple dating shows, flirt with girls, and donated a multitude of money to women streaming Twitch. It wouldn’t typically be an issue because it was before I met him, but it will become more relevant soon.
Last summer I had caught him flirting with this girl he was supposedly “friends” with from Twitch. I was so heartbroken, but I decided to stay with him. The problem was I got obsessed. I started finding all these clips of him on his account (and hers too) of him flirting with her on stream, him donating $100 to her for absolutely no reason, and him saying she was the most beautiful girl in the world.
I know this is extremely damaging for me, but I just couldn’t stop. The worst part is these clips are forever and can’t be deleted.
Now all I do is compare myself to her, and ask myself why he couldn’t care about me the way he liked her. Why he had to keep trying to get her attention when I was trying my best to love him.
How should I handle the intrusive thoughts when they come into my head? How do I truly forgive and move on? Any advice would be appreciated :)
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2023.06.02 19:52 AndyesIdumb (tw sucide) Person threating suicide, need their location to call the police
This tumblr user sent me a private message saying they're about to swallow a handful of pills I need to find out where they are in order to call the local police and help them. Please dm me about their location so it won't be shared online, I'll delete this when they're safe. I took a screenshot of their message, I'll try to dm it to you for proof because I don't know how to post it here.
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2023.06.02 19:51 autotldr US Air Force denies AI drone attacked operator in test

This is the best tl;dr I could make, original reduced by 56%. (I'm a bot)
A US Air Force colonel "Mis-spoke" when describing an experiment in which an AI-enabled drone opted to attack its operator in order to complete its mission, the service has said.
In his talk, he had described a simulation in which an AI-enabled drone was repeatedly stopped from completing its task of destroying Surface-to-Air Missile sites by its human operator.
He said that in the end, despite having been trained not to kill the operator, the drone destroyed the communication tower so that the operator could no longer communicate with it.
"We've never run that experiment, nor would we need to in order to realise that this is a plausible outcome," Col Hamilton later clarified in a statement to the Royal Aeronautical Society.
Speaking to the BBC earlier this week, Prof Yoshua Bengio, one of three computer scientists described as the "Godfathers" of AI after winning a prestigious Turing Award for their work, said he thought the military should not be allowed to have AI powers at all.
He described it as "One of the worst places where we could put a super-intelligent AI". I spent several hours this morning speaking to experts in both defence and AI, all of whom were very sceptical about Col Hamilton's claims, which were being widely reported before his clarification.
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2023.06.02 19:51 Mission_Jellyfish_87 Med Change

I’m in the process of my antipsychotic being changed.
Two weeks ago I was discharged out the psych unit with instructions to stop taking abilify injections and start taking olanzapine pills.
During outpatient my usual provider suggested that I get off the Zyprexa and on to vraylar so now I’m in the process of tapering off Zyprexa and about to gradually go on vraylar.
I’m kind of paranoid that I might have break through symptoms but no matter what I refuse to show them and have to go to the hospital again. I guess I’m asking if anyone has changed their antipsychotic and how did they do so
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2023.06.02 19:51 Voidscrem Worried about getting fired.

I did the stupid thing and made a post about a training module. It happened after a store got scammed really bad. No name or location in the post. Yes it was dumb.
Well a partner said oh this is against policy. I replied ok and took it down immediately. But I never liked her anyways so I blocked her while I was at it. The post existed for maybe five minutes.
She filled a whole report and everything about it. I’m barely making ends meet and am trying to obtain insurance by the audit. I have no other way. And if I don’t get it, I can’t attend my college.
Am I screwed? Literally over this? Apparently corporate is supposed to be contacting me. They haven’t yet. This happened over a month ago.
I don’t care to hear how stupid it was either please. I’m just panicking over being fired over this bs.
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2023.06.02 19:51 ProbablyInfamous Pre-moving sale (KitchenAid Mixer, Chainsaw, Lawn Trimmer, Generator)

Due to my geographic location, I am unable to dispose of these one-off items via garage sale (no parking, unsafe turn-in off dangerous curvy road). All prices are suggestions [OBO], this stuff works but won't have space/need in new location.
$250 — White KitchenAid Mixer with bowl +hooks +slicer.
$375 — Husqvarna Rancher 450 with original chain and brand new unused chain. I used this for one season (last year) and it is too much for me — purchased new about 18 months ago. Run perfectly, absolutely a charm but my friend just cut his leg up and I don't need that kind of hospitalization. This is a DANGEROUS ITEM with a 20" bar, and a penchant for cutting through anything non-metal that crosses its path.
$40 — Older gasoline lawn trimmer (weed-whacker) that works well but does require minimal maintenance as it is now a decade old. Once you get it running, it will keep running (but it can be a pain to "get going").
$550 — Champion gasoline/LP "dual fuel 9000W Surge generator. I have replaced the fuel filter, carburetor, stator [generator coils], and battery on this machine [battery was $65 from WalMart June of 2021]. Just don't have space for it [it is very large, even louder to operate, and weighs over 150 pounds]. This does not have an inverter, so is designed to be used on less-sensitive equipment (it will run computers and lighting and water heaters just fine, but air conditioners and voltage-sensitive AC loads aren't recommended, although it will run those too).
If you come over for any of these items, I'll probably try to sell you other less-expensive items [dishware (cast irons), handtools, lumber] so just say "no" if not interested =P
DM any reasonable offers. All this stuff has motors in it, YMMV, but have proven to me to have been worth keeping around until now, moving from 2200 sqft to 900, country-side to cityscape. Located TN-side of Lookout. All linked-to-items are for reference only [model# may be different... best I could find].
I will remove items from post as/if they sell. If you see this listing, item(s) still available.
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2023.06.02 19:51 Confident_Passage623 How should I go equipment if I want my players to be operatives working for a government with lots of resources who would just give them things?

I’ve been working on a science fiction setting for the past 5 years and I’m finally getting a group together to play but to be honest I’m still really on the fence about which system I should use? I’ve been heavily considering starfinder because I can reskin it into a more hard sci-fi system fairly easily. A lot of the mechanics are great but how am I supposed to do equipment? The agency the players work for would logically give them the best. Not to mention their society is post scarcity and doesn’t even use money. How should I handle equipment then?
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2023.06.02 19:50 ProfessorWriterMomma AITAH for skipping first 2 days of toxic MIL’s visit?

Trying to disappear for first few days of MIL visit
We haven’t seen my in-laws in over a year and half and all I can say is thank goodness!
They’re traveling to New York from New Mexico, showing up on Monday for a week-long visit with us (where they’ll be staying in our home). I'll be on a carefully scheduled yoga retreat from Saturday-Tuesday, missing the first day and half of their visit. My husband is beyond frustrated with me, but I think I’m being generous considering our history!
I’m from an emotionally intelligent, educated family where we treat one another with respect, openly seeking help for our mental health issues (ranging from anxiety to autism), not taking our struggles out on one another, and the parents are always the parents and the children are the children.
My mother-in-law, on the other hand, acts like a spiteful 12-year-old. When I was pregnant, I invited her to travel from her home (then in Indiana) to stay with us and attend the baby shower. She arrived just hours before it started, demanding to be entertained (thus, I attended my shower with dirty hair and no makeup). During the opening gifts portion, she gave me handkerchiefs as a gift “in case we can’t make it out to get diapers” (we live in a city!), and then she accused all of my friends of giving her “the stink eye” and started weeding my garden mid-party.
When I gave birth to our twin girls, I told her she couldn’t come visit them before they were 2 months old UNLESS she got a flu vaccine (as twins are often underweight and a flu can be devastating--this was recommended by my OB, that only non-smoking, flu vaccinated adults be around the babies). She refused. I did indeed deliver early, with one of our girls weighing under 4 lbs and ending up in the NICU. SHE CAME ANYWAYS! She made my poor FIL drive from Indiana to NYC and arrived in my hospital room dressed to the nines and stinking of perfume, demanding to hold the healthier baby. When my husband asked if she’d sanitized, she said “I already washed my hands at a McDonald’s in Pennsylvania.”
My husband was so torn--I was hormonal, worried about our baby on the ventilator, and recovering from a C-section; I demanded he kick her out or I would get a divorce. He was crying saying it was his mom, what could he do? My own mother interceded and told me that my husband was doing his best, that I had to be patient.
Fast forward several weeks, both babies are finally home. I’m going to the grocery store for the first time, breasts aching between pumps, and I get a message from her that she's’ consulted a lawyer and is suing for custody of “her babies.” WTF?!?!? I came home crying and my husband finally established some boundaries with his parents, especially regarding the way my MIL talks to me, but the nonsense continues.
It’s 8 years later, but every time they visit, there’s some nonsense. When the girls were 10 months old, she’d take them out of their playpen and walk away, saying, “they’ll be fine. I always let my kids do whatever.” She let them chew on keys and plastic knives, treating me like an overprotective nutjob. In her defense, my own parents said I was a bit of a helicopter mom and over the top about organic food, but they RESPECTED my choices when they were with my kids.
I thought my MIL must know how I feel about her after all of this, but clearly not. Once again, in the grocery store, she contacts me (this time calling). Her dad had died, and she asked me how to cope with it. I was 35, she was in her 60s. I’d experienced far less loss (only grandparents and pets)--I don’t know why she chose me. I talked to her the best I could, trying to be comforting, but it was bizarre and confusing.
The last time they visited, they had an obese, elderly terrier that she insisted I buy “ranch dressing” for, so she would eat her food. They got this dog designated an emotional support animal so they could fly with it, the annoying part being I had to keep my two well-behaved 50lb dogs away from “Baby” during her visit because “they upset her.”
When we tried to have a one one talk with my father-in-law about what he wanted for his retirement (having spent over 50 years as a mechanic), she ran down the stairs, assuming we were bad mouthing her, screaming that we don’t understand her, ranting that my FIL fixed a neighbor's sink 30 years ago and he definitely had an affair with her, that he has undiagnosed Parkinson’s and autism (which he clearly doesn't have), and we don't’ know what she goes through. I rushed my kids upstairs and counted the minutes until they left.
This past year she’s texted my husband constantly about her daily worries, her relationship with his dad, their marital problems, and EVEN ABOUT THEIR SEX LIFE! Yuck! (How her husband still has a libido, but because of her OB problems she’s not interested… I hate that we know this). My poor husband went ashen after this text. I poured him a bourbon and ordered him takeout.
He said to ignore it, like he always does, but I sent her a stern text about boundaries (that my husband has a demanding job, a special needs daughter, another daughter, and lots on his plate! That we’re here for them in emergencies, but she’s crossing the parent/child line and it has to stop). She simply responded “okay.” I was shocked when she began to respect this boundary for several months. But then they hit us up for money to come visit us and relatives in Indiana (having been conned out of a fortune by their other son, a drug addict, and their grandson, a layabout). We offered plane fare and nothing more (we can pick them up and they can stay here), but they declined.
Bottom line, I cannot stand this woman--I cut out toxic people, and if she weren’t family, she wouldn’t be in my life. Of course I’m delighted I’ll miss the insanity of welcoming them (and their dog) into our home, but my husband is beyond bitter. He’s completely warm with my family, but I must say, it’s not hard. He said he never knew how a normal family functioned until he married me. I’ll be polite, but am spending minimal time with my MIL. AITAH?
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