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TLDR: Please, do your own research. You'll never be convinced, otherwise.
I just started learning about Afterlife Science this year after losing someone I love with ALL my heart. Their death turned my world upside down. I am devastated. I am distraught. Nothing is the same for me. I desperately want for my loved one to still exist and for consciousness to continue on after physical death, because that would make this process so much easier for me! However, as a person who has spent most of their professional life working in the engineering sciences, it's very difficult for me to simply accept that an afterlife is even possible, let alone actually real.
So, what does someone in grief with seemingly endless questions about a topic as dense as non-local consciousness do? They research! And you should, too. Please stop coming to this sub and asking everyone here to do this research for you. There's, like, 200 years of research available for you already. If you're not interested in the old research, you're in luck. There's new, modern research available! Books on books on books. Reading not your thing? No problem. Podcasts and interviews and audiobooks are available, too! I find it extremely lazy, and frankly, annoying when I see these posts where people want others to just answer all their questions when it's clear they haven't done any of their own investigation. I don't mean to sound rude, but it's extremely frustrating, because these posts are FREQUENT. Be an adult. If you're not an adult, well, try to grow up a little bit.
Luckily for you (if you're one of the lazy ones), I'm feeling a little generous. I'm going to LINK SOME SOURCES for you to get started. I'm also not going to pretend as if I've read all these books or listened to all these interviews and podcasts (though I am working my way through--there are so many!). I just know they exist, and they're on my list. Afterall, I'm a person with a job and a life.
Things like NDEs, past-life/between-life memories, evidential mediumship, psychic phenomena (psychic dreaming, precognition, clairvoyance, etc.), after-death communications, and paradoxical/terminal lucidity, etc. are all evidentiary threads we can add to the veil that separates this life and the next. Be curious and be skeptical, but don't be lazy.
Books

• Dr. Raymond Moody's Life After Life (Originally Published in 1975)
• Dr. Pim van Lommel's Consciousness Beyond Life: The Science of the Near Death (2011)
• Dr. Bruce Greyson's After: A Doctor Explores What Near-Death Experiences Reveal about Life and Beyond (2021)
• Jens Ambert's Why an Afterlife Obviously Exists: A Thought Experiment and Realer Than Real Near-Death Experiences (2022)
• Dr. Penny Santori's Wisdom of Near Death Experiences: How Understanding NDEs Can Help Us Live More Fully (2014)
• Dr. Jeffrey Long's Evidence of the Afterlife: The Science of Near-Death Experiences (2011)
• Titus Riva's The Self Does Not Die: Verified Paranormal Phenomena from Near-Death Experiences (2016)
• Dr. Kenneth Ring's Mindsight: Near-Death and Out-of-Body Experiences in the Blind (2008)
• Dr. Dean Radin's The Conscious Universe: The Scientific Truth of Psychic Phenomena (2009)
• Dr. Jeffrey J. Kripal's The Flip: Epiphanies of Mind and the Future of Knowledge (2019)
• Dr. Christopher Kerr's Death is But a Dream: Finding Hope and Meaning at Life's End (2020)
• Bill Guggenheim's Hello from Heaven: A New Field of Research-After-Death Communication Confirms That Life and Love Are Eternal (1997)
• Loyd Auerbach's Psychic Dreaming: Dreamworking, Reincarnation, Out-of-Body Experiences & Clairvoyance (2017)
• Dr. Jim Tucker's Before: Children's Memories of Previous Lives (2021)
• Dr. Gregory Shushan's The Next World: Extraordinary Experiences of the Afterlife (2022)

Podcasts

• u/universe_ravioli 's Unravelling the Universe
• Elizabeth Entin's WTF Just Happened?!
  • Bonus: She also wrote a book - WTF Just Happened?! A Sciencey-Skeptic Explores Grief, Healing, and Evidence of an Afterlife
• Dr. Jeffrey Mishlove's New Thinking Allowed
• Darren McEnaney's SeekingI
• Simon Bown's The Past Lives Podcast

Websites to Explore

• Bigelow Institute for Consciousness Studies - Scientific Research into Life After Death
• Rhine Research Center
• Institute of Noetic Sciences (IONS)
• IANDS - the most reliable source of information on NDEs
• ITCJournal
• Windbridge Research Center
• Forever Family Foundation

Tldr: I find some actions of my gf to be suspicious, but my last relationship was very toxic and abusive with alot of cheating. Should I be suspicious or am I still in need of healing?
Some back story, my (28m) last relationship was very toxic and abusive, and my ex (27f) constantly cheated, lied, gaslight me, you name it. I took a year off of dating because I was really messed up after her, and knew I wouldn't be able to handle a relationship. Well fast forward to about a month ago, and I meet this really awesome woman (25f) and we instantly hit it off. We've spent almost every day together for the last month, and I've stayed over at her place almost every night. It has been really solid, we get along well most of the time, and we enjoy alot of the same stuff. But there are a few things that I can't seem to shake from my last relationship. She (25f) has one of those privacy screens, and I know that shouldn't be a red flag, but my ex (27f) also had one so its harder to see while laying next to someone. She sometimes angles her phone away from me when I sit next to her, which sets off alarm bells instantly. But here's the thing, every time I've felt insecure or like I didn't trust her, she has always proven to be honest and faithful. She was seeing a guy before me who broke her heart, and she was talking to him when we first started dating, and then he started calling and texting at 3-4am and I got upset and asked why an ex is calling her at that time of night. She ended up blocking him without me even asking, which I did not confirm because I just want to trust her. The last thing that really rings alarm bells for me is that she doesn't work monday-wednesday, and sometimes she will just go ghost for a few hours and say she was sleeping, or with her sister, or at the gym. So I guess my question is this, are her actions suspicious or am I just too messed up for a relationship still? I've really fallen for this girl, and she says she's fallen for me hard too, but I just can't shake this feeling that she's not being faithful. I don't want to leave her just because I have trust issues, but if this won't get better, I might have to... Help?

Hey everyone! Just recently got myself an Xbox and been on the hunt for some gaming buddies to play with. I mainly been playing Fortnite but I'm also into other games such as Minecraft, Red Dead Redemption 2, Stardew Valley, Valheim, Grounded, Forza Horizon, COD: MW2, Rocket League, FIFA, Paladins, Wild Hearts, Crusader Kings 3 and recently started Elden Ring. I also been thinking of getting into Sea of Thieves but heard it's only fun with a group of people. I'm also open to recommendations and trying out new games. Anything in the survival, shooter, racing or open world genre and I'm sold. If that's sounds like something you'd be interested in, just DM me for my gamer tag :)

Some of my favorite games are RDR2, Ghost of Tsushima, The Witcher 3, God of War, Horizon games, and TLOU. What games would you recommend me based on my favorites? I've played the Assassins Creed games as well, they're okay, but I want to play something incredible with a great dramatic story (like the games I've mentioned) and descent gameplay as well with some open world. I have an interest in Bloodborne, but knowing the Souls games, they aren't really story based are they? I like good non repetitive combat (I'm looking at you Assassin's Creed), is Bloodborne or Sekiro a good choice for my description though? And if you guys have any recommendations please say.
Btw other games I've played are Elden Ring, Cyberpunk, and all the GTA games, and etc., I haven't played any Uncharted game though. So yeah I'd like some recommendations.
P.S.: It doesn't really have to be Open World, but just give your great suggestions.

Was just wondering if I should use the Seal of Questionable Loyalties or get the Onyx Annulet. My other ring is 431 Tormentor's Siphoning Signet. Would the Onyx Annulet capped at around 420 be better than my Seal at 437 lvl? Due note i'm a preservation evoker. I've checked wowhead but the BIS is the ring I currently have unless the Onyx annulet is that much of a healing boost so I've heard. Thank you in advance.

Trying to move some gear from my ps5 character to my ps4 character to see how fast I can Platnuim Elden Ring on my ps4 version.

At the minimum I’m expecting heavy haptics on hits and parries, but where they can really utilize it is in those summons fights. What do you think they’ll do? Praying they don’t go the elden ring route and forget it completely.

Salutations everyone! How are we all ? We better be good !!
I’m here today on the look for friends! (short term / long term) Here’s some interesting stuff about me !
Well I’m from Ireland and I’m in uni ! I’m nerdy, heavily enjoy fantasy and grimdark settings, so massive LOTR, elder scrolls, GOT/HOTD and Warhammer fan. I play on PC (total war, arma 3, Hoi4, stellaris and many more ) and ps5 (Elden ring, battlefield) I’m also big into history, specifically military history!
I’m a pagan, and I believe in ghosts and the supernatural! Have had a few Creepy encounters
My fav food is a toastie and I love coffee n tea!
I hope to hear from someone soon and if you have read this far, no hey, hi or hellos, write a introduction!!

Salutations everyone ! How are we all ? We better be good !!
I’m here today on the look for friends! (short term / long term) Here’s some interesting stuff about me !
Well I’m from Ireland and I’m in uni ! I’m nerdy, heavily enjoy fantasy and grimdark settings, so massive LOTR, elder scrolls, GOT/HOTD and Warhammer fan. I play on PC (total war, arma 3, Hoi4, stellaris and many more ) and ps5 (Elden ring, battlefield) Im also big into history, specifically military history!!
I’m a pagan, and I believe in ghosts and the supernatural! Have had a few Creepy encounters
My fav food is a toastie and I love coffee n tea!
I hope to hear from someone soon and if you have read this far, no hey, hi or hellos, write a introduction!!

Content warning: discussion of people (characters) dealing with the loss of children, other family, and close friends.
Grief is clearly an important part of Tolkien's world creation--note the importance of Nienna. And Gandalf, a student of Nienna's gives us one of the most famous quotes: "I will not say, do not weep, for not all tears are evil."
And yet: grief is very rarely a positive element in the legendarium (except in the "shall be but mine instrument" sense, of course). Examples I can think of (aided by searching a digital text; feel free to suggest ones I've missed):

1. Nienna argues for Melkor's pardon
2. Feanor's grief at his father's death and the theft of the Silmarilion furthers his rebellion against the Valar
3. Finarfin and his people reject Feanor after the kinslaying
4. The Valar create the sun and the moon as a result of their grief over the marring of the trees and Feanor; Nienna's grief is unable to heal the trees, and it's unclear how much role she vs Yavanna had in growing the flower and fruit which became the sun and moon
5. Thingol shuts Doriath off against the Noldor and bans the use of Quenya in grief for the slaying of the Teleri
6. Gorlim betrays Barahir from his grief over his wife's death (Ok, really because he thought he could save her, not knowing she was dead)
7. Thingol's preemptive grief at losing Luthien to mortality leads him to send Beren on a suicide mission (this one definitely ends up well, but only despite Thingol's intentions)
8. Gwindor's impetuous charge after seeing his brother maimed is a critical point in losing the Nirnaeth Arnoediad (although Tolkien describes Gwindor as wrathful, not grieving)
9. The Dwarves of Belegost abandon the battle after the death of their king (Tolkien doesn't really mention whether them remaining could have turned the battle one way or another, so it's not clear what the consequences are)
10. Rian dies of grief on the Haudh-en-Ndengin
11. Turin nearly dies of exposure grieving the death of Finduilas
12. Turin's repeated griefs lead him to make consistently bad decisions
13. Hurin and Morwen achieve some peace by grieving their childrens' fate together
14. Hurin brings the Nauglimir to Thingol and betrays the location of Gondolin in his grief
15. Earendil and Elwing share the griefs of Belariand with the Valar and Valinorians, spurring them to act
16. Tar-Palantir is overcome by grief and is passive against his brother Gimilkhad and nephew Pharazon
17. The ents would wander the world, driven by their grief at the lost entwives
18. Amroth throws himself into the sea and dies at his grief from being seperated from Nimrodel.
19. The capture and poisoning of Celebrian leads her sons Elladan and Elrohir to a life of hunting orcs
20. Brego dies of grief after the loss of his son in the Paths of the Dead.
21. Helm Hammerhand's grief at the loss of his kingdom and son leads him to go on repeated near-suicidal missions haunting the Dunlendings; these missions lead to Helm's death and the ending of the first line of Kings of Rohan.
22. The sorrows of the lake-men lead them to turn on Thorin and Company, leading to the near-disaster before the Battle of the Fire Armies
23. Bilbo grieves the death of Thorin, Fili and Kili; this increases his desire to end his adventures
24. Theoden's grief after his sister's death leads him to take Eomer and Eowyn into his house and love them as his own children.
25. Gandalf believes hearing of the sorrows of the War of the Last Alliance would motivate Frodo. Later, Aragorn believes the tale of Beren and Luthien will inspire the hobbits explicitly because it is a sad tale
26. Gildor mentions that the elves' sorrows prevent him from providing more help or council to Frodo
27. The company grieves the apparent death of Gandalf despite the danger
28. The sorrows of the elves of Lothlorien lead them to fear and distrust the outside world.
29. Haldir highlights how grief perhaps makes the love greater
30. Legolas refuses to translate the elves' mourning songs because of his grief
31. Gimli considers abandoning the company rather than face the grief of leaving Galadriel (as Legolas points out, he doesn't)
32. Frodo's grief at Boromir's fall determines him to go to Mordor alone
33. Boromir's grief at his own betrayal prevents him from helping Aragorn to find Frodo
34. Theoden's grief at the death of Theodred at a minimum didn't help him overcome Grima's counsel, and likely depend his despair
35. Faramir's grief for his brother's death seems to improve his treatment of Frodo and Sam
36. Faramir holds out hope that he and Frodo will meet again to reminisce over by-then old griefs
37. The tale of Beren and Luthien overcoming grief provides inspiration to Sam
38. The orcs in Cirith Ungol feel no grief at Shelob's suffering
39. Sam is tempted by his grief at Frodo's apparent death to either give up the quest, kill himself, or claim the ring, then finally to continue Frodo's mission (and then, when he realizes Frodo isn't dead, to rescue him).
40. Pippin's grief at Boromir's death leads him to swear fealty to Denethor; Denethor's grief leads to his increasingly heartless treatment of Faramir, apparently leading to Faramir's fatal wound in the field. It's also implied Denethor still grieves the death of his wife and his treatment by his own father, Ecthelion. Gandalf accuses Denethor of using "your grief as a cloak," i.e. Denethor's grief is not purely an emotional response (without doubting that the grief is real)
41. Eowyn's grief at Aragorn's apparent suicide mission, and then at not being permitted to join him, probably leads to her plan to disguise herself and travel with the men
42. Sorrow for Eowyn's immanent death allows Merry to overcome his fear
43. Grief at Theoden and Eowyn's apparent deaths leads to Eomer's heedless charge
44. Denethor's now enhanced grief at the apparent death of both his sons furthers his dispair, leading to his madness and suicide (and, as Gandalf points out, probably the death of Theoden and the near-death of Eowyn, plus the doorwarden, several servants of Denethor, and doubtless others)
45. Faramir's griefs make his recovery less likely/harder
46. Aragorn can feel empathy and understanding for Eowyn as a result of his griefs. He also says that Merry's griefs "will teach him wisdom."
47. In an echo of Gwindor's charge, Pippin's grief at the Black Gate believing Frodo is dead betrays Frodo's importance
48. Sam in his grief at not being able to find Frodo, begins to sing; this leads to him finding Frodo.
49. How Eowyn bears her grief inspires Faramir's love for her
50. Arwen's grief helps her to pity the fallen kings of Numenor

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That's a long list, and it's only the ones where the grief has a clear explicit or implicit result; there is much more sorrow which Tolkien lets us observe, without a discussion of the results of the grief.
Notably, grief tends to lead to despair, failure, or evil acts. The careers of Gwindor, Turin, Tar-Palantir, and Denethor are particularly remarkable for this. Grief is often debilitating, and at best something the character has to overcome. Grief often hastens death or leaves someone unable to act to prevent their death or other harm. Alternatively, grief can lead to wrath and rash decisions.
But there are hints of the benefits of grief and sorrow, too. From my list above, see numbers 3, 13, 15, 24, 25, 29, 35, 36, 37, 40ish, 42, 46, 49, and 50 for examples of grief which leads to or causes good (reproduced below for ease of reading).

1. Finarfin and his people reject Feanor after the kinslaying
   
2. Hurin and Morwen achieve some peace by grieving their childrens' fate together
   
3. Earendil and Elwing share the griefs of Belariand with the Valar and Valinorians, spurring them to act
   
4. Theoden's grief after his sister's death leads him to take Eomer and Eowyn into his house and love them as his own children.
   
5. Gandalf believes hearing of the sorrows of the War of the Last Alliance would motivate Frodo. Later, Aragorn believes the tale of Beren and Luthien will inspire the hobbits explicitly because it is a sad tale
   
6. Haldir highlights how grief perhaps makes the love greater
   
7. Faramir's grief for his brother's death seems to improve his treatment of Frodo and Sam
   
8. Faramir holds out hope that he and Frodo will meet again to reminisce over by-then old griefs
   
9. The tale of Beren and Luthien overcoming grief provides inspiration to Sam
   

40 (part). Pippin's grief at Boromir's death leads him to swear fealty to Denethor

1. Sorrow for Eowyn's immanent death allows Merry to overcome his fear
   
2. Aragorn can feel empathy and understanding for Eowyn as a result of his griefs. He also says that Merry's griefs "will teach him wisdom."
   
3. How Eowyn bears her grief inspires Faramir's love for her
   
4. Arwen's grief helps her to pity the fallen kings of Numenor
   

From this partial list, it's clear that grief can be a good thing in one case: when it leads to empathy for others, either because it leads someone to treat another person with empathy, or because seeing and hearing of others' sufferings inspires and motivates us to overcome our own. It's interesting that the examples of positive grief tend to center around the hobbits, Faramir and Aragorn, even more than around Gandalf (or Nienna, although she's almost entirely a silent force in the legendarium). Note that the only explicit examples of Nienna's sorrow or grief are either misguided (with Melkor's pardon) or possibly ineffective (healing the two trees).
So it seems that grief in Tolkien's writings is largely a negative element which leads to despair and wrath. Only when the grief instead leads to empathy does it become a force for good. I'd love to hear your thoughts, especially if you think I'm understanding this the wrong way!

Hello, I've been researching for a few weeks but unfortunately there doesn't seem to be much consistently documented information about using headphones specifically with simulated 3D audio primarily for NON-competitive PC gaming purposes.
I've been using a set of DT-880 250's for years now that have served me well as all-rounders but they're getting a bit fragile finally and need to be replaced. I've been happy with their performance overall but if there's something I want to improve on it's soundstage and imaging quality. I find the DT-880 is a good performer at these things but the soundstage experience with HRTF and VSS is a bit too inside-the-head for my tastes. Where I'd expect to hear an open area in a game, it still sounds like I'm confined within a room instead if that makes sense. Also the rear imaging (the 5-7 position) is as strangely blank as many testimonials online have claimed.
I used to be much more into competitive FPS games when I first got them and they were fantastic but these days I am playing mostly cinematic or immersive single player games (including FPS ones) and my priorities have gone from needing to hear footsteps or action across the map to creating a more holographic, immersive experience.
So I am now looking for an upgrade on the DT-880, but something also nowhere near the price range of the HD800. Something around US$300-400 would be ideal. I live in Canada so unfortunately options aren't quite as expansive as the US market. I have an O2 ODAC+amp to drive headphones (and I am open to replacing this with a more powerful option).
I've seen people claim that once you add VSS or HRTF, it can completely change how viable some headphones are compared to how they perform with a standard stereo signal. Unfortunately I can't find much consistent documentation or comparisons with this in mind, so I've had to rely on comments from a few forums to cobble together some options. I'm hoping some users here have experience with this and can recommend a refined list with this purpose in mind.
Here's my list of options and why I've flagged them. All of this is purely assumption on my part based on what I've seen people saying, I haven't been able to try any of them IRL. By no means do I need to stick to only options on this list.

• Fidelio X2HR: I like the idea of a "fun" headphone for cinematic purposes and the soundstage is supposed to be nice, but the imaging seems to be below average. Not sure if HRTF or VSS really improve this to acceptable levels. Also pricey to find in Canada, the days of CA$150 sales seem to be long gone as they're out of production.
  
• DT 900 PRO X: Seemingly a big brother of the DT-880, which I do enjoy, but apparently with a more complete soundstage and better imaging. I'm not fussed about the dreaded Beyer highs, I've had a decade to get used to them. But I've also seen many people claim that the soundstage and imaging is still comparable to the DT-880 with some EQ.
  
• Monolith M1570: I've seen this one recommended quite highly in a number of places as excellent performers in all respects. One thing I'm worried about is size and weight, as I may use these for 60+ hours a week.
  
• Sennheiser HD560s: Highly recommended up, down, and everywhere, and I've seen mention that HRTF and VSS can really work wonders with these.
  
• AKG 712 PRO: For as much as I see the HD800 constantly referred to, this seems like the closest one can get to a budget version of it when it comes to soundstage. I worry about the apparently lighter bass, and the pricing in Canada is even worse than it is in the US, including importing from Thomann.
  
• Hifiman Edition XS or Ananda: I know these aren't really the same tier but it seems for gaming purposes they might just be. The XS apparently has punchier bass while the Ananda seems to be more detailed while providing a significantly wider soundstage. I think they both have the same imaging performance?
  

I appreciate any help with narrowing down or adjusting my options if VSS/HRTF makes a significant difference with how these headphones perform.
EDIT: Something I should add are games I want to play with a better audio experience. Open world games like Witcher 3, Elden Ring, and various Ubisoft titles of course, but then I'd also like something that can handle fast, audio-dense games like Doom Eternal where a metal track is blasting while there are important audio directional queues coming from everywhere. It's important to me that clarity is not sacrificed too much when things get crowded.

Hi. I'm planning on helping my SO with her first pc by giving her some older part I got for cheap including a Ryzen 3600, 2x8 corsair Vengeance 3200 or 3600, and everything else for a PC but a GPU. She likes to play open world games and would have a 1080p 144hz monitor. Hoping to get some games like Elden Ring, Tears of the Kingdom (emulated), Horizon Zero Dawn, Assassin's Creeds, and the upcoming Elder Scrolls as close to 144fps on this build as possible, medium settings is alright. Our budget is about $250, maybe up to around $300 if worth it. Is this goal reasonably attainable with the current parts and budget? If so, what GPU should I look into to finish the build? I've heard mixed opinions about the a750, and then always confused on amd vs nvidia cards.

hi all! i’m rose, i’m 21, and from texas. i recently graduated with my bachelors degree, and had some other major life changes happen. i can’t say exactly what i’m looking for, but i know i’m looking to talk and see where it leads. i love video games, been hooked on elden ring since it came out, cold war zombies is a favorite, but i tend to play cozy/casual games when first getting to know someone as i think it makes it easier to focus on getting to know eachother. i love cooking & nutrition, i would argue i am an excellent cook and i’m sure anyone who has eaten my food will back me up! i spend a fair amount of time in the gym, or doing yoga at home, i think taking care of our bodies is very important. i am an avid reader and will undoubtedly hit you with a “sorry i was reading!!” at some point. i have close to 1,000 books in my room alone, and close to 5,000 in storage. i am an artist, i currently do tattoo designs, though i’ve yet to pursue the actual tattoo apprenticeship part of the process. i also do all of the marketing for a small business i co-own. physical descriptors: i’m 5’7”, 112lbs, i have 8 smallish tattoos, and a few cartilage piercings, i’m body-mod friendly. i would love to find someone to chat with for a while, then if we click, i’m always down to voice chat & play some games! feel free to message me but don’t be boring, put a little effort in!